Lets say you’re dating someone for awhile and might be ready to escalate to a serious relationship, would you bring it up first or you rather they do?

[Still-alive]

So you’ve been dating someone for quite awhile now and feel like you’re ready to escalate to a serious relationship would you rather bring it up first or would you like them to bring it up first?

I like to bring up escalating to a relationship first to be assertive

Id rather they bring it up first so i know they’re ready

I dont have a preference either way. Whoever feels it can bring it up if they want

[CrazyGirl2]

Maybe it’s a symptom of my age, but if I am ready to take a relationship to the next level, I would prefer the guy to make the move and tell me thats what he wants. Although I have no experience with this, my mom always told me, “you wanna lose a guy you really like, start talking to him about moving the relationship to the next level, because while we women may be in charge of when sex happens, men are in charge of when a relationship becomes exclusive, and if you rush that, you’ll scare him off”! So I listen to my mom, and allow the guy to decide if he wants to move the relationship forward. However, if I’m dating a guy, whom I really like and he is just taking WAAAY to long, it’s time for me to end it and move on. But I always tell him why, and give him a fair opportunity to take the relationship to that next level. I have NEVER dumped a guy who was taking too long, without giving him a chance to meet MY emotional needs. But I do respect if HIS emotional needs are not there yet, and part on good terms.

[melanieeeB]

I don't mind bringing it up but out of experience I don't ask for a relationship but rather say that I could definitely see us being in one and then see if he is ready and asks me first.. I hope it makes sense lol

[Still-alive]

Yeah it does. Its like in chess when you obviously put their king in check you hope they’re aware enough to move the way you want them to lol.

‘So here i go telegraphing that im ready for a relationship will he bite?’

[melanieeeB]

Yeah exactly!
I do the same with first dates, I don't ask for a date but I say "Oh it would be so fun/nice hanging out haha" ... other topic. He definitely heard it but now it's on him to ask, if he really wants to.

Fun note here, I learned this move from the Matthew guy on your dating video question haha I only remember one of his advice and that was to make a first move as a woman but not a "real" first move and still let him be the one to make the move... you know haha

[snackthatsmilesback]

I bring it up first cause I'm usually ready first. But after the initial convo I wait for them to bring it up so I don't be pushy.

[SnowedIn]

I'll bring it but 'read the room' to not be too pushy. But no issues if she brings it up either.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Doesn't matter to me who brings it up first, but I don't want to wait around for him, if he is shy or nervous... so often I do first, just to get to the point.

Like, where do you see this going, are we going to just date forever or do you have a end goal in mind?

[petitedollbabee]

I usually just let the relationship naturally escalate to a serious one, and once I feel that it’s become serious, I ask them about it and ask if they’re ready to be exclusive and committed. I don’t want to sit there waiting for them to mention it.

[Looksnicholas]

I voted A, but I'd also feel like it would just be an unspoken or accepted obvious, like, if I've been dating a woman for a long time, surely it's obvious it's a serious relationship it's become 😀🤍

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't have a preference either way. Whoever feels it can bring it up if they want

[menina]

I would rather them to bring it up first. I don't think I would be brave enough to say it Lol

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I do have trust issues. I hope she brings it up first!

[llorando]

Id rather they bring it up first so i know they’re read.

[Mia-Wallace]

I bring it up.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

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