Should I take it that he isn’t interested or he needs time?

[Anonymous]

so I and an acquaintance agreed to be friends with benefits. I left midway through intimacy and didn’t end up going all the way as he said he was tired. He contacted me a few days after then left it 2 weeks without contacting me. When he got in contact he said sorry I have not been I touch I have been sorting out things with family. For now, I don’t think I’ll be available for friends with benefits. But happy to chat as fiends. Is he not interested or by him saying for now he is not available he means when he is available he will contact me? I do like him.

[quaranta]

He is an adult and unless he is an extreme introvert with low social skills who can't dare saying anything except using indirect ways, then he would let you clearly know if you are wanted or not. He would chat a lot, be a daily presence, wanting to know you better etc.
Which means, if you have the doubt, then he doesn't want you, or not in the way you hope. If he wanted you, in 2 weeks he had really a big load of chances to even have a casual chat to keep contacts with you, whatever his problem with family was, 10 minutes before sleeping or while eating were free for sure unless he is a nurse/caregiver and got burnt out by 2 constant weeks of actual continuous assistance and now he is recovering... But he would tell you about such a specific case. Also, he would be afraid you might run to someone else in the meanwhile, and would make sure to keep contacts with you to avoid that.
To be honest I think he was flirting/hooking up with another girl then got kind of together with her and doesn't want to cheat on her with a friends with benefits now. It might be even he broke up with his ex and wanted casual hookups to "distract" himself, then got back with her again during these 2 weeks.
Why else would he refuse casual sex? Either another woman, or you were clingy/needy and he doesn't want the burden/guilt to lead you on while not reciprocating you.

Either way, if you want more, definitely you don't want a friendship with benefits. Many women make this random mistake of thinking that through sex they will get a committed relationship but that is really not a working strategy, it works mostly with women who after sex feel committed but men mostly keep the two things very separated. If you want a committed partner you have to start it like that, requiring the guy you date to be on the same page (he looks for a committed relationship too). If he isn't, then he is looking for casual sex only, and if you give him casual sex, of course he won't go further because his goal is achieved already. It just doesn't work like that, don't ever go for this "strategy".
Go for casual sex / friends with benefits ONLY in case you are actually looking for casual/friends with benefits only, rejecting any commitment, knowing you won't feel any attachment afterwards. All it takes is to be honest with yourself and with the guy, and demanding the same honesty.

[Asker]

Yeah I meant is he not interested in continuing with friends with benefits? And the fact that he said for now he is not available for friends with benefits. Does that mean he is saying he is not ever available or not available for now? I was under the impression when he said he was ok with that then it would be at least a weekly thing.

[quaranta]

I have no idea, you might ask him but most likely he will give you a vague reply to keep the contacts possibly open for when he wants to recycle you when he'll be single again, or to just not start an argument.
Don't stay available for him and waiting for him, you said you like him, but if you wait for his return you'd just make him your main target while you aren't his main most likely and that is a dangerous position for your self value and mental health at some point, plus he didn't give any sign of committment, but the commitment you'd put to wait him would be big (and not reciprocated).
What matters is he doesn't want you now. If he wanted to keep you there for something serious in the future he would make sure to not reject you so directly and to keep contacts frequently... Not letting you go for someone else. But he did. So I think he won't be available for quite long (or ever, as we don't know the real reason behind his rejection).
The only healthy thing to do now is to detach from him and to date other guys...

[Guy13]

No guarantee, when you check-in, that his current Situationship will accommodate another sexual encounter

[spartan55]

If you like him then why would you be friends with benefits with him?

[Summeroflove]

Because he was just using you for sex. Lol