It's a very cute and romantic idea, but also immature and naive. Marriages end in divorce about 50% of the time, so out of 100 marriages imagine only 50 of them do not end in divorce.
Out of the remaining 50 marriages, 60% are statistically reported to be unhappy. That leaves 20 happy marriages remaining, and that's based on self-reporting, which some people lie about because they are lying to themselves or they have some notions about marriages and want to perpetuate the myths.
The majority of marriages are a bad idea, either ending in divorce, or if they stay together, people cheat on each other, have affairs, are miserable but "stay together for the kids", or otherwise have power imbalances and struggle miserably and feel unfulfilled in their lives. People even murder their spouse rather than get a divorce sometimes, because they are so unhappy, but refuse the idea of divorce as a solution. How would you like to end up dead? Many spouses get cheated on and know it, but then they act like they don't know about it just to keep up appearances of happiness to fool themselves or others. Marriages like this show an outward face of happiness, which is part of the illusion and why fools believe in marriage. They see these miserable people who have them fooled into thinking everything is going wonderfully when really it's hell.
The reality of the joys of marriage:
Nope. I wouldn't waste my time. I'd wish her a happy life and move on.
I think virginity is a patriarchal concept. The purpose was to keep women in line and insure men's proprietary rights.
I place zero value on virginity. It's the last thing in the world that I care about.
I think virgins are afraid of life in general. They want life to be perfect, which means that they don't know that life is messy because they gave never gone out and participated. They don't take chances. They want to be taken care of.
A lot of virgins have religious or cultural hang ups that I can't relate to.
Each to their own. But I don't want someone who is weak, submissive, timid and dependent. I want someone who places more importance on a partner than on a written contract. There is a difference.
I'm not interested in an ascetic nun who avoids pleasure in favor of sanctity. I want someone who is comfortable with her own body, and has a healthy libido.
There is a problem
Being a virgin and also marrying someone who’s a virgin doesn’t guarantee you will stay married with them forever divorce can happen too. And it happens a lot sadly
So if you stay a virgin it should be for yourself not to save it for someone else because some people can be virgin down there but mentally can be fucked.
I would continue with them but I'd laugh. my second and first boyfriends thought like this. They stayed loyal to me and I wasn't a virgin or loyal. That is such a feminine mindset that I had no choice but to cheat lmao
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Yes, absolutely support her and grow so that we are beautiful 😍 to one another as swiveled up prune and raisin.
m If she is a virgin maybe but if she has had sex and now waiting until marriage... Oh hell no. I am not the guy.
I think the big reason 50% of marriages end in divorce is because: 1) people don't know how to choose their life partner and 2) people don't know how to be a life partner. I don't see that statistic as proof marriage or monogamy is stupid. I see it as proof of our decaying, selfish, immoral society. No one said marriage is love and sunshine all the time, but nothing worth fighting for is handed to you easily.
As for the virginity thing, I totally support it. If I truly loved someone, sex wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. Plus you can figure out pretty quickly on if you two have chemistry, and thus if the sex will be good.
That information alone isn't enough for me to know if I would want to be with him, but depending on what he even means by that I am probably already off the table for him lol. So I would have to start with what a virgin even means to him, what does he think of having romantic relationships that were not sexual. What does he think of people who aren't virgins?
it depends. If I really care about about this woman I probably would. I get it. You want to have sex but if they want to wait till marriage they will most likely be faithful to you and you’ll have an amazing life together. Short term suffering for long term gain
No matter the relationship, I need head like super early on in the relationship, and it consistently. At this point first date is like a guarantee for me sitting on their face or I'm just not into it.
Yes, that would be ideal for me. I don't it if my partner isn't a virgin as long as they don't have a high number either. Personally I rather wait until I know I'm in a stable ltr (not necessarily marriage).
My husband and I were not virgins when we got married, but we do believe in monogamy after marriage.
Not really, I’m hypersexual and polyamorous so it really wouldn’t work out. Best of luck to them though, if it is a value they formed themselves ^^
if it's something important to them yes I would respect it.
Sure as long as she agrees to a prenuptial agreement first.
No. Why wait for sex when another woman who has the possibility of being a wife will definitely have sex with me...
Girls hate guys who don’t give it up easily they immediately start to shame you with accusations of not really loving them , homosexuality , cheating and possessing a micropenis
I went along with this once. I would not do it again. I voted for D.
While I only go for monogamous relationships, I’m far from a virgin so I wouldn’t be with someone who expected me to be one or wanted to remain one until we married
I only have one question for her. Is she a virgin? And if not, how many? And then if the answer was "no" to the first question then while I have no problem with monogamy, why is she deciding to punish me for HER past mistakes.
Yes I believe in 1 partner for life. But if she's not a virgin she needs to come down from her b. s. ivory tower.
No, cause I'm polyamorous and wouldn't want to waste either of our time and emotions.
m Nope. I don't believe in marriage, first off. Secondly, physical intimacy is very important to me and my beliefs. If you cannot accommodate something basic as intimacy ever, I will leave
No, I strongly disagree with that kind of mindset and find it highly toxic.
I don't believe in the concept of marriage or the purity of virginity.
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