For the last few months I've been hanging out with this guy every week, just the two of us. A few days ago I decided to confess my feelings to him, and this was his answer:
I am the "best person he has ever met" and "one of the most important people in his life", he is physically attracted by me and thinks I'm pretty, and feels an intense emotional connection with me. Yet, "currently" his "boundary" is a friendship. He said that maybe in the future (he talked about a 10 years time, lol) things will change, but today he doesn't want anything more.
He was shattered when I told him that I'd prefer to cut contact with him, and he said that letting me go was one of the most painful things he has ever done, and that he hopes that someday we can go back to being friends.
Now,
1) Should I stay friends with him or is it better to walk away "forever"?
2) Do you think things could actually change in the future?
3) If he is physically attracted to me plus likes me so much as a person, why isn't he interested in me? What could I do to improve?
I have to add that there's a significant age gap between us.
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You have 3 choices, both of you. 1, you continue to be friends, and move on from having talks about romantic relationship with each other. Its obvious its going nowhere. and find somebody else to romantically involved with.
2) move on completely
But if you feel can't have a friendship with him, because of your feelings for him, then its best to move completely, it will just make things harder for you in the friendship.
But also you keep stating about his feelings towards you, unfortunately, his feelings towards you are none of your business, It only becomes your business, if his feelings towards are making you uncomfortable, he is making you wanting to have sex with him, or his hurting you. But if he only told you his feelings, then I suggest you mind your own business.
The only feelings you need to be concerned about, is your feelings towards him. If he does have feelings for you, but doesn't want a relationship with you, move on and find someone else. Some are like that, they have romantic feelings for someone but don't want a relationship with that person for whatever reason.
You would have to be absolutely insane to stick around. Number one, you know he's a liar already because how the hell could you possibly be the most important person in his life after a few months? Number two; your personality doesn't click with him in whatever romantic way it needs to to excite him about dating you.
If you want something more than he does, don't wait for him.
Things could change. What is it he wants bs what you want?