Ladies, how do you comfort your man when he’s having a rough day? Guys, how you want to be comforted when you’re feeling down?

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chocomilk99 · Accepted Answer

I wid like to be comforted by  pinay_ako way 😅 (What ever her ways are. I dont mind)

rohitbiruli008 · Accepted Answer

Food and sex

MzAsh · Answer

I’ll let him let out the steam and sometimes I join in on venting with him. Then I’d either suggest we get something to eat to hop in the pool or hot tub which is soothing.

ShineBeauTAEfully · Answer

I don't have a man 🥲, but when my best friend is having a rough day, I will not rest until I have calmed him down or cheered him up.

When he is stressed, I give him a massage, make him some hot cocoa, rest his head in my lap while I play with his hair, sing him to sleep, cuddle him, listen to him if he needs to rant, play darts with him, run with him, beat the punching bag with him, pop bubble wrap with him, gently play with his ear or fingers, and do whatever else I think will calm him down.

When he is upset, I challenge him to something. he is extremely competitive and loves a good challenge, so less than halfway through our competition he will have forgotten whatever made his sad due to how focused he is on beating me. I usually challenge him to mortal combat, LoL, GTA, CoD, Overwatch, Just Dance, or Mario Kart. We even do stupid competitions like how long we can hold our breath for or how long we can stand on one leg. I also buy him ice cream, cook or bake for him, poke or tickle him, joke around with him, poke fun at our other friends, purposely drop or trip on something so he can make fun of how clumsy I am, and put on high energy songs for us to sing and dance to. Sometimes I start a water gun fight by squirting him in the face. These methods usually work, but if he is really sad, then I just hug, hold, and cuddle him. I listen to all of his problems, give words of encouragement, and give him advice if he wants it. We have a deep conversation and try to get to the root of why he is feeling what he is feeling. I tell him everything will be okay, and I make sure everything will be okay.

That's it. 🥰

JustAnj · Answer

Usually I'd give him a hug from behind then he'd turn me around to look into my eyes and I knew he needed love, I'd then give him a kiss on the lips then cheek then forehead and bring him close to me again to hold him.

After he pulls away I would hold his hands then pull his chin up gently and I'd ask him if he'd like to take a break for a bit while I get dinner ready and usually he'd ask if he can help telling me he'd like to stay close to me or he would say yes if you don't mind, I think I need that for few minutes.

Then I would cook him something I know he really loves or create a new dish, He LOves my random dishes too, I would also bake him something to bring a smile to his face, its usually something that brings him memories from his childhood or our time as teens in love.

Then we'd sit and eat together talking about his day and then always end the conversation in laughter and him telling me he LOves me.

He is a very sensitive guy, I LOve him very much. ☺️

HarryDallan · Answer

Ok, we all have problems that we need to deal with, right?
Sometimes they're a bit too much and we call it a bad day... What we (both girls and guys) need in these moments is to share the problem with our partner and get a reaction. You're not a real couple if you're not there for each other, if you're not a team.

Getting a fresh view on the problem, a second opinion, maybe an idea on how to deal with it... that's priceless.

Food, sex, massage, blablabla... yeah ok, fine... It'll temporarily calm you down. You still have to deal with that crap. Dealing with it as a team... that's what matters.
by the way, this would also be a good test. It'll show how much you really trust each other. Do you trust your partner enough to tell him/her about the problems you're facing and are you confident that you'll get an adequate reaction? Complete trust is one of the rocks every long-lasting relationship is built on.

If your partner jeers at you, or criticizes you for your mistakes, or doesn't give a shit about it all... Well, you might want to rethink some stuff. You know...

Sixgunsound · Answer

Actively listen, and not just so you can interject with your similar stories or how much worse you have it. Women talk like fish swim, there’s no special effort involved, but for men it is different. In order for a problem to have reached the end of a man’s endurance to suffer in silence, it has to be pretty significant at least to him. That being the case, It’s his turn to talk, and your turn to listen. Almost every other time it’s the other way around, so it isn’t unfair in this situation.

