Does family matter when choosing a partner?

[es20490446e]

Yes. How their family is will influence how good the relationship is.

No. It's just between you two.

[NathanDavis]

it has to matter, yes...

the more we know about someone, the better...

and the better we get along with others close to us, the easier we could get along ourselves.. but this is just generalizing of course, while these factors definitely matter, I do not see it as a decisive factor... more than what kind of people someone has as a family, to me is about how we relate to them and handle those relationships, good or bad relationships

one thing I will never do though... it is to judge one person as an individual, based on the family and relatives, for me to do that, it would be an awful mistake

[Guy13]

Yes family matters as they see both the things in you and him that either pride or "rose colored glasses" do not see. Arranged marriages are very good option as both spouses are vetted very well.

[TacosRAwesome]

It does to me as I want someone with a proper family as I'm fed up of sharing mine and not getting one back.

[qwert1234]

Yes. Family background has influence on one's attitude and upbringing.

And on a personal note: Dating someone with family issues - those issues get carried to you. If you can't deal with additional stress, then it's a no.

[Crankor]

It does to some extent. Can't expect every good kids parents to be the perfect model of parenting or being good people. For me it depends more on how the person reacts or interacts with their family and how they view then based on how I view them.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. That's an interesting question. I've never really thought about it too much.

My view has always been if I'm dating a girl then I'm dating HER. No one else matters. (I'll certainly treat her parents respectfully, though.)

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, I will say this: As a young adult, all of the adults that I have met of the previous generation who had daughters have always been very friendly to me. So I'm not sure what that means exactly. But regardless, I'm never felt threatened by anyone's parents. I've never seen that as an issue whatsoever.

[DiegoO]

Absolutely. If their family is wreck, and you wish to children with her, it's gonna be messed up for the kids, to experience that level of instability.