If you were my boyfriend what would you think if I've only been with 1 man (I'm 35)?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for 10 months now. The topic about sexual past has never been asked. We're withholding on sex because we want to do things the old traditional way. We're not doing cohabitation either. We're going straight to the point of living together to commit lifetime.

If you were my boyfriend and lets say the topic was discussed. What would you think of a 35 year-old woman that's only been with 1 man in the past? 35 years old and only 1

[marmie]

Only having 1 partner at age 35 isn't a problem for me at all. Whether a girl had 0 partners or 100 partners, that's not an issue for me. I try to learn more about the person to get context. And I go by who they are now - not the past.

However, forgoing sex with someone I'm dating for 10+ months is a dealbreaker for me personally. I'm not that sexual of a person and my libido is kinda low, and even I wouldn't be able to do that.

[Asker]

You won't believe it but it was actually his suggestion to wait till marriage. He said it before I had the chance to suggest that myself. It's like he read my mind. That took the weight off my chest of telling him to take things slower or removing his hands off my waist if he wanted to make further moves. He said it myself ''You'll never feel that pressure from me in the relationship'' (his own words). So ok... it was a cool deal for me.

[Asker]

He said something that pretty much a woman would say first, that's more beneficial to a woman than a man. I thought to myself ''great, that's cool''.

[marmie]

then you dont need our opinion. our opinion doesn't matter. you have a partner that loves you and is on the same page.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If I were your boyfriend I would think of the present as well as the future & in your past if you have only been with one person I would overlook that & move forward with you into the future anyway.

[AddylynnNightingale]

If your answer is the same when you hear that I have had three partners, it's all good!

[Asker]

yeah I think some of us aren't into the hooking up culture. Some of us weren't meant to have casual encounters nor jump from relationship to relationship too fast that it reaches the 8th partner

[Ill_made_Knight]

Given the arrangements you are arriving at together, if I were in his shoes I doubt I would find it surprising. Seems to me it's consistant with your nature.

[BJP21]

If I am understanding this. You are a treasure. Most ladies your age (I've encountered anyway) hoe around.

[Asker]

wow thanks

[Surely]

Without knowing. I would think that you were in a committed relationship at an early age and never strayed! For what ever reason. You are now single!
I was only number two with my wife because of that reason. We were in our fifties when we met after her first husband passed.

[sheenagwapa]

i'm in the same boat. i thought i'm abnormal for only havinh one ex boyfriend.

[AimeeKyle]

How many guys you’ve been with isn’t a really important metric for me. I would be more interested in you r personality, connection, giving/sharing nature, activity level, etc.

[DavidRaul]

I wouldn't judge you based on your history with your previous partners or how many partners you have been with. Its in the past , so it doesn't concern me.

[Summeroflove]

You’re waiting until marriage? You have morals. You’re wife material probably. You’re going great!!!

[Asker]

Thank you. My father once told me that was the right away and it took me a while to figure out he was right the whole time.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. Sex should be special. I’m glad some people on here have sense. It’s better to build a deeper bond with someone as well before going there and making sure they’re the one

[Anonymous]

Statistically improbable so we can assume you're under reporting like most women.

I'm not sure your boy will care. Unless he's going for the Virgin Mary.

[Asker]

Nope. I got nothing to gain from. I'm not under reporting anything. It is what it is.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep, I believe you. Generally that's not the case though so I'm told.

[sheenagwapa]

i also only had one ex and i'm 37... it's not unusual

[misogynistic_pig]

I like virgin women but I don't like women over 30 years old.

[Asker]

That's ok. I'm not into young, immature boys either. Waste of time.

[ChiTown33]

I would think, "well that's still one more man than me". 🤣

[MrOracle]

For a woman, a low number is always better.

[SiberFox]

I'd think she's a good woman.

[boggboss]

I wouldn't care

[Asker]

Oh ok

[boggboss]

Its really not a big deal

[Anonymous]

nothing wrong, i assume your first boyfriend was around the beginning of your 20s, or in teens

[Asker]

I was 19 when we met but he lied to me about his real age for many years. He told me he was 22 and years laters, he told me he was really 31/32. He just looked young at the time. He lied about everything, even faked a future with me, keeping me hoping for something that never happened. The whole relationship was a scam and he owes me money too. It was a disaster. Everything was a lie.

[Opinion Owner]

how long were you with that guy?

[Asker]

Many years. A year in the same place and then many years in a long-distance relationship. He never had any intention of ever coming and forming a family. I want to forget he even existed. I hate him and so does my grandma. When he hurt me, my grandma was crying too.

[Brando10222]

I would be completely fine with it

[EaterPeter]

I would be glad and wish to be that one man

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!