What’s the worst secret you ever found out about an ex?

[Anonymous]

[Cccgala]

Well, he cheated on me five months ago. ☹

I used to give handwritten letters to my ex every month (where I live, it's a culture to celebrate relationships every month), where I used to profess how grateful I was to have him, and all that cheesy stuff. The thought of me mindlessly writing those letters in the span of five months, not knowing about the betrayal, still makes me sick up to this day.

He broke up with me (the audacity, I know), so he is blocked from my socials indefinitely. Unfortunately, that also means I'd have to keep my social media accounts private for good.

[Asker]

i would be wanting to vomit too but it just shows what a dedicated person you are

[Saltystardust]

It'd probably be the secret that ended up ruining my relationship completely. Maury drama stuff. The "oh I'm pregnant, and I'm not sure if the baby is yours." I may have looked the other way if it happened once or twice, and with the same person.

I was going to man up and do what I needed to do, but when the day came for her son to be born she cut off ties with me completely and when I asked nicely for a paternity test, she said she didn't need one because she knew who her son's father actually was.

Do I think about it from time to time? Of course, have I tried checking her Facebook account before she blocked me, absolutely. But now I'm at the point, if the kid is mine and she still doesn't want me to be part of his life, I'm done fighting. Might sound dickish, but if he's not mine and doesn't want me to be part of his life, I won't help her until the kids been tested.

[Anonymous]

That she cheated on me, maxed out a bunch of credit cards, took out a loan and put us over $10,000 in debt, and that she was lying to her co workers and telling everyone that I was a deadbeat dad even when I was always with our child, and even took him to work with me sometimes. Oh, she also made up a lie and told her entire family that I said they're a bunch of pedophiles so they wouldn't talk to me after we split up. She didn't want them to find out everything she did to me.

[Asker]

there should be a WTF emoji reaction. WTF

[Asker]

narcissists need to go

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah she put me through a lot and really scared me because I didn't know she was even capable of being so terrible.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Wth man that's a full blown sociopath!..

[Opinion Owner]

@Rockstarrrrr
Yeah and the worst part is that I loved her, so I was very traumarized when I started finding out everything. I honestly felt like killing myself.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Oh.. that bad... Sorry man.. Stay strong

[Opinion Owner]

@Rockstarrrrr
Thanks, it was years ago but I still worry about what other lies she's spread about me. It makes me not even want to go out sometimes.
I heard that one of her friends was telling people that I'm crazy and don't deserve to have a kid. The evil just never ends. I think she is a sociopath. I never did anything to hurt her or my family, I can't imagine what she does to people who actually wronged her. She's scary because she's also really cute and she acts so nice. People don't know how she really is.

[Rockstarrrrr]

I understand... But stay strong... Remember, if you give up she wins and that's not fair..

[Asker]

Just as @Rockstarrrrr said, i agree. stay strong and don’t let her win

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, I'm finally getting some real space from her and I'm starting to realise that I deserved to be treated better. Even being single is better than what was happening to me in that relationship.
There's no getting back together or even getting revenge against a person like her. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses and just say "Wow, that was like a nightmare," and move on.

[Asker]

absolutely. could be quoted what you said there. glad you’re in a better mental space

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks.

[jennifer_bloom]

I learned the guy I dated swore - he never swore at me but he would swear about situations and things that he hated. I guess he toned that done around me cause we met in the Christian fellowship.

[Asker]

always amazes me how hypocritical people can be

[AviatorTom]

Before we got married, she had an affair with a married guy.

[Asker]

definitely would have to dive into that one more for details ha

[abc3643]

Not exactly a secret although she didn't tell me; I had to discover it.

She got married and so all my hope was gone.

[Asker]

it sucks doesn't it..

[abc3643]

Yes.
Yes it does.

[irifebeck]

They hooked up with someone while we were dating and I didn't know until we broke up :))

[Asker]

well that deserves a big fat wtf

[irifebeck]

Yup. Good thing I saw through his shitty behaviour and dumped him, it was a short lived relationship.

[Asker]

good for you, didn’t hang around for long

[irifebeck]

thank you :)))

[Asker]

of course! may you graze greener pastures

[KrakenAttackin]

Come on you were doing the same thing.

