How can I erase someone from my memory for good?

[Anonymous]

Someone you had a bad experience (s) with etc..

[ObscuredBeyond]

Not gonna happen. The best you can do, is make them irrelevant to your life.

I'm remaking an old comic that I once made for a crush, that had her in some of the panels in the background. Nothing inappropriate, but she decided to be an absolute bitch that I would have the gall to put her in it. It got ugly. I was insulted and threatened!

The comic was mostly about trying to escape depression, and was set up as an imitation of a music video. Panels that didn't show her running from some invisible enemy, or myself trying to escape some poorly-defined ill fortune on the horizon, or just her and me eating ice cream in peace, were shots of a fictional rock band performing their instruments to a song modeled after Nickelback's typical mid-2000s sound.

She hated the work so much, I couldn't bear to rerelease it in its original 2005 format, for fear she'd discover it and use it to come after me.

All that work and vision, wasted because the thot was ungrateful!

So I'm remaking it with updated software, and the band is reproduced as well. But the background story is some Indian couple fleeing a meteor shower that's destroying their hometown.

I developed an entire mythology around the world this new background story is set in, built the whole world of that story, etc., just so I could release a remake of my old project, and ensure that old bitch no longer has any leverage on me.

If she tries to threaten me to take down the new work, or else, I can laugh and tell her: "You're not in it! It literally doesn't concern you anymore!"

The Indian couple isn't just fleeing a natural disaster, but also persecution due to their political and religious beliefs. So instead of a story about entering a relationship as a way to escape depression, it's about a relationship already established surviving in a cruel world out to make survival nearly impossible. A much more impactful message, that contains information relevant to real world problems happening on a much larger scale.

Meaning, if she attacks the story and its message now, she's throwing an entire class of oppressed minorities in another country under the bus, just to spite me! For a work that no longer involves her in any way!

Worse, she'd have to identify and expose herself just to do so, and everyone else would see her the way I see her today! Checkmate, bitch!

Though, I'm hoping she isn't that dumb or petty, ready to shut me down over a Christmas present she didn't like from 2005. But it never hurts when reviving your work to have insurance policies in place.

THAT is how you make lemonade from lemons! Don't wish to erase your memory, because a backstabbing enemy will still be there, and will exploit your newfound naivety.

Rather, consign them to irrelevance, so it will be impossible for them to still plot against you without bringing condemnation on themselves!

[rtj1211]

The easiest way is to ensure that you are not in any situations that trigger that memory.

If that is a locale, then move away. Even move abroad if necessary. I eliminate unhappiness very very quickly by simply moving abroad for a few months. You start something completely new, leaving your old life behind and you can be in complete control.

If it is a person, then once again, you may need to cut off communication channels for them. Change email and don't give them your new address. Ditto mobile phone. Move address.

It all depends on the nature of the memory and how bad it was. Being dumped by a teenage boy/girlfriend may seem terrible at the time, but it's minor compared to erasing childhood abuse, being raped, being violently assaulted.

Some memories can be erased or deadened through practical actions. I was in a mountaineering club where a young idiot overturned a 15 seater minibus filled with rucsacs and climbing gear, rolling it onto its roof at 45mph and using the metallic roof as the sole mechanism of braking on the wrong side of the road. None of us were harmed, but I took the precaution of not sitting in cars or vans with other young men driving for about 4 years. I did all the driving instead. Young men accelerating toward sharp bends, then slamming the brakes on didn't do my confidence as a back seat passenger any good...

[annabananna]

A lebotomy may do it but I think those are illegal and I wouldn’t advise it. You’ll have to heal from it and time heals wombs. Go hang out with some friends or go do an activity around your town. Something light good and happy.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You can't. And if you could I wouldn't recommend it because it can teach us something valuable for the future. Learning from it is the best way to move forward.

[OlderAndWiser]

You can't, you don't need to, and you shouldn't. We have bad experiences to teach us important lessons; you want to learn those lessons and never forget them. Someone can fade into your past without you forgetting them and you can move forward even though you remember a partner from the past. I am 67 years old and still vividly remember the girl from high school who I thought was perfect!

[Thatnyguy87]

Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind... Watch it. Learn from it.

[exitseven]

There was a movie about that. I thought it would be cool to be able to do it but now I think I would live with my pain.

Please Don't forsake me oh my darliing.

[bean2k21]

[midnightmoon05]

They sell this potion works great lol jk

Time and new experiences.

[Celeborn]

Experiences are precious for us. Even bad experiences too. They can more stronger us than before. Don't erase your experiences. Just lesson them

[josephinelcajon]

Ask the CIA they have perfected it!

[Sunflower19]

Ooooof when you find out, let me know. ✌🏻

[TrillXHippy]

You can’t Men In Black

[darline19]

you can't erase..

[d3n0939]

You can't but you can stop those thoughts bothering you by not even trying to forget them. Trying to forget is remembering too. And the best way to forget is having someone new that takes all of your thoughts and focus towards him her.

[darline19]

@d3n0939 exactly!