How do I stop comparing myself to his ex?

[Anonymous]

I literally cannot stop comparing myself to his ex. She’s so gorgeous and a likeable person. They ended on her terms, not his. Which makes me even more worried. How can I get over this?

[Anonymous]

Then maybe you should break up with him, focus on yourself, heal from past trauma and work on loving yourself in it’s entirety. You’ve taken all of the internet stalking you’ve done of her, created a perfect version of her in your mind, and equate yourself to that every day. The question is why? Because we all know perfection doesn’t exist, and at the end of the day we can only be ourselves, no one else. So why not work on becoming the version of yourself that you feel is worthy of a certain sort of man, rather than beat yourself up for not being a completely different person?

[Tinylatina91]

You can’t compare yourself! Your you! Show him how fun you are !

[courtney06]

@Tinylatina91 it appears you put this comment in the wrong section and commented someone else's reply.

[Friendlybro79]

Wow this is a tough question. I think acknowledging you're feeling this way is a great start. I would think trying to not lose who you are and believing in yourself more will help you feel better while staying genuine.

Have fun times together, smile, laugh, be intimate. We can't control everything and all of our insecurities all the time. I can understand your concerns but being confident (not cocky) is very sexy and attractive. If he was with a person as you describe and now he's with you that means he thinks you're something special too. Good luck and if I could friend hug you right now I would.

[Ironic_Method]

I don't know if this helps but if someone were to break up with me... well, I wouldn't want to be someone who didn't want me so it's easy for me to break that connection.

I want to be with someone who WANTS me. It just wouldn't work any other way.

[Pinay_ako]

He’s with you, not her. This is your personal problem but it will be a relationship problem if you don’t stop this. You’re obsessed with his past. Let it go! You’re his present. If you want to be his future, stop 🛑 the obsession and just appreciate your man. He’s in love with you, not her. Get over her, he is.

[petitedollbabee]

There’s a reason why they broke up. You need to work on your insecurities, possibly look at therapy. You can’t be holding onto that jealousy, it’s not good for you or the relationship.

[Reaper1985]

he choose to be with you now rather then chasing after her and trying to fix things. so just be yourself and do your best to love and honor him when he treats you good.

[Carolinacowboy]

You are setting your standards to be like her, be yourself and if he leaves ya, it wasn't meant to be the begin with

[sheikalana]

Are you in a relationship with this person? If yes, you should feel lucky that he chose you now to be his girlfriend.

[Shehnaz]

You are an updated version of her and every update is made keeping future in mind.

[Staximus]

Why do you even care? He's with you now. If he doesn't talk to her or talk about her anymore, then the hell with her.

[Jamesshinobi]

I think you have to cut her head off like in the Highlander movie. there can be only one. that or skin her and wear hwr face like a mask

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Are you sure that you are not attracted to his ex? I mean it's possible

[RedBarbie_]

Primeiro, coloque suas três melhores características. Se ela é legal, você deve ser inteligente ou bonita. O importante é que ele goste de você.

[Anonymous]

You just need to realize what a dead end street it is. It will never stop till you do.

[Navyaa]

Know how better you are

[Rebecca_wolf]

Try to ignore and be open and ask questions