Is he not interested anymore, or am I overthinking it?

[Anonymous]

I had bad dating experience before so I always overthink and am wary about the signals someone is sending.

I’ve been dating this guy for 3 weeks and went on 3 dates so far. First one was initiated by him, other two by me but he was always pretty enthusiastic when I brought going out. He initiates conversation almost everyday, but I’m usually the one that keeps it going on text and he keeps it going when we meet up. When I text, he responds within a couple of hours max and if it takes longer than that, he’d tell me what he was busy with. He asks what I’m doing, etc when the conversation dies down. He pays for our dates (Yes, I did offer) and drives me home. He let it slip that he told his best friend about me, and said that he puts effort to text me although he doesn’t really like texting.

Although, here come the things that make me wonder whether I’m receiving mixed signals. I know he has a busy life, but he doesn’t usually initiate meeting up. I usually do that. Also, he’s not very attentive on text and would be dry sometimes (would end up restarting the convo with ‘wyd rn’ though). Also, he cut our last date short (2 and a half hours in) because he wanted to go home and sleep. Today is also our first day without talking (the last text was ‘good luck’ which I sent to him yesterday) and he didn’t initiate anything today.

Am I overthinking this? And how can I communicate effectively without scaring him away? His birthday is tomorrow, by the way.

[Changiis07]

Yes you are overthinking. It happens to all of us when we like someone we look into every single text and how long it takes to respond and yes very unhealthy. I use to this all the time but it's exhausting lol Best you can do is LET HIM DO THE WORK and also mirror his efforts and stop initiating. You are the prize overall and men like a chase. So if your text was last let him text you and stop with the double texts and he said he doesn't like texting so maybe you should start calling each other more. He can treat you how you want to be treated. Texting is horrible there is so so much miscommunication and so much overthinking. Start calling him and when he tries to text then you call him. That way he knows he has to call you instead of text. Trust me texting is the worse way of communicating

[howhigh420]

hunni i went through the same stuff and my boyfriend was cheating on me just trust ure gut doll nd uwl find the answer it was in my gut that i found out my ex eas a snakey cheating prick he use to call me all the time then it slowed down nd less text just you trust ure instinct ure heartvand gut will lead to the path of sucsess hunni

[Truthatanycost]

The best way to deal with this sort of stuff is to have your own life, hobbies, interests etc etc. You shouldn't have time to be worrying about this... that is where a lot of women go wrong. They are not living a life.

[Asker]

I do, though! It’s just that I don’t like the ambiguity dating brings, so I tend to get anxious about it which makes me hyper-fixated. This is why I try to get an objective view of the situation.