Do you believe in soul mates?

[goodgirlsteven]

who of you have found your soul mate? It came up while watching the movie The Notebook.

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It still too soon to tell but I hope I found him!

[AssholeNumberOne]

No, man.

The first time I was in love, I could have had a perfect relationship with this guy. He liked me back and all, perfect one year age difference, he was a good person, everything. I thought I was going to marry him. I thought this was it.

But, later I decided that he wasn't my type.

I realized there is no one true love, because you can fall in love many times throughout your life. Which I do.

So no, I do not believe in romantic soulmates.

Platonic soulmates are another matter. You can, in fact, have the perfect best friend. And the best part is that you can have more than one.

[MoniqueTLC]

100%. You can have a soulmate in a friend, romantic partner.

This article can shed some further light on 'soulmates'

https://www.theloveconsultants.com/can-you-really-meet-your-soulmate/

[dynamicyandere]

Thanks for sharing the article! In my life I’ve met only 2 and am dating 1 of them. ☺️

[MoniqueTLC]

@dynamicyandere Amazing! I'd love to know how you met :)

[dynamicyandere]

@MoniqueTLC I met both of them online actually. I met my girlfriend in 2018 on an MMO and we’ve been going strong ever since. 😊

As for the other person, I met them on g@g believe it or not. 😂

But yeah. For both, it’s like from the very first conversation we had, we felt a deep connection, as if we’ve known each other for years. Or that we’ve had a lifelong friendship in another life before.

It’s one thing to click and it’s another to enter an entirely different league of chemistry.

I’ve only experienced this with 2 people ever in my life.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Souls don't exist, so no.


People have x number of people on earth that they are compatible with enough to marry, for each person the number is typically very small in comparison to the rest of the population, sometimes extremely small, but it would be very unlikely to be just one other person, and if it were, the odds of them being in the same country would be very small as well.


I would stick with a perfect match monogamously, but I'm not going to pretend only one person on earth qualifies to take that seat.

[Zolly99999]

Because I haven't found one I'm not sure I believe in it..

[goodgirlsteven]

you will handsome!

[Zolly99999]

@goodgirlsteven I hope so

[nightdrot]

Honestly, my rational and logical answer is "no." There are degrees of compatibility, some closer than others, but something as elemental as is implied by the term "soul mate." Nope. Human nature is not made that way.

Yet, I wake up in the morning and next to me is this beautiful woman who loves me with a love that I did not earn. Who is more beautiful to me than words can express. Who cares for our children with a devotion and compassion that takes my breath away.

How can I say it? In my best moments she is there for me. None more supportive and more loving. I just want to hold her and protect her and care for her and nothing else matters to me.

Yet, when I went through a very bad time in my life, she was there for me. She held me and cared for me. When I cried, not only did she not mock me, she wiped away my tears and told me that she loved me. She made me feel safe and the warm feeling of being in her arms steadied me and made me feel loved when I did not think I could be loved.

When we have sex - eeek! Yes, I use that word when discussing a "soul mate" - it is raw and elemental, almost animal. It is our most basic instincts. I am the dominant male and she the submissive female. She is giving me her naked body for my use - and her naked body feels so good against mine - and I feel myself inside her and it makes me know that I am a man. Yet the funny part in all that it is like the whole universe shrinks down to just the two of us and nothing and no one else matters. We are giving ourselves to each other unconditionally and it is pure love, purely expressed.

Then there was the three times she was pregnant. Carrying, as hard as I am sure as it was, a piece of me, the product of my sperm, with total love and without complaint. She gave me three of the most beautiful little gifts that a woman can give to a man and I have never known such unconditional love.

Seeing her naked pregnant body there was nothing to me more beautiful. I always thought she was beautiful but then there was just something more. Then I saw her in labor and I never felt so helpless. She was in pain and suffering for me, and I could not help. Yet, when I looked at her she smiled and mouthed the words "I love you."

Funny part is, we don't want to be married, We just find all the noise and bombast around a wedding to be so off putting and so artificial and yet I cannot imagine - and this after a number of relationships of varying degrees in my earlier years - being with anyone else in my life. She has given herself to me and we share three beautiful little children and I have never known such happiness.

Also, when I learned that I was the father of a young man whose mom I had gotten pregnant in a one night stand years ago, my soul mate did not get angry. Rather, she was supportive and has treated my son with as much love as she has shown our children.

CONT.

[nightdrot]

Of course we have, like all couples do, our ups and our downs. When I get on my high horse - as I sometimes do as, hey, I work in politics - she does not yell or scream. She merely rolls her eyes, smiles at me and kisses me on the cheek. She never says a harsh word about me.

At the end of the day, sappy as all this sounds, I cannot imagine my life without her. Do I believe in "soul mates?" Yup. Because I wake up next to mine every morning - and on those mornings when work or whatever separates us I cannot help but feel a little lost and alone. I love her and I believe in soul mates because I have one at my side every day. Again, sappy as it sounds, my life would be so empty without her and the three little gifts she has given me.

[Circlesgames]

There is no such thing as soul mate, it is healthy to know now and kill all high hopes or expectations.

A soul mate is simply someone u love and matches with little or most of you, once u have found love, u will be able to work on your compatibility and become more soul mate like, soul mate also deals with building and growing with someone, from time to time u start working like a program, he knows u and she knows u... Everything is a process its only in movies u see that sudden blending and forever love no fights.