Country to seeming popular belief, the answer to every male problem isn’t always sex or even sexual. At the point you’re describing, things downstairs probably aren’t working anyways. A hug, and acknowledgment, silence, and the lack of judgment are probably the best thing you can do here. If he needs to run his mouth in a way to make a trucker blush then so be it. If he needs a cigarette and he doesn’t even smoke, so be it.

Sometimes all a man needs is tobacco, and a room where he can swear:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/WTej-T5aKEE

Topaz1979 · Answer

I would do what would be right for my boyfriend at the time if he wants to talk about he’s bad day then I’ll listen to him talk, if he wants to cuddle we’ll cuddle, if he wants a nice home made meal from my personal recipe book then I’ll happily do that for him, if he says he wants some space alone to clear his mind then I’ll completely understand and let him have his space for as much time as he needs. So the answer is ask him what he wants from me in that moment and give that to him 🥰 with 💗 love.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nothing sexual, just Something simple like just sit or lie next to eachother and talk about our day all night. Just showing eachother comfort, support, and encouragement

doug_walker · Answer

Oh man, this question brought me back to when I first got married to my wife and came home after a horrible day at work. I met her in the kitchen cooking and gave her a big hug from behind. It instantly brings me comfort. She gave me dinner, and we talked about each other's day, and I told her my day was horrible. After that, I assisted her with cleaning up, and I showered after her. When I got dressed for bed, I was met with my favorite tea; she told me to lie down, caressed my chest and back, and we talked. That led to me lying on her chest, stroking my hair. The stress just melted away. But I usually like this, but my wife does surprise me sometimes.

ohsheeT · Answer

I don't want to be comforted I want to feel that pain I want to understand it so I don't ever have to go there again now after right go through it and I understand it and if I was a dick because I was in the middle of fighting my way through something I would apologize and I would do something nice for her because we all go through periods we all go through moments in time where we are going through something and I would rather be left alone about it so I can deal with it to become a stronger person

user1516 · Answer

If I see that he’s just out of it like I’m a completely tired almost annoyed look on his face then I’d probably let him cool off not make so much noise let him take a nap and once he wakes up from his nap and feels a bit better I’d make him take a cold shower then make some tea for him and cook him his favorite meal or order take out.

If I see he’s sad then ofc I’d cuddle him up give him lots of kisses, and maybe talk about it? If he’s comfortable with it ofc I’d make some tea for us to drink while we talk and after he feels a bit better I’d put on a comfort movie to watch with him.

Vanidal · Answer

To comfort me? Hmmm...
Tease me about things to look for in life. You need to get to know me and learn how to direct me to those things.
Exciting philosophical discussion can work. Just don't BS me with gratefulness thing. The world is both things to be grateful and to be pissed for.

Sexual approach can work. Just learn and communicate about it so you can get it right to tease me.

I tend to lose hope when I have a rough day.
Oh, also don't feed my ego. It's an easy button to push but I have trust issues with such actions.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i don't have a MSN anymore but before yeah i think i cause more discomfort because his complain is usually work and i just end up gettinh nad at hie boss. i'm like a mother i would ask the name of his boss because i'm gonna find him on fb and pm his ass to say horrible things or i would say wuit. i remember i end up the one who gets more high blood but it's not all like that at times we also have this habit of backbitinh in a funny way so we just laugh

Lucy68 · Answer

Cook him his favorite dinner and dessert. Bring him his favorite alcoholic beverage. Wear someone seductive but cute while giving him a massage. Take a bath together or get in the hot tub/Jacuzzi. Watch his favorite movie and be really sweet and kind to him

melanieeeB · Answer

I ask what is going on and if he wanna talk about it. Uhm with my ex, he was pretty vocal and immediatly started renting haha and for example my ex before always wants to cuddle and not talk.. so yeah, bu I never thought of giving some sort of sexual act to comfort someone... seems so unfitting to me in that moment.

Adele_26 · Answer

My boyfriend just needs a hug tbh. I don’t force him to tell me anything straight away if he doesn’t want to/ isn’t ready. If he does/is ready, then I provide a listening ear and give advice if he wants. And tbh, if he wants to have sex, then let’s gooooo 😂

He and his mom have a great relationship, so I asked her what the best way is to make him feel better, which is giving him a hug.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Gonna be honest all I think I'd want is to be able to talk to them. Cuddle with them and maybe maybe if it's been a really bad day on rare occasions would be like eating fav food/take out. Maybe having a bath with her or massage could be nice.

