I was in a LDR for about 2 years until we broke up recently, only two or three months before he was arranging his things to move to my city.
It started slowly. He started by getting mad at me posting pictures on social media. Then, he made me unfollow any male he didn't like from my followings list. He even felt insecure about my past pictures (even with a completely covered dress) and made me erase then. Summer arrived and my clothes were an issue, he said he would let me wear skirts or shorts but no belly showing. I couldn't even go to my master's degree graduation or give a piece of artwork (I paint) to a client with my own hand because he freaked out. I complied just to make him feel safe. However, it made me resent him a lot and made me also pressure him into giving up things he didn't want me doing. He didn't let me go to the gym, so I pressured him into not going either, he didn't let me go public, so I pressured him into stopping his streams. I know that the position I took was also wrong, but I started getting fed up and wanted him to experience exactly the same things he was making me experience. He was also very paranoid. He constantly thought I was cheating on him and stuff and accuse me out of nowhere.
One day I snapped. By the end of our relationship I tried to break up with him several times. Each time, he would hit his own face and leave bruises on his face. Until one day I definitely broke up. After the breakup, he blamed me for not having loved him enough and endured enough. However, he literally wasn't able to be with me if he had to lose his control over me.
After a while, he called me saying he regretted how he treated me, he said he didn't value all the sacrifices I had made for him and he kept pushing and demanding. He said he understood why my spite and resentment grew against him. He said he needed to work on his issues before we could ever be together again.
He always claimed he deeply loved me. Should I wait for him or move on?
