Shouldn't relationships be equal? 50/50?

[Anonymous]

Recently my girlfriend and I have had problems. Basically I don't show affection when she's not being kind which is almost all the time now. She says she's not affectionate enough to show it to me. She will only come to my house and stay if it was the last option. It sucks cause I stayed by her side when she was homeless when I had a home with water and power. She couldn't stay to due landlord issues but still, shit on my place. Won't meet me halfway for nothing. It hurts knowing she wouldn't do 1/3 of the things I do for her. Are men supposed to carry this much weight and be happy? I told her it's like igniting her flame and letting mine die.

[PikNik77]

Relationships should be 100%/100%. You give it your all, not just half of what you got. This, I believe, is the #1 reason relationships fail. Somewhere along the line, people stopped giving everything they had and started giving a minimal amount while waiting to see what they could get in return. Relationships are cyclical. Give her what she needs to feel loved and happy, even if and ESPECIALLY if, it’s not necessarily what would make you feel loved and happy and she’s far more likely to reciprocate, and if she doesn’t, then you should move on. We all have a love language, a way in which we feel loved and appreciated. Words of affirmation. Quality Time. Physical Touch. Acts of service. Gifts. Hers probably aren’t the same as yours, but if you can figure it out together and learn to give them that love language, you’ll find that they most likely will naturally reciprocate. But it should always be given genuinely. If you do it only to try to garner yours in return, then it’s selfish and not selfless. I promise that with the right person this happens naturally and will strengthen your relationships. 💚

[Subarugirl]

Relationships need to be 100% and 100%. All or nothing. You are there for the other person to support them when they need help and vise versa. Things aren't always going to be easy, sometimes its gonna down right suck, but you have to be willing to work through that and grow as a couple. You HAVE to communicate to work through issues and both people need to be willing to work on themselves, if you're not then the relationship is doomed to fail.

[slatyb]

End this and find a woman capable of showing love. It sounds like you have poor boundaries. An emotionally healthy person would have dumped her long ago. How was your parents relationship?

[moviedude714]

Society or life dictates men are supposed to be the leader in the relationship

[PrettyPriya]

It absolutely should be a partnership. In all sense of the word partner. Sometimes one has to pick the other up, but should not be all the time.

I put great effort into letting my partner know how special he is. He does the same for me. Sometimes I may be down and he goes the extra mile. Other times it is me that has to.

I feel sorry that you are having these troubles as you are right to say it should be 50/50.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn’t always be 50/50 sometimes one partner has to take more of the load but then the next time around they have to return the favor. In your case tho, she’s not being fair. She should at least try to meet you halfway. You also don’t want to lose yourself while she’s trying to find herself, best of luck tho!

[Recurrence]

Relationships are whatever the people in them make them

[In_Trance]

that's not how it works

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like you need yo drop the bitch.