If you are in a relationship, do you give your 100%or prefer 80/20rule?

[Chrysantenum95]

80/20 rule an idea that one person cannot meet 100 per cent of your needs all the time. Remaining 20 per cent – away from your partner and take more self-fulfilling activities and individuality.

100% is unrealistic for me but one friend told me she do gave her all for her lover, whatever her lover wants she would do it and whatever the lover hates she wouldn't do it.

[Guy13]

Hey now... hope you lunch is good !! I'm not quick to get there as there are hurdles but I am all-in. And thank God because if you cheat on me etc... it is much easier to vacate the relationship knowing I love hard but when I am done I exit in the same manner. That make sense?

[Chrysantenum95]

Yes, make sense

[Adam1978]

100% sounds like a lot of work, I want a relaxed relationship I don't expect either of us to have to do 100% unless we are in a crisis.

[Chrysantenum95]

Yes, it really does

[fonduegirl]

Obviously 80/20. One should always make time for yourself, 20 percent is necessary.

[Chrysantenum95]

"me" time is necessary

[FilmGuy93]

I don't really understand 80/20's application in this situation. I don't give 100% of myself to relationships, but that's because I don't expect 100% from my partners.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I give 100% I honestly don't know any other way to be

[Chrysantenum95]

100% do exist for others

[Bklynbadboy12]

I hope so

[Hanrej]

I could sign on 20/80 rule. 20% for my partner, the rest in myself. Ofcourse I expect nothing in returen as per usual in a relationship.

[Danny_dan92]

Both people give the same effort

[Chrysantenum95]

Given that both of u giving the same and its less 100, who would fill up the remaining in both of u?

[Danny_dan92]

Umm… why does it have to be a percentage tho… like that doesn’t make any sense

[Chrysantenum95]

True.. Effort can't be measure by numbers👍

[Danny_dan92]

It’s measured by actions

[Chrysantenum95]

U got that right. 😊

[Danny_dan92]

Uh huh

[Andres77]

100/100 rule

[Andres77]

Cooperative, not competitive.
Sounds like ur friend’s boyfriend was a selfish jerk:

[Chrysantenum95]

I really dont have info about the guy. Its more of my friend's perspective of love, time and effort. She gives her all to her lover. Just the other day, she looks very tired and exhausted from work and next thing i know she getting ready for a date becoz the guy ask for it. I guess he's her happy pill.

[Anonymous]

The 50-50 rule is more ideal.