Do you often test your partner's loyalty or just trust them?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

If someone feels the need to “test” their partner’s loyalty, they should just end the relationship immediately. It clearly implies that the person is either too insecure or their partner has already breached their trust once in the past. Either way, trust along with communication, honesty and love constitute the foundation of a relationship. Without trust, there is no relationship. If there was one, it would not be healthy.

I don’t have a partner currently and I’m single at the moment, but when I had a partner, I never “tested” him. We were very chill and just wanted to go with the flow… I have severe trust issues, but it is not limited to romantic relationships. If I start to trust someone though, I’d trust them 100%. Once I let them in, they’re all in and I’d give them my all.

In the future, if my partner ever gave me even one single reason to not trust him, I would break up with him. I should also mention that I’m very very self aware about my insecurities, so if it’s just me, I would probably work it out in therapy.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

I don't test.

I trust, and if they break that trust, I break up with them. I communicate what's needed to preserve my trust clearly, and if it's a genuine mistake I can look past it.

Thing is, it's never been a genuine mistake. First guy cheated, second guy lied for months about his immigration from America to Canada.

Those were conscious choices with long running deception.

No coming back from that. Broke up, never looked back, and by what scattered accounts I've heard both of them spiraled down while I seemed to spiral up. There's no real winners in breakups, but if I had to call it, I dodged nukes and won.

spartan55 · Accepted Answer

I've never even thought about doing something so childish. If I knew that game was being run on me she would be kicked to the curb by sunset.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

No, but i had a girl do this to me. It was annoying as hell. I dumped her.

Bethany22 · Answer

No, I don't try to play games with them, I just watch to see whether they're trustworthy

dustybiker · Answer

Feeling the need to test someone means you don’t trust them. I’ve not felt that about a partner as I simply would not have been interested in them to begin with.

People who do this have probably brought prior trust issues/baggage into the relationship. That isn’t fair.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I trust my boyfriend because we've known each other since we were 6th graders I mean we didn't become a couple until two months ago but my point is we've known each other for years and he's always been one of the sweetest, kindest, thoughtful and most trustworthy people I know

NathanDavis · Answer

no... I am not an insecure little douchebag boy... I'm a grownup man, lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

We don't have to. We have an open relationship and we discuss everything.

Msputiton · Answer

No. I will not date someone that i feel needs to prove they can be trusted.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I wouldn't even know how to test. But I think the relationship itself is a test.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I never doubt it. but I’m single so… lol, I have no reason to doubt it

d3n0939 · Answer

Untill theyake me to disturt the are fine. After that I became the NSA. And I was never worng

nawtee_me · Answer

trust them, testing that trust is being untrustworthy towards them. Trust is something given, not something earned...

VanguardTitan · Answer

If you have to test your partner, either they're not worth being around or you don't deserve them. Leave.

AndrésC64 · Answer

If you test your partner's loyalty, you don't trust them and should get out of the relationship.

TrueConfection · Answer

Test? How would you test them?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I tend to just trust my girl (s)

es20490446e · Answer

If someone is reliable it shows after a while.

99PercentSure · Answer

They can take advantage of too much trust.

Anonymous · Answer

None, because that's fucked up.

LazerBean · Answer

Never.

Jerkallot · Answer

Trust unless given reason not to

exitseven · Answer

Just trust them.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nope.

Luopio27 · Answer

Never test loyalty.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually trust them

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