Do you believe in love at first sight? I think this is what happened to me and my boyfriend?

Question

Have you ever felt that? Or you think it's crap?

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

I don't know. It may be possible... but I tend to think it's lust or infatuation vs "true love." Like it can TURN into "true love" and be legit and become love, and I don't think there's a set limit on timing (though if you're not acting loving with each other within six months, then maybe look at why you're together). So a couple can meet, get married within three days, or two months... and it's POSSIBLE that it can smoothly transition from "puppy love" or "infatuation" or "lust" to however we define true love fairly seamlessly... but it's unusual. And true love doesn't mean "perfect" love - because both people will screw up, hurt the other (even unintentionally).

And for me, I have to say that while I loved my girlfriends in a generic "Christian" sense of the word, and may have been in the process of falling hard for some, I doubt I really loved any of them, in the "true love" sense. Because at least for me, true love takes time. I can treat them lovingly. I can do the verb. But that doesn't make it true love, and that shouldn't mean that I stick with them when they're repeatedly horrible because I have "those feelings." Sometimes love is about respecting myself and realizing it isn't going to work, and it isn't true, even if I want to put in the effort. Love, sadly, isn't always a two way street, but the best kind and the truest kinds will be.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Nope. This is something I believe in when I was 20 years old. But as I got older and discovered what real love was, I realized how silly it was. Too love someone on site without even ever knowing them. Nope.

Truth is that I have had instant sexual attraction on site. Deep rooted desire to want to have sex with a particular woman. Like a lot stronger desire then normal. But that was not love. Sure it happened for me once or twice and we dated for a while. But it was not true love... and she was just sexy and I loved the physical aspects of the relationship. When that wore out and the real work started the relationship wasn't fun any more for either of us.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

It might be possible but its never happened to me - I had guys notice me at first glance but they were people that were not good for me. But if a guy is very attractive, I might like him quickly - within a short period, after I verify he's not crazy or mean.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

I do not. A lot of people get caught up in this idea and ignore essential details that may have separated them from their decision of being with someone. Love is not effortless , and if it was everyone would have a healthy relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How can you love someone before you really know them? If you fall in love "at first sight," you are falling in love wth a fantasy in your head that you created based on a very few clues that you know about the person. And the motivation to do this is eagerness and desire to experience love.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Attraction or lust at first sight, yes… “love” at first sight, no…

lucasnabizada · Answer

I believe in 'attraction' at first sight most definitely lol... Love at first sight is a weird thing, if you don't know the person yet you can't love them proper...

I met girls which I became instantly attracted to 'first sight' but then talking to them and being around them for 5secs was enough for me to get the hell out of there lol You don't know someone in one look

Emogirl999 · Answer

I don't know about real love but when I saw my boyfriend for the first time my heart melted and I got butterflies in my stomach, I still feel that way around him and for 2 years no matter how hard I tried I couldnt stop thinking about him. The more time I spent with him and the more got to know him the stronger my feelings got for him. Eventually I worked up the guts to ask him out and now we have been dating for over a year and I am very much in love with.

ohsheeT · Answer

Very well could be for many reasons.
The way I feel about it us the first look in to someone's eyes you can see and feel who they really are on the inside we all have an energy field that project at least 8 feet around us and when another energy steps in to our energy you can feel them and then you hear and feel the vibrations of there voice and in that moment you see and feel that person deep it's as if becoming one with them. So I say yes it's very possible

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

YEP! It happened to my parents, they saw each other quite by random, they were both convinced that they knew eachother, even though my dad is English and my American mom JUST arrived in London that afternoon. They were married three months later, and are still madly in love and act like newlyweds! No, it has not ever happened to me.

smashleyy · Answer

no. real love takes time and effort. People think you automatically need chemistry because of how the media portrays love. If you’re falling inlove at first sight you’re falling inlove with an idea of someone not who they actually are and likely setting yourself and them up for disappointment.

inhua · Answer

yes it exists. it's called the 3 sec rule where people know exactly who they want to fuck within those 3 secs. this test is primarily looks based and only by passing this test does the other person want to know your personality. it's never the other way around.

