A relationship should mot be defined by 50/50 contributions, but by giving out of love. Your opinions?

[xJeremyx]

[Chazmatazz269]

Neither is necessarily true; definitely not entirely. It IS true that most relationships have an apparently necessary imbalance of power. Though i’ve never seen it for myself, it wouldn’t surprise me to learn that there some people have worked out ways to operate entirely equally. One or two, tops though. Ell oh ell!
Also, LOTS of relationships have little or nothing to do with love. They hold up quite well. Respect is much more important in a relationship than is “love”.

[jshm2]

Both are idealist notions.

Nothing is ever 50/50 in reality. You have to win some by someone else losing some. But it's about not ripping off or being conniving

As for "love" it's subjective, and can change with age and circumstances.

A relationship is about mutual advantage and alliances.

[JustAnj]

I think it should be 100/100

Unless your not looking for a life partner then it honestly doesn't matter.

You want to know that you will equally put in effort into the relationship even when love drops and rises.

A relationship is not simply based off of love, and needs much more than love to survive and thrive.

[watercolor_lions]

When you both love each other, you give 100/100, without counting.

There's no need to keep score if both are genuinely doing their best. That is all one can ask of their partner. Pat taught me that ☺️

[TheSpaceGnome]

Accurate.

[OlderAndWiser]

If a person keeps an accounting and balance sheet of the contributions in a relationship, I would question the sincerity of their "love."

[Agape93]

Those two aren't mutually exclusive. Any relationship that's healthy is going to be 50/50, with love given by both parties

[xJeremyx]

Agreed. Giving freely with love will cause the relationship to gravitate toward such a balance, but setting this balance as an expectation is a wrong mindset.

[Agape93]

How is that a wrong mindset when it should be the default to want an equal partnership?

[xJeremyx]

Its a very grey line, i would think. A person shouldn't outright expect their partner to do things for them, yet it is correct to want them to put in a good amount of effort.

Maybe compromise is a better way of putting it.

[xJeremyx]

And ultimately it is also difficult to draw the line at 50/50, because some way or another, one partner or the other will end up doing more/putting in more effort in some aspects of the relationship, such as bringing in money, household chores, childcare, eldercare, etc.

[Agape93]

I think there's a misunderstanding. What I mean by 50/50, is an equal partnership. Nobody thinking they are above their partner or lesser than their partner

[xJeremyx]

By 50/50 i meant contributions to the relationship, maybe I should have specified that more clearly.

[Agape93]

Hey at least we cleared the misunderstanding lol

[Jeansnowstarkbastard]

If you do not give 100% of yourself to each other then it does not make sense to be together.

[KrakenAttackin]

"Giving out of love", what this actually ends up being is the man is a slave to the whims of his wife, especially after they have children. After the first few months, women give very little "out of love".

[Nash62826]

Even the love ain't 50/50 some one always loves the other more. 70/30 at best.

[FilmGuy93]

I think most anyone would agree with that. The problem is finding someone who is willing to give that to you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I totally agree.