I can't stop comparing myself to his ex.. ?

[Anonymous]

There's so much shit and it's driving me insane and the worse thing is she's similar to me, so I feel like a degraded version of her

He called her a beautiful princess on a tweet before we got togetjrr

I brought it up to him but he never deleted it until today when I had it and almost broke up with him..

I've read articles saying your boyfriend choose you for a reason, like he broke up with her, but the thing is she broke up with him

I hate the memories I know they had together and I've seen too much I just want to forget it all

I alreadly told my boyfriend about this but he didn't help me at all.. Help please.. My boyfriend won't help..

I love my boyfriend a lot but all of it feels weird

I could be detailed about this but right now I feel depressed so yeah

[ConfusedGirl100]

Why does your boyfriend need to help or anyone for that matter? These are your issues and your insecurities, not his or anyone else's! You have to accept he had a relationship before you, if he called his ex beautiful princess that is his right to so since she was his girlfriend at the time when he said that.

If you are going to threaten to break up with him because of something he tweeted in the past, than you aren't mature enough or even ready to be in any kind of relationship. If you don't work on your issues and your insecurities and accept the fact he had a girlfriend before you, kiss your relationship with him goodbye because guys will get sick of c**p like that and he will eventually break up with you.

[Asker]

You're right
Thank you for being honest to me
How should I stop thinking aboyt her though? She is always in my head..

[ConfusedGirl100]

Girl you say you trust your boyfriend but you don't trust him at all. You legit made him delete something he wrote in the past and you were going to break up with him because he wrote what he did. You are also obsessing over the fact he dated this girl before you as well. No girlfriend who has trust in her boyfriend would ever do such a thing.

[Asker]

I trust my boyfriend
I know when I trust someone and I don't
Actually I wasn't
I ignored the tweet until I found out he was still following her
After I told him how I felt he deleted it, I didn't tell him to
Yes I'm obsessing over her and I came here to try get help
But I think I made my own plan now, to try love myself and somehow get her outta my head

[ConfusedGirl100]

No you don't trust your boyfriend at all. Why are you lying. We can see through your lies. Your proud of being crazy and processive? girl you need some serious help because shit like that has had people charged by the cops because its controlling and its not healthy at all. Say goodbye to your relationship because I guarantee he will dump your ass within the next 6 months, If you don't grow the heck up and stop your craziness and you don't learn to trust him. Right now, I think he is better off not having you as his girlfriend. You can hate me for saying this but watch. He will dump you within the next 6 months. I'm not going to sit here going back and forth with you. It is very clear you are in denial about trusting him.

[Asker]

Why do you think I don't trust him? If you think it's because I'm obsessive I just enjoy obsessing about him and he obsesses me too

[melanieeeB]

Why do you care? SHE is the ex for a reason, he choose you

[Guy13]

If you do not stop this then he will start thinking his ex is better eater choice and leave you

[Asker]

Right! Thank you Mr, I have calmed down now and no longer obsessing as much over his ex lol

[Guy13]

💪💪

[Asker]

😁😊

[kylee2437]

Your insecurities regarding their old relationship is not your boyfriends problem. You are going to push him away very quickly if you don’t stop picking at problems that don’t exist

[Asker]

Thank you for being honest
Do you have any advice on how I could stop thinking of the ex?

[kylee2437]

@asker my best advice is you need to trust your boyfriend and not go looking for reasons to distrust him.

[Asker]

The thing is I do trust him and love him a lot
I know he loves me too
But over the past few weeks his ex has just been in my head and I don't know how to stop my insecurities from comparing myself to her if that makes sense?

[kylee2437]

I know it’s hard to admit but it’s because you don’t trust him. Loving him and trusting him are two separate things. You love him, but you don’t trust him entirely so you are looking for reasons. You have to be careful doing this because you are coming off possessive and controlling essentially. He can’t change what he said before you and him became a thing and he is allowed to have a past before you. You are letting his past affect your relationship more than he is letting his past affect himself.

[Asker]

I do trust him, and I did not want to break up with him at all but little things about his ex would pop up which brought me to that point so I told him how I felt
I'm a possessive and crazy girlfriend I know it and I feel bad for him
I want better for him because I hate how I treat him like this
Anyway, I thank you for giving me this advice 😊
I kinda feel calmer now that people have really given me what I need to hear

[kylee2437]

The first step is admitting you don’t trust him. It’s going to be hard but that’s the reality, until then you are going to have trouble stepping away from toxic behaviors

[Asker]

Why do you think I don't trust him? Because I do..

[kylee2437]

The behaviors you possess suggest otherwise. Being a “crazy” and possessive girlfriend in any kind is because you lack trust, regardless if you think you do or don’t.

[Asker]

I'm proud of being crazy and possessive because I like knowing what he likes 🤭

[kylee2437]

That stuff isn’t cute, it’s abusive. He’s going to get tired of this and leave you. Admitting to being emotionally abusive is not a flex

[Asker]

I told him to tell me if he ever needs space or anything or if I do something that makes him uncomfortable
We listen to each other

[kylee2437]

Why would he tell you he needs space when you already have issues when it comes to his past? You may have pushed him to a point where he may be afraid to even suggest that idea. It’s great that you offered that to him but you also need to create comfortability for him to ever implement that.

[TacosRAwesome]

Unless he is actively making you feel compared to her, you need to work on the issue yourself.