After the 3rd break-up, is it normal to be exhausting from dating?

[Anonymous]

It wasn't even worth breaking up but he called it quits too fast. It makes me think relationships are a joke nowadays. People can break up over any small differences, over anything. People expect everything to be sunny and no hardships whatsoever.

I'm exhausted from dating at this moment. I'm tired of going through the vetting process once again. I'm not even heartbroken nor sad at all. I'm stressed out and tired of all this.

[Finchie40]

Yes , especially nowadays , trusting in people has become a lot harder to do , I blame a lot of it on social media , even though I still jump on my phone I don’t allow social media to consume my mind , it will tear you apart cuz no matter what I am going through in life social media has an answer and makes you question and doubt yourself and others , shit like oh if your partner is doing this then it means they are doing this etc.. so I end up being stuck in the middle of what to believe and not believe , the best thing I did for myself was to put my phone down as much as possible and not allow the negativity to effect my life. The way I look at it is if a girl wants to cheat on me she can , I can’t stop her and I can’t force her to love me , if she chooses to walk away I just let her go and realize I deserve someone that doesn’t want to leave my side , so I treat a girl the same way I want to be treated , I don’t
Commit to a girl for the hell of it and I won’t commit to a girl for the hell of it , I been burned , back stabbed, cheated on , and I also did the same , to me it was a learning experience , in my life , I learned the only way Love can grow is of 2 people resort temptations for each other and remove selfishness for each other , because their is always consequences to your actions. So to find someone that is on the same page as you is hard to come by these days , so my advice to you is focus on yourself and realize you deserve someone that is going to stand by you no matter what , Their actions will speak louder than words.

[Summeroflove]

Yes it is. Maybe you just need some time. Once you start liking a guy again. You’ll know you’re ready

[Anonymous]

To be blunt, it doesn't sound like you actually HAD any relationships to "break up". It sounds more like you were investing in guys who weren't investing back in you. If so, it wasn't really a relationship, because those are mutual. Is that the story?

[Asker]

yes, in those relationship I was more available to them than they were towards me. I even sacrificed a couple work hours (I had to switch it for Saturday) just to be with him. Meanwhile he respected his work, his hours and wouldn't even sacrifice it not even for my own b-day; he only visited late at night for a couple hours and then left.

[Asker]

So here I am dedicating a lot, sacrificing a couple of my own work hours (my money at the same time because that means I've earned a bit less), doing so much and not getting the same treatment in return, just for him to be ungrateful and break-up.

[Opinion Owner]

It's sad to hear it, worse to be a part of it, I know. Sure, you're exhausted. Take some time to be on your own. What's going on right now?

[Blackmoonsns]

You should always take a break after a breakup to heal, if you don't all you do is bring your baggage to the next relationship, and it's doomed to fail.