Is he authoritative or caring?

[Gloree]

Situation: Girlfriend is away for a week on a job.

Here is the conversation after a tiring day for girlfriend and she is back at the hotel she's lodging with her colleagues.

Guy: How was your day?

Girl:Exhausting. I'm lying on the bed already.

Guy: Sorry about that. Rest okay? I'll give you a treat when you're back.

Girl: Yay. I can't wait.

Guy:Love u. Sweet dreams.

Girl:Love u. Oh my God, I hear music from the bar. My colleagues are sitting out. I hear their voices.

Guy:So?

Girl: I'll join them for a few minutes before bed.

Guy:That's a great idea babe, except I'll be calling you soon.

Girl:I'm not going with my phone.

Guy:I advice you do. Because you need to rest. So I will be calling in about five minutes And when I do, I want to hear that you're on your bed, ready to fall sleep. Are we clear?"

Girl: But...

Guy ends call. Girl ends up not stepping out and rests.

Ladies, how would you react if it was you?

Guys and girls, is he caring or authoritative?

Updates

1 y

I meant "controlling" not authoritative. Sorry for misuse of term

Updates

1 y

Made a poll to see voting results

[Anonymous]

Bars are for single people. You go out to bars without your partner, you are living a single persons lifestyle. How many times have we heard were cheating happens? Literally all the time, and you are disrespecting your partner by making them worry. Whenever alcohol and girls are involved, there’s bound to be problems. He’s rightfully not happy. Only way you can understand is if he goes out to bars with the boys himself. See how it feels. Some people have to learn the hard way the boundaries of a relationship that shouldn’t be taken. If you are in a committed relationship with a person, don’t go to clubs or bars or parties with lots of drinking and single people. Just out of respect for your partner. Been there, done that. Had a girlfriend go out to a bar, got wasted and the guy she was talking to almost took her home. Plenty of other times going out drinking ended up with ambulance called. It’s just stupid.

[Bmories99]

I am going to go with caring. Yes he used an authoritative tone but it sounds like he had your best interest at heart.

[SecretsofKB]

Yeah, that sounds controlling to me. He made it so she really didn't have an option other than to go to bed. That's controlling.

[RandomGuy1030]

Maybe u should step back and consider how every female u know is a hoe. 🤷‍♂️

[SecretsofKB]

@RandomGuy1030 you sound like a peach

[RandomGuy1030]

Consider that being controlling is necessary

[HSalenko]

What do you mean by "authoritative?" That word usually means speaking with expertise or confidence in knowledge on a certain topic.

[Gloree]

I meant controlling

[jennyjenjen98]

He's both caring and controlling. I would have joined my colleagues

[exitseven]

he is insecure and does not trust his girlfriend.

[msc545]

He is worried.

[Gloree]

Yeah. I feel the same way

[msc545]

He is worried that when you go out drinking you will wind up with another guy.

[Gloree]

Gosh

[Avicenna]

Caring

[Gloree]

Felt thesame way

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Trust your gut

[Gloree]

My gut says caring.

[Xtendable]

He’s controlling

[Xtendable]

Saw the update. I have a feeling he didn’t want you socialising without him there