The love each other all of a sudden does happen but the all of a sudden your both perfect for each other doesn't happen over night tho. U need to talk, fight mix to get your soul mate.

[LazerBean]

I don't believe in soul mates, but I believe that everyone has someone (or two or three) who is the closest match possible for them.

[goodgirlsteven]

Thats kinda of a soul mate, closest possible match

[Redstang88]

I wouldn’t say I believe in the soulmate thing, but I definitely do believe that we have a very, very limited few people we will come across in our lives that are just a whole other level of connection

[goodgirlsteven]

fair answer thank you!

[JustAnj]

Yes, I see things a lot people would freak about, I'm used to it.

My husband has experienced it first hand.

It's honestly strange, annoying, and awesome.

I do believe he is my soulmate.

I'm his Venus to his Mars.

Infinitely bonded.

[JaxiCats]

How do you know that?

[JustAnj]

I've seen a lot of my future, which sometimes I find to be like a puzzle because it's always random. Over the years I have just learned to live and ignore, I'd tell my husband what was going to happen and he would be shocked when it came to be.

I honestly find it to be a bit useless since it only seems to be about when I am there to see it.

It's like I am looking through my own eyes and see what will happen in my life. I hate that it's never clear I just try to remind myself to remember so I can be aware.

I told my husband before we were married the 1st month we were together that he was the guy I would have a child with a child who seemed unable to speak well like she was older but spoke like a toddler. My first turned out to be autistic, I kept some things to myself because I'm skeptical too so I thought perhaps I'm delusional.

Later come to know when we would have problems what happened after an argument where I would work, my husbands choices and what choices would be made.

I even told my husband about a girl I saw on TV in my dream a girl who would become famous. When I saw her I remember I told him she's gonna be famous watch he then looks at me like I'm crazy I don't expect any less lol Later we find out yes that girl was Katy Perry.

I have them on and off. I kinda wish sometimes I'd have dreams of more serious things. 🤷 Maybe could have helped someone.

[JaxiCats]

See for me I’ll have dreams about stuff that’s going to happen in a month or two (it’s not frequent but then I’ll get hit with deja vu everytime and then I’ll have dreams about me being pregnant, getting engaged/married or something (it’s been really recently involving my boyfriend) we’ve been talking about stuff like that recently, it’s not something we’re ready for yet but part of my gut feeling says it’ll be fine if we do but at the same time I want to be at a certain point in my relationship with him and stuff first. I don't know if it’s just baby fever but this is a first for me.

[JustAnj]

@JaxiCats

If it looked good in your dream and you've had stuff like this happen frequently is possible things will work themselves out.

I feel like it's our human intuition that speaks to us in our dreams.

My dreams did were always random most were years before they happened for real.

I had a vision of marrying my husband when I 13, I also had a vision of my daughter around that time.

My husband now looks exactly like both of my dreams.

We got together when I was 15 him 16. It's honestly intriguing.

I totally appreciate your comment makes me feel less of alone.

Has your boyfriend given you hints about a ring?

[JaxiCats]

No he hasn’t besides a promise ring at one point. I joked to him that when he starts working I have a feeling he will get an engagement ring and stuff. He said who knows but the thing is he’s very transparent when it comes to secrets and surprises like I can tell and so if he was it would be obvious to me but then again I don’t know. There’s a lot that’s been going on in both our lives so I doubt anything will happen anytime soon.

[TonyV]

No not really, also doubt you'd find them wherever they are on the globe, I also would geuss most people have meet their soul mate, the person best for them, and have already rejected them for some shallow reason, hell some people are even in denial about what is really best for them.

Soooo yeah I doubt most people will find their one and only soul mate.

[bubblegunnn]

Yes i believe it. ALSO notebook is very good romance movie

[Shy_Steve]

I definitely believe in Soulmates, But they are just so hard to find.

[goodgirlsteven]

yup!

[Aerolyn]

I never have and I doubt that I ever will.

I don't think we humans are special enough to have a fateful significant other that's especially made for us and only us, it sounds like some fairy tale shit that's too good for reality.

[Nikki1989]

Yes I do. I feel very lucky because I think I have two of them.

[Rose89]

I want too. But I feel like I’m cursed as I get heart broken by guys I feel like I get a good connection with. Maybe one day I will actually find “the one”

[ALPHABLACK]

I think you are unimaginably horribly miserably hilariously wrong about that very concept coz in the real world there are just temp connections and they are always based on mutual benefits

[Rockstarrrrr]

Yeah... I think there's even multiple people that can be your soulmate... But it's not guaranteed that you will meet them...

[menina]

No, I don't. People are not perfect and if soulmates were real there wouldn't be people who would get married and over and over.

[vduong1988]

yes, I believe soulmate with my best friend I know him for 9 years he in love with me I’m in love with him too we are together, his girlfriend break up with him cause his depression and she yelled at him.

[AviatorTom]

Nope. I believe that there are several people that each of us can have a good, happy and productive life with, not a specific soulmate.

[JDavid25]

No, I believe you find somebody you get along well with, have good chemistry & connection and are attracted to, and you make it work..

[Jennz6]

No, maybe for some people but not sure if about me

[Guardian45]

Don't give up.

[Jennz6]

@Guardian45 should I keep looking lol

[Guardian45]

Yes, ofc!

[AimeeKyle]

Yes. I do think they exist and sometimes come around when you least expect it….

[CountryWanderer]

In the sense that there are people out there who would be an excellent match for living with together for the rest of your lives, yes