[irifebeck]

@KrakenAttackin? excuse me?

[Phoenix98]

When we got to together she for the entire 6 months we were together she neglected to tell me the following things.

1# That she wasn’t attracted to me and had to force herself to feel anything for me.

2# Didn’t want to be with me

3# Instead wanted to be with her friends brother who she thought she was in love with.

needless to say I felt pretty fucking stupid when I found out and it honestly made me back off from women altogether for years.

[Asker]

what a shallow person. thank goodness you are no longer with her. i can’t believe she did that to you. did she explain why then she dated you? was it financial or something?

[Phoenix98]

Nope she never explained it.

[Asker]

maybe things just fizzled out for her over time. i can’t imagine someone dating someone for absolutely no reason at all.

[Phoenix98]

Nope it was like that for pretty much the entire relationship from what I understood

[Phoenix98]

The relationship on general was pretty toxic I just couldn’t see that at the time.

[Asker]

weird.. well glad you saved yourself from her acid

[Phoenix98]

Yeah me to.

[Noahzaid]

That she still loves her ex and I’m her rebound.

I was like hold up that makes sense.

[Asker]

that is shit. i am sorry that happened

[Noahzaid]

Thanks, It’s fine.
It was years ago.

[Vesuvius87]

Him admitting to lying about his real age when several years later. He's from 1976 and not from 1984 as he told me, my mother and others. So basically he robbed me of my choice to select a young man close to my age range. Sick.

[Vesuvius87]

By lying and robbing me of my choice to decide (I wouldn't have dated him if I knew he was that older; he pretended to be a guy in his early 20's at the time), he stole part of my life.

[Asker]

I can relate. I went through a similar experience five years ago. I found out within a couple months of his real age. it is a sick game they play though

[Vesuvius87]

I'm sorry to hear that. Yes it's disgusting at the extend of lies they go through to get a girlfriend. Sick.

The only consolation is at the end, it all come to light and they can't go on forever with keeping us in the ''honeymoon, forever girlfriend'' stage.

[Vesuvius87]

The games and lies has an expiration after all. Here is the ending to all this though:
He aged badly like milk. All my family members already saw wrinkles at him, he ended up gaining weight and having health issues meanwhile I'm told I look younger for my age and have a healthy lifestyle.

[Asker]

It sounds like karma to me.

[Tina19]

After he got married he still wants to be with me and i realised he can never love anyone

[Asker]

what does he think marriage is right

[Tina19]

He never wanted to get married he did it for the sake of his parents

[Asker]

that’s an even bigger problem

[Tina19]

Yeah

[JPresidente]

That she was a nympho. She was so good in bed it makes sense now.

[Asker]

always feels good to put the puzzle pieces together

[JPresidente]

Yes. She could win the Olympic Gold Medal for BJ’s she was so good. She got a lot of practice. 😂

[Asker]

practice on you im assuming ha
maybe she has alien genes 🧬

[JPresidente]

I think so. 😂

[24_7_Amazing]

It wasn't an ex but I went on a date with a gorgeous woman. She told me during our coffee date that she used to be a man.

[Asker]

WHAAA that right there.

[mobiusforniner]

Oh snap, that must feel weird lol

[desperatelyhungry]

How did you react

[AsaKyo]

I already found out most of his secrets while in the relationship, so I don't know, really

They were all equally terrible

[NathanDavis]

she kind of liked... a, Nickelback song... one, though

we barely survived that, as a relationship

[Account]

It is none of my business to be sharing secrets of others, even if they are no longer a part of my life.

[bubblegunnn]

I won't share it on public

[Asker]

no problem

[melanieeeB]

Actually none that I can remember

[Agape93]

Nothing I can discuss in polite company

[exitseven]

I really can't think of anything,

[jimmy2]

I almost feel into love with a tran

[Asker]

yeah i’d be like speechless

[jimmy2]

Lol. I ask for her pussy and I never seen one like that

[Anonymous]

That she was dating someone else.

[Asker]

cheaters suck

[bowenw]

That she had another boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

She has a child

[Asker]

that’s serious