Do you ever feel a personality change as it happens?

[VaguelyAsianLisbeth]

Due to recent personal events, I feel a sort of emotional shift happening. I would like to consider it a good thing that I can lean into, as long as I and my partners acknowledge it and think very seriously about what it means for us. Something just makes me feel the need to be more actively caretaking to my girlfriend in particular, whereas in the past I wanted the exact opposite?

Have you ever had an event happen that led to something similar, in one direction or the other?

[dynamicyandere]

It depends on how much self-awareness you practice. But, yes. I am very aware of my energy and vibe and mental/emotional state. And, my girlfriend is also very attuned to me and I to her.


We found that staying aware of this is key to keeping our chemistry strong and preventing us from drifting apart.


When your chemistry and attraction is the strongest, it’s good to note what it is that is happening and why is it working. Where is your focus, how are you feeling, what is anchoring you and grounding you in that moment? Remember this. Journal this.


There have been times where I took on a job where it affected my mental and emotional state and it’s like my center shifted. That shift changed our chemistry and it created a strain on the relationship. But, I looked back and recalled how I once was, what my focus was before, and I returned to that. Once I did that, my center shifted back and our chemistry was restored.


Going through different events and stages in life can shift your energy and your chemistry. But, if you don’t want to drift apart, it’s good to be hyper aware of this aspect and work with each other to ensure your chemistry is always strong and you never forget what draws you two to each other.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if i really noticed it or not but yeah, once my mom got sick I turned 100% into mr. caregiver instead of mr. wild child. but I don't know if I really noticed it. it just happened and felt like a natural shift in my life

[VaguelyAsianLisbeth]

I'm sort of feeling that -- I notice it, but it seems to be a natural change that could be very good for me.

[Opinion Owner]

that's good. sometimes we call that personal growth. 😁 positive changes are always fun little additions to our lives.

[Ga-girl]

Yes I think it's a part of the "with age comes wisdom" thing. You learn more and you understand more as we age

[DizzyDesii]

Being fed up with certain people at home, work, and in life has made me more ruthless.

[VaguelyAsianLisbeth]

Do you like that about yourself? I can see it being a good thing in terms of your self respect and having healthy boundaries.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont like being ruthless. I’ve often had a backbone but this is more than that. Sometimes im unnecessarily blunt and ruthless cause im sick and tired of these hoes

[bowenw]

In my experience relationships are not static. They (need to) adapt to remain strong as we grow as people or situations change.

[Agape93]

Not usually, it comes and goes depending on the trigger