Can you erase a person permanently from your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

What are ways to get over a past relationship? Do you think if someone was once in your life for a good period of time they can forget you?

[Anonymous]

Probably not. But you can reduce thier impact on your life down to a mere footnote (which is in reality probably the truth anyhow. We have a tendency to blow things up bigger than they are when feelings are involved). Think of persons faults. I GUARANTEE you he/she had them. Play them in your mind on an endless loop. This is a matter of re-training your brain. When you meet someone for the first 3 months up to 3 years (possibly more). You're NOT in love many people think they are. It's just something called "limmerance". Human beings need this to start the bonding process. By the time it wears off people are deeply bonded with what we refer to as love. If not,... well that's why relationships don't last. During this stage of limmerance your brain is LYING to you. It's telling you you have deeper feelings for this person than you logically should. This why it hurts if this person dumps you. So what I'm trying to say is your brain is lying to you with hormones dopamine and norepinephrine. So you have to lie back to your brain and tell it all these bad things about this person. It's not easy. But it will snap you out of it eventually. Also if it's possible try to remove this person from your life. Have NO CONTACT whatsoever with them if it's possible. Because it'll prevent "what if" scenarios in your mind.

[OlderAndWiser]

Who should you forget or erase a significant person from your past? If it was a good relationship, remember it fondly even though you have moved forward in life. If it was a bad relationship, learn your lessons and remember them so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes.


You don’t need to forget someone to move forward with your life. I still remember the cute girl who had my attention when I was 16 years old.

[Genie23]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You can't erase but if you keep yourself busy and whenever you get reminded of him/her, you can just tell yourself why being with that person was not good for you. Time is the biggest medicine. It will slowly numb your pain and the more you keep yourself busy the less and less that person will come into your mind and then will come a time when you won't get reminded of him/her for years. You won't even feel nothing whenever you get reminded. So, stay strong and try to focus on other things.

[Rosexøxø]

You really have to be busy, and value a plethora of different things. Entering a new phase of life- a new chapter makes that question more of a reality- 100%.

I just pulled on to the memories of some old people back then, and If I hadn't read this question and tried, I wouldn't have remembered them. (They were so far back in my subconscious, if I had not recalled them- maybe in a year or two years' time, I would have forgotten.

[Leapfrog00]

A person will never forget others in their life, no matter how important they were. Even if you've only known someone for 1 minute, your mind stores every memory. When we come into someone's life, we dance around in their mind, fill their heart with our love, and even if they say they aren't grateful for having someone so special, they still are, and they will never forget what kind of person you were to them.

Kindheartedness leaves an imprint on someone's heart. That love never dies, it just dims. Eventually, we find ourselves too heartbroken to re-light the fire in our own hearts. I've grown colder myself these past few months, but I used to offer more affection. Our memories are all we ever have.

[TheThingALing]

I got to the point where I wanted to put my hands around her neck and shake her back and forth. Left and after about a week, I thought about the bad stuff she did and rather than affect my mood, I just told myself, I love her and hope she ends up well months/years from now. Did this for a couple days and didn't mind myself getting all negative, when she momentarily came up in my mind.

[SnowedIn]

You cannot erase someone from your thoughts. As for forget? No, you can't do that either. You can go days or weeks without thinking of them, but then the thoughts will come roaring back and assault you. Forgetting is impossible.

[Asker]

@snowedin what about someone who has ghosted you?

[SnowedIn]

I believe the same. Just because you can't contact each other any more doesn't mean that we forget them or they forget us.

It's heart shattering -- I understand... I recently had it done. We just have to take each day one by one.

But forget is not an option.

[kakaling]

She was my childhood sweetheart, love in 1st sight, 1st love, lost love. We have feelings for each other for years, both of us knew it. She was really popular and always stay single. She was brave, but I was dumb kid that don't read (I hated reading, I never had bedtime stories as a kid) and learn about social and relationship and too proud to seek help from others. I do not understand myself, I did too little and not brave enough to take the leap. I will have these regrets for the rest of my life.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life the only way to move is forward & if you want to move forward take it one day at a time & overtime you will slowly stop thinking of that person if you are thinking of other things. On the flip side from time to time that person will pop in your head & when they do hopefully that memory is followed by a smile & after you smile go about your day & move forward once again.

[DancingQueen16]

I tried my best to erase my old best friend from my memory because she stopped talking to me once we started 6th grade and in the past 8 years she's only spoken to me like 3 times

[Screenwriter]

That would be according to how the relationship went. If it ended badly, forgetting is a healing tonic. You might think about them here and there if you were together for years, but if they were a wash, there are so many better things to remember.

[TheMadLad]

Alt+delete

If it didn’t work, your brain probably got hacked by a beautiful woman.

[MementoMori777]

No if only it worked like that I'm sure the world would be a better place 😂

[Biancam13]

No, I personally can’t. I move on after while depending on how much they meant to me and what happened that caused the separation. But I never forget them.

[Yannishka]

Apart from dying or growing old and forgetful, you can't. But you can find something better that makes you forget about the ex.

[Fireguy17]

No, you can not dwell on them and over time memories fade, but every once in a while something will trigger a memory.

[JustMeL120]

Yes after a few years. Depends how full their life is

[itsalyssaagain]

You will once you accept what happened and time heals your wounds.

[najekim]

Nope. You'll never forget them. But they will become dimmer as time moves on until you think about them again.

[aquamarine321]

No, anyone that you have been with well always be apart of you

[art84]

You can never forget past relationships as you will always have those memories forever

[gag37627]

When you are with another person that you like you will stop trying to forget your past

[helva]

Impossible for me.

[strateguy632]

i can't erase my exes fun or annoying

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone can ever do that.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

E. S T.

[LavLavLuv]

No tbh

[Jamie05rhs]

Probably not.

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[BLP11520]

No you can’t

[juatadude]

yup...

[Jmmmfi4]

I wish