So my mom (39) is a widow, we lost my dad a few years ago, a lot of my friends and stuff say my mom is attractive and all that type stuff. One friend in particular (21) was over the house when we had people over when everyone was leaving I walked in the kitchen & saw them kissing. I was like is this real. I knew he was interested in my mom he made plenty of comments. A week later he was over my house and same thing kissing being affectionate etc. My mom told me they were going to dinner at this restaurant thats in a hotel & they would just get a room & spend the night because it would be late & shed be too tired to drive. I didn't think any thing of it. A few nights ago I come home & they are cuddling on the couch making out, like my moms on his lap kinda thing. He left shortly after and I am like ok but didn't think it was sexual. I came home today and it was obvious you could hear what was going on. I checked the bedroom door and it was locked. When the noise settled down I said "mom are you in there" she said yea be out in a bit. Anyway they both came out I haven't said anyting, I know my friend is into my mom, he has made comments, they are both adults and when I saw them kissing I was like whatever, its just kissing a few dates ok, this is the 1st guy my mom has dated since my dad its cool! But when I heard them today I got upset and I dont think I like it what do I do? I can't say anything right? My mom and I are like best friends I dont want to be mad at her but this upset me a LOT. What would you guys do it it was you?
Unless you know your friend to be an abusive asshole or is going around talking about doing your mom then let them enjoy having each other. If you truly think your friend is a good guy like you said you should be happy for them. Unless he is using your mom for money or bragging to everyone that he did your hot mom let her be happy. Being an older woman and having a good time with a younger guy is probly very fun and exciting for her. It probly won’t last long anyway so don’t ruin your closeness with your mom by telling her to stop just cuz they are loud.
Instead tell her….. hey mom let me know ahead of time when your company is coming by cuz the walls are really thin. In a joking way. Trust me she will get the hint and she’ll keep it down. If she knew how loud she was being she’d be sooooo embarrassed and wouldn’t let it happen again.
No parent wants their kids to hear then having sex. EVER.
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Talk to your mom and friend about this. Tell them how you feel. Set up expectations and boundaries with them.
You're thinking about this the right way. It is awkward. You and your mom are both valid: your feelings that it's weird and awkward and your mom for finding love or sex or whatever again.
As for what to do, I'd say/do nothing. Love your mom and wish her happiness. Stay friends with your friend despite the weirdness.
Only if what they do directly impacts your life (the bed bangs into the wall and you can't sleep) then I'd mention that specifically, but not the relationship itself.
Your mom is your mom & I’m sorry to hear your dad passed away. As for your mom she is still living & you have to remember that. As for your mom let her live her life & let her love & make love to whoever she wants. Your mom has needs & wants when it comes to love so let her do her own thing & let her love & be loved instead of being alone.
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Why do you have to do anything? It does seem a bit unusual but whatever.
Just bend your mind around it i guess, can't be easy but you are correct that it is none of your business.
If it bothers you tell your mom to take things outside.
I would forbid my mother to do that.
seems like a made up story to me tbh..
Your friend did it one time or more?
wdym what do you do?
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