Do you believe in love at first sight? I think this is what happened to me and my boyfriend?

[CoolCatMar1]

Have you ever felt that? Or you think it's crap?

[GoodManDave]

I don't know. It may be possible... but I tend to think it's lust or infatuation vs "true love." Like it can TURN into "true love" and be legit and become love, and I don't think there's a set limit on timing (though if you're not acting loving with each other within six months, then maybe look at why you're together). So a couple can meet, get married within three days, or two months... and it's POSSIBLE that it can smoothly transition from "puppy love" or "infatuation" or "lust" to however we define true love fairly seamlessly... but it's unusual. And true love doesn't mean "perfect" love - because both people will screw up, hurt the other (even unintentionally).

And for me, I have to say that while I loved my girlfriends in a generic "Christian" sense of the word, and may have been in the process of falling hard for some, I doubt I really loved any of them, in the "true love" sense. Because at least for me, true love takes time. I can treat them lovingly. I can do the verb. But that doesn't make it true love, and that shouldn't mean that I stick with them when they're repeatedly horrible because I have "those feelings." Sometimes love is about respecting myself and realizing it isn't going to work, and it isn't true, even if I want to put in the effort. Love, sadly, isn't always a two way street, but the best kind and the truest kinds will be.

[katestar89]

I agree with you.

[DaveJord]

Nope. This is something I believe in when I was 20 years old. But as I got older and discovered what real love was, I realized how silly it was. Too love someone on site without even ever knowing them. Nope.

Truth is that I have had instant sexual attraction on site. Deep rooted desire to want to have sex with a particular woman. Like a lot stronger desire then normal. But that was not love. Sure it happened for me once or twice and we dated for a while. But it was not true love... and she was just sexy and I loved the physical aspects of the relationship. When that wore out and the real work started the relationship wasn't fun any more for either of us.

[RavVid]

Certainly there can be true lust on first sight and I agree that isn't love.

But for me it hasn't always been just the girl's face and body. Sometimes her personality, humor and nature have been the strongest attraction and that wrapped up into quite a nice package together with her body. If it is mutual then it can be passionate.

Crush at first sight is possibly the best way to describe this - more than lust and less than love.

[DaveJord]

@RavVid Yeah, I would agree with crush at first site, that's reasonable.

[katestar89]

I've been there before. It was to me

[jennifer_bloom]

It might be possible but its never happened to me - I had guys notice me at first glance but they were people that were not good for me. But if a guy is very attractive, I might like him quickly - within a short period, after I verify he's not crazy or mean.

[CoolCatMar1]

I guess you mean Asian men

[jennifer_bloom]

I prefer Asian men but I would consider all races if the situation was good. The guys that liked me had personality issues. One bullied other students and the other had anger issues.

[TwiNshichamp1]

@jennifer_bloom Ooh I get what you mean. After knowing the person, you feel like you can't go ahead with him.

[kylee2437]

I do not. A lot of people get caught up in this idea and ignore essential details that may have separated them from their decision of being with someone. Love is not effortless , and if it was everyone would have a healthy relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

How can you love someone before you really know them? If you fall in love "at first sight," you are falling in love wth a fantasy in your head that you created based on a very few clues that you know about the person. And the motivation to do this is eagerness and desire to experience love.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Attraction or lust at first sight, yes… “love” at first sight, no…

[lucasnabizada]

I believe in 'attraction' at first sight most definitely lol... Love at first sight is a weird thing, if you don't know the person yet you can't love them proper...

I met girls which I became instantly attracted to 'first sight' but then talking to them and being around them for 5secs was enough for me to get the hell out of there lol You don't know someone in one look

[Emogirl999]

I don't know about real love but when I saw my boyfriend for the first time my heart melted and I got butterflies in my stomach, I still feel that way around him and for 2 years no matter how hard I tried I couldnt stop thinking about him. The more time I spent with him and the more got to know him the stronger my feelings got for him. Eventually I worked up the guts to ask him out and now we have been dating for over a year and I am very much in love with.