Those are all things I'd do for her on a bad day. Fav food plus fav drink cuddle up and watch whatever she wants. Talk about all of it if she wants to. Then a nice relaxing massage with all sorts of things like candles for the atmosphere if she wants followed by a long bath with candles scents and all of that. Help her into the bath and maybe even get in with her if and only if she wants that. Help her out and get ready before cuddeling up for bed. Non of this would involve anything sex based of that makes sense it's just all about caring for her and helping her relax.

river23 · Answer

Well for me, I guess I'd just go with how I feel I should comfort him. I mean I'd at least wanna know the situation and why the day was so rough so if he needed someone to talk to I'd be able to have that Convo with him and actually be able to give my opinion and stuff cuz I feel like without enough info I might say something horrible or make the situation worse but if he didn't feel like sharing I'd just be there for him hug him help him with whatever and just do anything he might need get him what he needs anything like that cuz I care about him and I want to support him no matter what ya know an dhe deserves that and I'll do anything he needs.

AviatorTom · Answer

At the end of a hard day... Welcome me at the door with a smile and offer me my favorite drink. Then leave me alone while she prepares one of my favorites for dinner.

I know this is ideal, and probably not realistic, but it sure would be nice if she did it.

watercolor_lions · Answer

We'll, the first thing I do is listen. Let him vent himself out. Try to be as understanding and compassionate as possible. Stay positive if he's losing hope.

Then I try to do something nice: make his favorite food, do extra chores, maybe give him a blowjob 😉 basically spoil him for the day.

I'd enjoy being comforted the way I comfort!

Piercejeans · Answer

When I have had a rough day, I would like my wife to ask me to explain the problems. Then, after she has gathered info, ask me if I want a drink. And then, maybe after dinner we could spitball solutions. Having done that, I am a Christian, and would want her to join with me in agreement in prayer in seeking God and his advice in the situation. Seriously, yes, that is just how I would want it handled.

After rolling everything over to God, perhaps a nice massage and a good night's sleep is just what the doctor ordered.

Titanic1912 · Answer

Remember during that first year of marriage when the guy comes home and he says, “Oh! I had a bad day at work!” And the wife says, “Let me get you a beer and you tell me all about it.”

Twenty years later, the guy comes home and says, “Oh! I had a bad day at work!” And the wife says, “YOU WANT TO HEAR WHAT WENT ON AT THIS HOUSE TODAY…WHILE YOU WERE AT YOUR JOB?”

Aerolyn · Answer

Hug me Kiss me Tell me that you're here for me and that you love me. Literally all I could ask for, because I know that I would be having to deal with this even if you weren't here with me.

JSmuve · Answer

If I've had a long day and have a headache, then I just want to eat in silence, sleep, and be left alone.

If I'm just tired, then I just want to put my head in her lap and have her scratch my head with one had and rub/massage my shnuts with her other hand.

If I've had a stressful day, then I just want her to listen to me vent, then give me a hug, headscratch, and rub my shnuts.

StrongMale · Answer

I have to say, most of the female answers here are spot on. I think what most guys would want is what the women here say they would give: gentle attention, affectionate touching, a listening ear, maybe a special treat of some kind, all those beautiful things that a woman can give so wonderfully all help to make a man feel better when he has had a bad day or a bad experience of some kind. I have to say, it was really wonderful to read all the beautiful comments from the gals here.

ALPHABLACK · Answer

I like to be left alone , no talking no bullshit no nothing I don't even want to see anyone around I need some empty room my maze books and a pencil

MrOracle · Answer

If I haven't eaten in a while, feed me, and then sit and cuddle with me on the couch or in bed. Make things quiet and peaceful. That's all I need. Holding her and being close will cause the stress to slowly drain away.

DoctorSex · Answer

Reaffirm her loyalty and oath.

