Well to your first question, assuming they got asked and answered and then were rejected cause the person didn't like what they said, they get mad cause they got asked, they answered, then someone git mad at them, it's like if you didn't want my take don't ask me, I'm sorry I didn't say the magic words you wanted to hear.
And as the the second question cause blunt and tact are completely opposite of each other. Maybe you don't get it cause you aren't blunt but to us blunt people, being tactful is just an exhausting chore. I don't want to listen to your life story, then make a 3 page essay explaining which parts I do and don't agree with and what I sympathize with just so you can except my answer.
Example, say I don't know, one of the trans women on here asks why she can't find men interested in her, you could be tactful and tell her she deserves blah blah blah and tell her you like the effort she put into looking female and blah blah blahhhhh..
Or just be blunt and brutally honest and tell her men aren't interest cause you aren't a real woman and still don't pass as one physiclly.
Most Helpful Opinions
Giving it to them bluntly is a way of being less filtered and more freely spoken, but also to speak before thinking about it too. Tactfulness and holding words till you’ve carefully articulated them aren’t typical things someone with blunt honesty does; they say it as it is, whether that’s a good choice or not.
Why they are upset that their choices made that set of actions occur when they are being a bit less careful with their words, I have no clue. They made their bed, now they lie in it.
Its because some people are more "straightforward" than others when it comes to communication. Its not that we are intentionally trying to hurt your feelings. I am a straightforward person myself and I get called "blunt" or "rude" often times.
But really , its just that there are a lot of people out there who get offended very easily. They are people who cannot take a step back and admit that they've done something wrong. Rather , they prefer to argue with you or accuse you of being a bully or mean.
here's a secret to life: People operate on their emotions or ego rather than logical or objectivity. People believe what makes them feel good, not what is true. If you are going to tamper with their emotions or ego, get ready for trouble
I’ve noticed that people that describe themselves as brutally honest are only honest when it doesn’t count and the reason being is because they think that being hurtful to others is being honest when in reality, it’s them being a coward. If you are only honest to useless material, you are a coward/bully.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
15Opinion
It is not that we do not like a blunt and/or to the point woman but don't expect us to hear a thing if it is full of, all over the place, verbal, written, or emoji emotion. If it happens once, I respond, and we get through then Fine.
If it happens again: 1. I don't need another Job and 2. Read. And if you follow-up again, before I feel like responding to more of the same thing as last week, Then GHOST directly bypassing Friend or F-U Zones.
Brutal honesty doesn’t necessarily mean “brutal”. You can look up the definition. Just means they don’t beat around the bush or sugar coat the truth.
In most respects, this is about the communication process. The other day I was speaking to a customer support person who honestly pissed me off. I asked for a supervisor and finally told the guy to "shut up" and get a supervisor OR I was hanging up and getting one another way. I did finally speak to a supervisor and we solved my problem. I did ask this person if they will review the recording of the conversation and they said yes they would as a teaching tool. I told the supervisor to point out to the young man that what you say and how another person receives said words can and often do differ. Many times during my career I would listen to my employees speaking to customers on the phone. Many times I found myself having to coach them on avoiding passive-aggressive language. Before Covid, I was approached by the at the time soon-to-be ex-wife of a good friend who asked me if I would speak to her. I looked at her and in a firm but quiet voice NO! I would not! I told her I had no intention to speak to her or invite her to sit. Further, if she bothered me again I would get a legal protective order. That is an example of me being brutally honest. Humans in general have issues understanding passive-aggressive language. This BS can wreak havoc on the communication process. On a personal note, I DO NOT tell people lies. If you ask my opinion on something I will give you an honest answer. YES, I am that horse's ass that will tell you that tie looks horrible or your butt looks large in that dress.
Because they care more about being brutal than being honest and expect that they would get rewarded.
I am a pretty blunt and brutally honest person, even then I rarely insult people or say negative things. Just the other day I was out shopping with some friends, one guy tried a jacket on and it looked REALLY good on him, we all agreed he should get it. Another guy tried the same jacket and I told him exactly what was on my mind, "It looked better on him than you". Later on, further clarified it just means we need to find something else for him. I think many people would straight up say something meaner in this situation, everyone thought I was indeed being brutally honest and said what everyone was already thinking, but no one took an offense.
I’ve never experienced the former. As far as the latter goes, being honest, clear and concise is the most effective way to communicate every time and always. It only feels “blunt” if you’re overly sensitive. I despise deception in all of its forms save “illusions” and jokes. Snowflakes are hypocrites because they insist that you dance around their feelings and then whine that you’re not being honest with them. Thicken your skin and learn to accept the truth even when it sucks. Then nobody ever has to lie ever again. How wonderful would that be?
I think a lot of blunt people aren't used to people being blunt with them.
I know I have this problem where I can be pretty straightforward and I think it scares people a lot of the time from being honest with me.
I'm so not used to being criticized that when it happens, I kinda half explode for a second, but because I actually want people to be brutally honest with me so I can grow as a person, I quickly get control of myself and thank the person for their perspective.
But doing that means you gotta have a certain control over yourself. Most people aren't willing to implement that kind of discipline into their life.
Especially people like that because most people who are blunt are coming from a place of pessimism and laziness and not from genuine empathy or a desire to help.
People that brag about having this " brutal" honesty are the most dishonest of them of all and least likely to tell you what they really think. People that are upfront don't have to broadcast it, they juat are and people see it. It's like saying you have a big cock. If you have to say it, it probably isn't true.
There's nothing wrong with being tactful and even the bluntest or non-filtered person should learn how to do it. People who pride themselves on being "brutally honest" often don't understand that there's only a certain amount of "truth" each person can handle. When you give someone more than that, they're going to be defensive and shut you off, thereby defeating your supposed purpose.
Because a person who is genuinely brutally honest doesn't mean anything bad buy it.
Well except if they hate someone and want to see them dead and are perfectly honest about it.
They see being tactful as stupid and wasting time and to be honest Americans are unnecessarily tactful.
Is there really a nice way to say you fat? Blunt people don’t dance around your feelings on a subject. Tact might be a good option but it’s just sugarcoating a harsh truth.
Many times people like that think they are saying things that need to be said. It’s sort of like they are giving tough love, and then the person rejects them for it, so they feel slighted for doing something they thought was productive.
I value honesty with respect. If you putting people down cause that’s how you think you need to first work on yourself and second your a bully.
People who say brutal honest are often just looking for ways to be mean. They get upset that they are facing consequences when others don't take their advice or get angry.
They think it makes them look cool, or tough
“Brutally honest” people are usually sensitive lowkey
I would say people dont like hearing things that aren't so great.
Why do I care if a snowflake rejects me? It's a bug, it's a feature. I don't want to be friends or social with snowflakes. So good way to weed them out quick.
Tact is just another word for dishonesty. Maybe you should reject me if you can't handle honesty.
Very blunt people aren't interested in being honest but rather just hateful.
You can speak the truth without being hateful.If a person does like blunt talk then do not bother talkiing to them
Learn more
Most Helpful Opinions