Is it cheating if I break up and then go on a date with his acquaintance afterwards?

[Anonymous]

Lets say I break up with my boyfriend at 8pm sharp and tell him ''It's not working out and I want to date others'', then at 8:15 pm or the following day, I start dating his acquaintance.

Even though I broke up, would you still feel you've been cheated on? Is that cheating to you?

Yes still

No, it's not

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+1 y

It's someone he knows a couple blocks where he works. They're not best friend but friendly. I guess they won't talk to each other anymore, lol.
Anyways, I wanted to do things the right way... by breaking up first and then date him.

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+1 y

By technicality, I dated after breaking up and informing him I want to date others and it happened after the time of the break-up. I no longer had a verbal agreement to be exclusive to him by then.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Not cheating, cheating would be to go on a date without breaking up first.

Breaking up starts long before the actual break up. As we give them more chances after deciding to end it. It is rarely just a fight and we are done, unless something major happens.

He might be upset you had another date 15 minutes later, but would he even know you had another date? I wouldn't tell him, and if my next date had any respect for us, wouldn't go bragging or talking about it either.

Since things are done after the breakup, does it really matter what your ex thinks?

Now if you break up, so you can go on another date (or whatever) then plan to come back and get together, that would be cheating. People do that to get hall passes or whatever, dump someone... go have sex, then come back and try to get back together, saying what happened for that short time is none of their business.

[Rania05]

Are you sure you don't want a break for at least a week?
You're moving on too fast and he may not even read your text by then

[Lliam]

Cheating is going behind someone's back. Cheaters are cowardly, selfish liars.

You were honest and up front. That's admirable. You did it the right way.

You have every right to break up with a boyfriend anytime you want. If you can't see a future with him, don't waste more time. And there is not one single thing wrong with dating a new guy immediately.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you obviously have everything planned before the breakup, then you clearly had no respect for your partner and it doesn't matter whether you call it "cheating" or just being a skank hoe.

[Asker]

You don't know everything and quickly assume I'm bad person and my boyfriend is a saint. The relationship was going sour for a while, we were both arguing too much and didn't have common goals nor interests, little to nothing in common.

[OlderAndWiser]

I didn't assume anything. What's the legitimate reason or purpose for planning a date with the new guy that starts 15 minutes after you break up with the old guy?

[Asker]

I guess I felt suffocated in the relationship so I wanted to move on quickly.

[OlderAndWiser]

Fifteen minutes? And someone he knows? No sale! I'm not buying it, and I doubt anyone else will, either. Most likely, you wanted to stick the knife in and twist it. I;m sure you think you had a reason to do that, but it says something about your character.

[spartan55]

This isn't about calling it cheating or the semantics around it. You are trying to stick it to your boyfriend by hurting and making him jealous. So childish.

[simptopia]

If you not only have a person in mind but also a date already set up then yea you cheated. Whether you want to make it out to be you technically broke up first, you had already put things into motion while in the relationship so yea cheating

[WhitneySnow]

That’s not cheating but your ex is gonna be pissed

[Asker]

The relationship was going sour to be honest. We were already arguing too much and had little to nothing in common. I was over with the ''the moon and the stars'' stage with him.

[Wolfynight]

I don't know , not cheating... but give the man a min to process dang

[Summeroflove]

No lol you broke up with him. As long as you made plans AFTER you broke up

[BarryLiverstone]

So it’s not cheating but would be better for everyone if you waited a week. What’s the rush?

[Asker]

Yeah maybe I could've waited a bit. I felt suffocated in that relationship that I wanted to move on fast and date again.

[BarryLiverstone]

How is the new guy? You feel like he’s into you

[Asker]

I feel we have many things in common. So far it's all good.

[BarryLiverstone]

Happy to hear that. He hasn’t mentioned the other guy?

[Asker]

I don't think he knows yet. Eventually as the time passes and words get out or I post pictures, then he'll know.

[Asker]

My ex boyfriend will obviously won't talk to him anymore once he knows.

[BarryLiverstone]

Right so you know the tension will come. Will you give your ex a heads to first?

[BarryLiverstone]

Heads up *.. so he’s not shocked

[Asker]

yeah before posting my first picture I'll inform him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Smart you are

[Twalli]

You broke up to date someone else, which means you were looking for someone else and just keeping him until you found someone else.

[Luckycharms12]

You planned it so same as cheating just broke up with him make yourself feel better

[qwert1234]

Technically no, but good luck proving that.

[Asker]

I have proof. Nowadays every messages and voicemails are found in the cell with the exact time.

[qwert1234]

Those can be deleted too...

[Asker]

Not if I saved them on my files and snapshop them.

[qwert1234]

No, what I am saying is people may think that you "deleted" the past messages, like flirty messages, and so on prior to you breaking up with your boyfriend to "show" that you did not cheat.

Because let's face it, if you broke up today and is already going out with someone 15 minutes later - it's a red flag, because you obviously had contact with that person while being in a relationship. And that contact is not a simple hi, hello. It's probably more in-depth.

It also shows that you did not "mourn" the ending of the relationship, you did not need the time to heal - means a few days or even months before, you are already detached from the said relationship.

[Iron_Man]

Yes, because you had this all planned out

[Asker]

I guess I might have had him lined up, maybe but while I was in the relationship, I never got involved in an EA nor dated him. He found sad once and we spoke a bit. I told him that we couldn't date and I will need to break up first, that I'll let him know.

[Iron_Man]

It’s disrespectful to go run into another relationship as soon as you break up you just don’t do that there’s a healing process and you’re supposed to wait a really long time and show respect

[Asker]

It's hard to take weeks or months if it has come to a point you really don't miss anything in the relationship and you've healed by then.

[Iron_Man]

When you end a relationship its kind of like a divorce if you want to look back on the beautiful times that you had and remember him and have all the pictures saved up you gotta do things the proper way and not treat somebody like you’re a piece of crap and just not care like the whole relationship was a disaster

[Anonymous]

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