If you are not religious would you be ok with your partner going to church?

[Dawnlind92]

[caring__1]

How can we expect others to be respectful of our choices if we're not respectful of their choices? There's a big difference between enjoying an activity and insisting your partner join in. I would never limit what my partner does, though I'd need to understand her reasons for her choices before I decide to choose her as a partner.

I've always preferred being around free-thinkers over those who rely on others to tell them what they should or shouldn't feel, think or do. I enjoy thought conversations, where people elaborate on how their thoughts developed, so conversations limited to "because I said so" or "this is what I was told" tend to be empty and meaningless to me.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, as it happens I am religious, but I think I'd be okay with it if I wasn't; I'd be okay now with them going to a different church. It'd probably be a subject of many a long talk if we had kids, but a lot of those talks would include the kids, so that's not really a bad thing.

One of the perks of an all-singing, all-knowing god is that He knows what you mean, even when you don't. Plenty of room for good-faith (pun intended) errors, there, but plenty of room for forgiveness and understanding.

[NamerOfStars]

Gah! All-SEEING god, not all-singing. Although...

[SteveSmith1985]

I'm not religious. I would be just fine with my partner going to church.

If it were someone whose values I shared, then I don't see why I would have a problem with that. But... are there church-going women out there who would be ok with their partner NOT going to church?

[Crafteroon]

Yes, but it's also something that should be discussed thoroughly. For instance if we have kids would they want to drag them to church as well, and which doctrines would they want to follow and enforce upon the children. Once there is enough common ground and you acknowledge the differences, following different beliefs doesn't break the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not at all, though its not like the problem is the activity, if I thought they were going there as a one off to appreciate the architecture that would be fine, no, it is the belief in a supernatural being which is the issue here, its the taking instruction from ignorant and bigoted stone age peasants thats the problem.

[Kaneki05]

I wouldn't date someone who is christian or most faiths if not all. I have no problem with my partner doing their own things, so going to church don't bother me but the religion it's self will highly conflict with my non-conservative views.

[Mansearching]

Church isn't just conservative or liberal. Its for everone.

[Kaneki05]

That's not true. Christianity fundamentally was founded on conservative ideals unless your gonna tell me they now agree with abortions, sex before marriage, multiple partners, LGBT, recreational drugs, and fully accept science that disproves creation theory, proves Noah arc would just be impossible.
Because if they do agree with all that then by all means it's no longer conservative but good luck finding a church that agrees with those.

[Dawnlind92]

Understandable.

[Mansearching]

I'm not conservative. I believe in GOD and what bible says. Abortion is up to the woman, period. No gov't entity shall tell anybody what to do with their body, male or female. I've had sex and im not married. I cannot tell you what to believe, not my place. Personally if your a drug addict, I don't want that in my life. But thats me. If you asked for help getting off and going through dt's, sure I'll help. My christian duty.

[Kaneki05]

@Mansearching you contradict yourself, you believe what the bible say's but pick and choose to ignore it? Because last I checked sex before marriage according to the bible is a sin. It also is clear with a view that would be against abortion.

So now we'll just get into a debate about the typicality of religious hypocrites. Which is also not a thing I am looking for in a partner.

[Mansearching]

Then conservatives are bad bc they would rather their wives die instead of saving it. Id let my wife terminate to save her life. If thats a hypocrite then im one also a hero for saving my wifes life.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Absofuckinglutely! As for me I’m not religious & I have dated girls that went to church on a regular basis & if anyone wants to go to church more power to them.

[TonyV]

As long as they don't try to drag me there or convince me to go, I really don't care if they want to waste their free time at church.

[Berethor]

Churches are pretty rare where I live, maybe you should said place of worship. :)

[Dawnlind92]

Makes sense. I used the word church as a generic term for place of worship.

[Berethor]

Okay, I am secular, I don't think that it a big deal, is she anti-abortions if she so religious?

[Dawnlind92]

That's a good question. Religion is complicated. For example, some people follow their faith 100 percent, but many don't. Different religions also obviously have different rules.

Most Christians are anti gay, but some Christian churches now are ok with LGBQ.

Some are against tattoos but others are ok with them

Some are against consumption of alcohol but many people use it behind closed doors.

Some are against consumption of certain meats but some people still eat occasionally

I also know many Christians who have terminated unwanted pregnancies behind closed doors.

[UniquelyBasic]

She can do it if she wants as long as she doesn't try to force it on me.

[Dawnlind92]

I agree. The "forcing" part can be fairly uncomfortable for most people

[loveslongnails]

My partner DOES go to church, and I'm not religious, so the answer is yes! We have the same basic beliefs to a point, but she enjoys church and I don't. It's not a big deal.

[exitseven]

Yes, my wife used to go to church on a regular basis. I would sometimes go with her but most of the time I did not.

[FunkyMonkee]

I wouldn't stop her but I'd think she was stupid for wasting her time, unless she was just going as an observer.

[spartan55]

Of course, that would give me 2-3 hours of free time.

[20yearsolder]

I'm not religious and if she wants to go, absolutely she can go.

[ArtemisSilver]

Hmm, doesn't bode well for the relationship but I wouldn't be too bothered. I just hope they'd know better than to fully drink the Kool aid.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If I had a girl, it would be fine with me.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’d be all right with going with my partner to the church of Satanism.

[pizzalovershouse]

Hard to say cuz some people will bug you or not going others won't

[Wiredone]

Absolutely. I'm not going to keep her from going to church

[Alex8736]

absolutely. if you respect their beliefs then hopefully they respect yours

[slatyb]

Not a possible problem. I don't date believers.

[Agape93]

They can do as they like.

[Anonymous]

No, I would find it deeply disturbing.

[Dawnlind92]

Understandable. I expect it would be awkward for some people

[Mansearching]

Of course. No reason to stop them.

[Twalli]

As long as she doesn't pressure me to go.

[LiamSawyer]

Yes why not?

[LemiaOfThunder]

Yes I would

[Jmmmfi4]

Yeah