Take a lower position to myself. Preferably on your knees. If I find myself comfortable sitting on the floor, I expect her to be lower than my head level.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

HighValue · Answer

Hold my hand and give me a long hug. Just stay there with me close and when I am ready to talk about it, I will.

sphinx23 · Answer

I cook for him, give him a massage and take care of him. These things comfort him and make him feel better

Dinklex3 · Answer

Cuddle, ask him what's wrong. If he wants to vent, I'll listen. If he wants to be left alone I'll leave him alone. Cook whatever he wants and ask if he wants a massage.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Just a shoulder rub and a conversation is all I need

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Hugging, cuddling, spending time with some music in the back. Plus, discussion for later time. At start, uou knpw, just sitting on the sofa or bed. Do I sound boring?

MrJoJo27 · Answer

I just want to have a board game night that ends with us falling asleep on the couch to a disney movie, next to an empty pizza box with all of the fans on full blast.

Jennz6 · Answer

I would cook, then maybe we get naked and then I would do “Anything” ….💋💋💋 to make him happy ending!

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Making him food and showing him funny cat videos. If that doesn't work, I'll send him to have a nap.

Light909090 · Answer

I would like to be Jerked off by the girl or her to suck my dick or her to Lay naked And I get behind her And let my dick touch her ass not in it just laying behind her naked as her ass touches my dick or her to lay ontop of my dick without my dick going inside of her ass.

Jerre · Answer

Just lay with me on the couch. Kiss each other, she takes bra off, I fondle them, kiss them, suck her nipples, let her hold my big cock and feel it grow.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I alone am responsible for my feelings. I’ll work it out on my own. She can just NOT pick a fight, maybe.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Pretend it is March 14. Steak and blowjob day.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Either leave me alone or scratch my head. Scratching my head does wonders for me. 😊

Kaneki05 · Answer

Cuddling always works. Laying on my chest, nuzzling my neck. Cute, cozy stuff.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I want lay my head across her knees as she strokes my hair and to I fall asleep.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Sex, affection in general, coffee or just leaving me be for a bit or just listening to me rant for a minute, just depends.

Xewleer · Answer

Cuddles, food, sex, without being babied.

Just being happy to see me is enough.

If I come in and she goes "Man, you fat, where's the paycheck?" I'm not going to be relaxed. In fact, we're more likely to fight.

DiegoO · Answer

With a hug, a kiss and a short talk, I would feel better.

What would make me feel worst? As strange it may sound: having to deal with the preasure of sexually satisfying my girlfriend/wife. Listening to complains, going shopping or having to do something for someone else.

JaxiCats · Answer

He just wants me to hold him/to hold me and talk about it. He’s sensitive honestly

Mrs2112 · Answer

I snuggle up next to him and massage his scalp listen to what he has to say about his day maybe give a little advice and tell him that he's right to feel that way and that we should go fuck up what ever/ who ever was bothering him

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"Claim" me. Say something like "You are my man."

BlueScorpio · Answer

I listen to him talk about it or give him a nice massage around his shoulder and neck💆‍♂️

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Stop I can’t with the meme 😂😂. I just like to cuddle and watch his fav movie or take him out for some us time.

Havthrills · Answer

I am not sure. I would have to find out one day. Mostly holding and listening I guess. Someone who does that would be great.

qwert1234 · Answer

I personally want to be alone. Seeing my partner sad or worried makes me sad more.

Heolurt · Answer

I don't like being touched anymore, and I don't have anyone in my life, so the way I comfort myself, I go out for my comfort food

mobiusforniner · Answer

Leave me alone to play music, work on my car or ride a bike. When im having a hard time, i hate feeling pampered or suffocated

nomandik · Answer

Just leave us alone at least that's how I feel we don't want to be bothered by it

Dnice1 · Answer

I'd cuddle with him, cook him something he loves and give him a lot of Love and pleasure

Xylem1992 · Answer

I generally want to be left alone until I feel like myself again. takes a few hours but I don't need a lot of help for it.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

If I'm just down then distract me from my problems. If I had a bad day and am pissed off give me space and leave me be.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I want my lady to just sit with me and talk to me.. 😁😁

hafinjun · Answer

Pinkay you still finding comfort in your throwing knife collection😲

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