[katestar89]

I've been there before

[ohsheeT]

Very well could be for many reasons.
The way I feel about it us the first look in to someone's eyes you can see and feel who they really are on the inside we all have an energy field that project at least 8 feet around us and when another energy steps in to our energy you can feel them and then you hear and feel the vibrations of there voice and in that moment you see and feel that person deep it's as if becoming one with them. So I say yes it's very possible

[CrazyGirl2]

YEP! It happened to my parents, they saw each other quite by random, they were both convinced that they knew eachother, even though my dad is English and my American mom JUST arrived in London that afternoon. They were married three months later, and are still madly in love and act like newlyweds! No, it has not ever happened to me.

[smashleyy]

no. real love takes time and effort. People think you automatically need chemistry because of how the media portrays love. If you’re falling inlove at first sight you’re falling inlove with an idea of someone not who they actually are and likely setting yourself and them up for disappointment.

[inhua]

yes it exists. it's called the 3 sec rule where people know exactly who they want to fuck within those 3 secs. this test is primarily looks based and only by passing this test does the other person want to know your personality. it's never the other way around.

[Paulalove98]

I definitely do believe it can be possible for some people it’s just a little harder to find these days for some of us but that’s incredible you felt that way with your boyfriend! Wish you guys the best.

[CoolCatMar1]

Thank you! He is actually a very great guy so i was right

[SphynxUK]

I really don’t know.
I heard a voice in my head say ‘thats the man I’m going to marry’ when I met my ex husband lol.
I don’t know if it was premonition…
I think you can be struck with lust which feels like love but until you know the person, you can’t love them.

[shu2905]

Absolutely! Love at first sight is a powerful emotion that can make an unforgettable impression. It can happen when two people see each other for the first time and feel an immediate connection, as if they've known each other for a long time. It can be a powerful force of attraction or a feeling of deep admiration and appreciation. Whether it leads to a long-term relationship or not, love at first sight has a lasting effect on the people involved.

[Alchemizt]

I don't think you can truly fall in love for someone unless you get to know them well. There can be moments where you see someone and think "God, that's the type of person I've always looked for", that's basically physical attraction or infatuation.

[MysticDevice]

I didn't until I kind of experienced it once. I met this girl who was exactly the kind of person I was looking for. Immediately I was like yup, its her. She's the one. It was a bizarre feeling.

She didn't feel the same as she was already engaged though lol.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Yeah I think so this happened to me me with my first love. We got to be friends, she was nice to me and I fallen in love. I was so shy and never told her directly. It ended badly really. I felt uncomfortable and think that she was not into me. We never talked and be close as we were before. So my point is, Yes you can fall in love at first sight but it depends how the other person feels too.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Hey @CoolCatMar1 sup girl, has been a long time. It's nice you got a boyfriend now I am happy for you!

[Danny_dan92]

Sort of. You can’t necessarily judge a book on it’s cover.




You can find someone aesthetically pleasing to look at but their personality doesn’t mesh well with yours. That would lead to either just a fling or an eventual toxic relationship

[exitseven]

Sometimes you can get overloaded with hormones and pheromones and you can confuse it with love.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I believe it. I fell in love with my wife when I first saw her. She was dating my brother at the time. She broke up with him and dated another guy for a couple months but treated her badly. He couldn't even buy her a gift for her birthday. Shortly after her birthday she broke up with him and I asked her out. We've been together for 35 years and married for almost 30 years.

[Red-Blaze]

I do not
There is attraction in first sight, but love grows

On the outher hand I do got aomeone I kind of crashing on without them knowing so... and got to know them more, and still, so... I clearly not a good source

[weysally]

I thin its infatuation at first, I then think yxou start to like some one, then love comes your way,

[ChillaxingLove]

That’s Lust at first site or instant attraction that people mistake for love because they feel so strongly about it. Actual Love requires actual effort and action behind it, it’s not a feeling and it’s not sex.