I have social anxiety so all my past relationships have been long distance. I started seeing someone on and off for a year. I love flowers but I've never been given flowers. I didn't want to tell him I want them because I wanted to be surprised but he still haven't gotten me any. I'm not mad at him, I just wish he would think to get them for me.
The likelihood your man is a mind reader is slim to nil. Do you know he loves lizards and would appreciate you buying him a lizard? What are you doing to show him what flowers mean to you? Do you grow your own flowers? Do you make flower arrangements? Do you wear flowery patterned clothes or accessorize with flowers?
What do flowers mean to you, and how do they impact you? Do you want them just because you believe it's proof a guy likes you or is romantic? See if you can come up with other options to meet your needs, so you're not putting all your eggs in one basket and making flowers more meaningful than any other aspect of a relationship. The last thing you want is for your man to buy you flowers out of obligation. Let him clearly know when he does something you appreciate. Learn how to appreciate what you do get rather than always dwelling on what you don't get.
Definitely. It's WAY better to let him know what you want; there's a difference between "expecting to be surprised" and "expecting him to read your mind". I don't mean to sound accusatory, but this is something that trips up a LOT of women- he'll probably be happy to give you what you want, but he's got to have something to work with.
Let him know what kind you like, and if you're allergic to any of them (think how awful he'd feel if he did it wrong, and made you- temporarily- miserable). Then let him surprise you with them, knowing they'll be what you like. He'll feel less overwhelmed, and you'll get what you want.
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Yes, you should tell him. Is he romantic in other ways? What do you mean by "seeing him on and off" ? What do you do together besides the obvious?
Try to mention it offhand that you like getting flowers. Let him think it's his idea essentially lol.
Have you dropped subtle hints yet?
If so, it might be best to just tell him
You could but honestly is it going to be from the heart if you have to tell him. I never like when girls hint at things, but in this case I don’t think it’s such a big deal to give a hint or two.
You know there are people out there going without food... and you're here crying about flowers? Tell me again how oppressed women are and growing so fond of hearing about bullshit like that.
Yes! You should absolutely tell him!
Flowers have been given a bad rap in recent years; there's a stigma attached because they're seen as "cringe.". You need to let a man know that it's okay to give you flowers.
Yew!
You shouldn't have to tell a man that
Uh, yeah, tell him directly.
They're gonna die shortly. Saving money is good.
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