Boyfriend gets mad that I go through his phone while he sleeps?

[Cass510]

boyfriend and I been together for three years, he lets me see his phone whenever I ask or if I reach for it when he’s around he won’t react crazy. Does he like it? No but he lets me to help ease my anxiety for the last three years. No infidelity on either parties but I’ve had trust issues my whole life. At night I’ve gone through his phone while he slept, he knows it because I've done it a couple times but it upsets him and he always tells me not to do that, his words were “ why do you have to wake up in the middle of the night and deep dive in my phone” my concern is he is hiding something and only wants me to go through his phone when he’s present to stop it. What do you guys think?

[God_of_Thunder]

I think you're lucky he hasn't dumped you, yet. I would have.

I understand you have trust issues, and a certain degree of patience is necessary to help someone overcome that, but continuing to go through his phone even though:

A) You know he doesn't like it

B) You've never found anything to indicate infidelity

is only going to lead to your eventual breakup, anyway. Most men will not stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't trust them, especially when they've given her no reason not to.

It's insulting, and demeaning. It makes us feel as if we're being blamed for something we didn't do, and those suspicions will drive us away.

I'm sorry that you've been hurt in the past, but I suggest that you look into getting some sort of help/therapy for your trust issues, or they are going to ruin every relationship you'll ever have.

[OlderAndWiser]

Has he ever done anything to stop you from looking when he is awake?

[Lowiu]

Like he's completly open with you and there's no reason for you to be suspicious of him and he has never done anything I could completly understand if he was also pissed at you for looking through his phone all the time when he's there. Does he do the same with yours?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Well, you went through it several times at night. Did you find anything?

[dustybiker]

“ Does he like it? No but he lets me to help ease my anxiety for the last three years.”

Are you asking us for permission to be selfish? I won’t give it to you.

[sirderpsalot123]

You aren't even trying to work on yourself and get over your trust issues. I don't know how he's put up with this for three years. Better man than me. You should really start putting in the effort on your end before you lose him.

[Phoenix98]

Well he does have a right to be angry I would be to if my partner went through my stuff when I was sleeping.

its a serious breach of trust.

[In_Trance]

Toxic femininity

[TroyDT2]

He is far more patient than I would have been.

[admles]

Tbh, if you were my girlfriend, I would dump you.

You are clearly not even trying to get over your trust issues.

[Luckycharms12]

He has every right to get mad firstly it's not your phone second it's violating his privacy. And 3rd show's you do not trust him

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Can you blame him? For one you are being sneaky with his stuff.

#2: You have no trust in him which makes him feel he's untrustworthy.

[BJP21]

Hit search history see what kind of porn he's into, hopefully its good porn.

[Anonymous]

He needs to leave you.

You are controlling and mentally abusive.

[Dreamclouds]

He probably cheats on you already, nobody would act like that if they would be clean.

[spartan55]

You would be so dumped pulling that shit.

[OddBeMe]

Why do you feel the need to?