When a guy you recently met and wants to be with you very bad says those words?

[Anonymous]

I’m doing everything I possibly can! I open up my heart to you I practically pour myself into you every single day and it’s like you don’t even care, absolutely nothing you’re getting 0% I’ve been nothing but nice smh , he tells me that bc I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be in a relationship with him or not so is it my fault?

[SteveSmith1985]

Well... Keep in mind that I only know the tiny bit you wrote here about the situation. But, it sounds like he's right. It's your fault.

If... you said you don't want a relationship ("not sure" is exactly the same thing). You cannot expect him to 'believe' your actions over your words. You do need to mean what you say. So if you're upset because HE no longer wants a relationship, or has found someone else, or has otherwise thrown a wrench into your future hopes.

Again, I DO NOT KNOW YOU OR YOUR SITUATION. If this is incorrect, fair enough. But if it is, please give me more to work with if you want a useful answer.

But... basically, if you say you aren't sure you want a relationship. I doesn't matter what you DO or what you SHOW. He is not going to think you feel ANY different than what you SAID. So if, in fact you DO decide at some point you want a relationship, you have to tell him. If you don't he is right to 'believe' the last thing you said.

Think about it in another context. You WANT men to believe "the last thing you said" rather than 'believing' whatever he interprets your actions to mean. That would be a rapists paradise.

You need to say it. Or he would be wrong to assume it. NO MATTER WHAT YOUR ACTIONS SEEM TO BE SAYING.

If I got this situation wrong... tell me the story please. 🙂