Are shy guys pathetic?

[Softguy]

i'm a shy guy that can't ask a girls out, does that make me a coward?

[nolabels]

No.

Do you want to ask women out?

My sister once gave me this bit of advice -

"Imagine the guy you want to be. Be that guy".

Very simple.

That doesn't mean it's necessarily easy.

Put forth effort.

Practice being more outgoing with people from all walks of life, not just when you're frozen stiff in front of a women you're attracted to.

When you become more comfortable with people in general, advance to whatever you'd like to do next.

I was an extremely shy, introverted young man. One day I told myself that I was going to do something about it. I worked hard at it and was able to overcome my shyness in less than a year. I'm still somewhat introverted, but even that has changed to a degree. There's nothing wrong with introversion, but it can seem like an extra hurdle to overcome when meeting people.

Do it!

[Hulk_kitty]

Shyness is not bad thing to have, but its certainly trait you can work on, All shyness is a person cares too much what the opposite sex thinks of them. If you can overcome what the opposite sex thinks of you, the shyness will go.

Don't believe you are born with shyness, or its a trait you are stuck with. I was shy, once I overcame the fear of what girls thought of me, I was no longer shy. The only way to overcome shyness with girls, interact with them more. Just keep on talking to them.

Don't avoid talking to them, it will never help you. I am not saying should ask them out yet, but just go out and talk to them. You will never grow, if you avoid being uncomfortable situations.

I have been watching a lot of celebrities, I know why they are successful, its not just that they have a great work ethic, but they push themselves through situations, when they are absolutely scared or uncomfortable. They don't run away from a scary challenge,

[Hulk_kitty]

Cus mike tyson trainer, had a saying, There is the hero and the coward, they both feel fear, but what makes a hero a hero, is he deals with the fear. The cowards runs away from the challenge. Fear is life fire, if you can control it, it will do great things for, cook your food, keep you warm, but if you don't control your fear, like a fire, you will get hurt.

[Izzy_3991]

Not at all ☺️
They are just shy. Like most shy people, once they become comfortable, they are fine with the person who they once felt shy with.

[Softguy]

Exactly 💯

[Anonymous]

If they're spineless, can't do shit and expect a woman to call all the shots in the relationship, then yes, that's pretty pathetic

[Softguy]

Good because i'm only too shy to ask her out, after i know she likes me i can take initiative.

[Anonymous]

Not pathetic, but they are a lot of work to be with.

[Softguy]

But in the end worth it cause we don't cheat.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with being a little shy. But my experience is that girls do not like shy guys. And I'm not shy myself to know that. They tend to choose less shy guys or the "a-hole doing everything" while some girls consider putting up make up, doing their hair and simply showing up is enough effort for relationships so to speak.

[Softguy]

This is the only thing i hate about being born male.

[Opinion Owner]

You can turn into a woman. Although I think at 31 it is likely too late for that. Was considering that myself at some point.

[Softguy]

i wish i could turn into a woman

[Opinion Owner]

You can. There is hormone replacement therapy and gender reassignment surgery. But do you have the money to change your gender?

[Softguy]

i wouldn't go that far, i would just take female hormones.

[Opinion Owner]

You need to go all the way or not at all.

[FilmGuy93]

Nah. Shyness and patheticness are exclusive things.

[LazerBean]

Some are, not all though.

[slatyb]

Forget asking them out. Just start saying hello.

[Anonymous]

YES AND GUYS WHO ARE SHY DON'T KEEP MAKING UP NEW FAKE ACCOUNTS AND CALLING THEMSELVES SHY GUY ALL THE TIME.

[Softguy]

😭😭😭

[Cheriecoco]

Not at all