Would you approach me at a bar? Why or why not? Why so afraid of rejection? If you do get rejected couldn't you use that as a building block to build more confidence? Yes being rejected sucks and sucks even more so if you find that one nutty loud chick that promptly talks embarrassingly loud in front of all her staring friends. but those girls are one out of twenty and even more so...you survived didn't you? If you weren't already savvy to that type on female you just got another clue on which ones to stay away from and now can move on to all those other pretty ladies. So seriously, is that really the only reason?.