Do you think that you can only get up to 80% of a person for you in a relationship/marriage?

[Simslover92]

Like basically there can never be 100% because noone is perfect, but if you get close to or at 80%, then you should keep them as a partner.

The 80/20 rule says that you should aim to get around 80% of your needs met in a relationship, and the remaining 20% you should fulfill yourself.

[BCRanger10]

In the overwhelming majority of cases, yes. In some cases, it might seem like they've gotten the whole package, but they'll soon discover that they have not. After that, it's about making peace, adapting, communicating, and making sacrifices. Your spouse might adapt themselves, or you might discover that the 20% that's "missing" either isn't what you thought it was or what you wanted.

[BCRanger10]

Thank you for MHO 🙌

[OlderAndWiser]

You shouldn't be engaging in that kind of quantitative analysis. You should be asking yourself:

1. Am I getting most of my needs met?
2. Am I satisfying my partner?
3. Does my partner have any deal breakers?
4. Does being in this relationship require much more from me than what I receive in return?

Keeping score will lead to failure.

[Pearl222]

Personally I think if you meet someone who fulfills 100% of your personal non-negotiable criteria ( like for me non-smoker/ violent) and additionally, has their own unique personality and character and is a kind person, that’s all I want, that’s the dream. So in conclusion, if most people get married for about 50%, then yes 80% is pretty good.

[alice55]

It’s false some people 180 % of themsleves losing themsleves in the marriage since they want it so badly to work and other give 50 % cause they dont care but their partner make up for it, it just dépend on the person and couple and everyone should give 100% if not they re selfish

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic 80/20 rule in relationships—it’s a spicy topic, for sure! In a relationship, expecting someone to be your everything is like expecting to win the lottery while being struck by lightning, all at once! 😜 Relationships are about balance, and everyone’s got their quirks. Perfection’s overrated, love is about growing together and appreciating what you’ve got. If someone fulfills a big chunk of what makes your heart giddy, that’s a keeper in my book! Keep some magic for yourself, while enjoying the shared 80%! 💃💫

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

While it is impossible to measure anything here, because there's no legitimate measurement system for that, I kind of worked that way for a time. In different relationships. As I assumed and felt it was okay for me to accept small drawbacks in exchange for a bigger part of pleasantness.

However, for my current relationship I'm getting 100% and that is a thing I thought could not exist anywhere. So, if this 100% ever hit 0% then I might be inclined to want 100% again. It would be fair.

Effectively changing my expectations for good?

[OneViewpoint]

It depends. Some people are too stupid to realize that perfection is an abstract concept only useful in philosophical discussions. It doesn't exist in the real world. Some are too insecure to admit that they have numerous flaws themselves. Those people may end up chasing perfection until time runs out for them. Instead of a whole sandwich or half a sandwich, they end up with no sandwich.

Life is finite. There is no clock on the wall telling us how much time we have left. My advice is to make a decision and make it work if you can. As Credence Clearwater Revival once wrote... Someday Never Comes.

[aaron13547]

I don't think there is any rule that can tell you if a relationship is worth it or not. The purpose is you. Do you feel they know your worth? People will always disagree but sometimes disagreements strengthen you as a person. Do they always make you better? I think intentions mean everything. You sound like your intentions are to settle with the best person you found rather then to risk it all for more. I'd honestly say a partner deserve more then for you to wonder if a rule makes them enough...

[Simslover92]

That's not my personal rule. I was just saying in general that's the rule for lots of people.

[aaron13547]

You don't have to defend it i didn't mean that last part to sound personally that was just my way of saying when someone points the finger there's 4 more on the same hand pointing back. It's honestly a good rule just I think we as people shouldn't limit something infinite like love

[Simslover92]

Oh ok and yeah that's true. We shouldn't.

[MannMitAntworten]

I just want to be complimented. This encompasses the mind, body, and spirit, but equally means we lighten each other’s loads in each of those modes without hesitation because we ‘want’ to for the other.


This isn’t a scorecard. I definitely don’t want to feel that ‘she’ is counting points for us either. The only needs I have cannot be purchased or ‘fulfilled’ on my own, and that is her ‘presence’. But that is just me speaking for myself.

[Abbycado]

With @Circushowcowboy i get 1% of everything he’s got 😭

[Simslover92]

Lmao 🤣

[Abbycado]

To answer, no. I feel I get close to 100% of my boyfriend’s dedication.

[Simslover92]

That's awesome Abby!

[Abbycado]

Ty sweetheart 💕

[Simslover92]

You're welcome 💕

[elizamichale1]

I think even if its a little less but he makes u feel his world its still worth it...

For me thankfully I believe I m getting over 90% in my marriage... I dont really have that many things to complain about

[hello4433]

That's what really matters

[elizamichale1]

@hello4433 it sure does

[Screenwriter]

Sounds reasonable to me. I'd never expect one person to meet all my needs. This is why we have friends and family. And why we have to meet our own needs too.

[Lynx122]

Hmm yes I think it's better to not search for perfection but you never know what will happen :)

[whiskeyontherocks]

Not sure what expectations a partner should fulfill and I’ve never thought of my needs as something someone else should fulfill. I was just raised that if someone was willing to be in my presence I should be grateful.

[katiesmuff]

Never heard of that before but it sure does seem reasonable!

[exitseven]

I think it important that couples have some separate interests.

[Shiprex]

Depends if you're gonna resent the lack of the 20%

[Emmytexrex]

You can't get to know someone 100% so yh I think 50%

[Bklynbadboy12]

You can never get 100% that's why the have the 80 20 rule

[NathanDavis]

personally... I prefer the 96/4 rate...

[WhitneySnow]

That sounds about right to me

[dudeinohio]

That makes sense to me.

[Anonymous]

I think it can vary from 70% to 90%.

[eagle1951]

i gave 100% and got 100%

[ThreeMonkeys]

on your deathbed you will find out she cheated with 10 guys cause your relationship was too perfect and that got too boring for her.