Paulalove98 · Answer

I definitely do believe it can be possible for some people it’s just a little harder to find these days for some of us but that’s incredible you felt that way with your boyfriend! Wish you guys the best.

SphynxUK · Answer

I really don’t know.
I heard a voice in my head say ‘thats the man I’m going to marry’ when I met my ex husband lol.
I don’t know if it was premonition…
I think you can be struck with lust which feels like love but until you know the person, you can’t love them.

shu2905 · Answer

Absolutely! Love at first sight is a powerful emotion that can make an unforgettable impression. It can happen when two people see each other for the first time and feel an immediate connection, as if they've known each other for a long time. It can be a powerful force of attraction or a feeling of deep admiration and appreciation. Whether it leads to a long-term relationship or not, love at first sight has a lasting effect on the people involved.

MysticDevice · Answer

I didn't until I kind of experienced it once. I met this girl who was exactly the kind of person I was looking for. Immediately I was like yup, its her. She's the one. It was a bizarre feeling.

She didn't feel the same as she was already engaged though lol.

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Yeah I think so this happened to me me with my first love. We got to be friends, she was nice to me and I fallen in love. I was so shy and never told her directly. It ended badly really. I felt uncomfortable and think that she was not into me. We never talked and be close as we were before. So my point is, Yes you can fall in love at first sight but it depends how the other person feels too.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Sort of. You can’t necessarily judge a book on it’s cover.

You can find someone aesthetically pleasing to look at but their personality doesn’t mesh well with yours. That would lead to either just a fling or an eventual toxic relationship

Alchemizt · Answer

I don't think you can truly fall in love for someone unless you get to know them well. There can be moments where you see someone and think "God, that's the type of person I've always looked for", that's basically physical attraction or infatuation.

exitseven · Answer

Sometimes you can get overloaded with hormones and pheromones and you can confuse it with love.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes I believe it. I fell in love with my wife when I first saw her. She was dating my brother at the time. She broke up with him and dated another guy for a couple months but treated her badly. He couldn't even buy her a gift for her birthday. Shortly after her birthday she broke up with him and I asked her out. We've been together for 35 years and married for almost 30 years.

Red-Blaze · Answer

I do not
There is attraction in first sight, but love grows

On the outher hand I do got aomeone I kind of crashing on without them knowing so... and got to know them more, and still, so... I clearly not a good source

weysally · Answer

I thin its infatuation at first, I then think yxou start to like some one, then love comes your way,

ChillaxingLove · Answer

That’s Lust at first site or instant attraction that people mistake for love because they feel so strongly about it. Actual Love requires actual effort and action behind it, it’s not a feeling and it’s not sex.

catiecatie · Answer

Kinda sorta. I might think the guy is cute and everything but until I get to know him better and make sure everything is similar to what I want then yeah I can say that. If not then no.

Msputiton · Answer

Nope. If the only thing someone bases love off of is looks, that is not actually love. That is admiring the beauty of them, which is not the same as falling in love with someone's mind body and soul

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think love at first sight happens in every new relationship. One can lose themselves in the aesthetics of another person and once you get to know them, solidify the relationship.

sexy_julia · Answer

My husband and I only knew each other for six days before we fell in love. Two months later, we got married. I was 19, and he was 54. We’ve been married for 14 years now and have six kids.

Phoenix98 · Answer

My father fell in love with my mother at first sight, his exact words when he first saw her was someday I'm gonna marry that woman, and he did exactly that.

So I can't really deny that it does exist however rare.

Red_Arrow · Answer

That is crap. Interest and even lust can happen at first sight. But love is a reaction to liking the person inside and getting to know them better. That does not happen at first sight.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Never happened to me and I don't think it will either whether it is this: love at first sight / attraction / lust / spark / infatuation - thing.

Paige90 · Answer

The only time I believe in it is when you see your baby for the first time.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nah, that's rom-com nonsense. What you're talking about is just hormones. Love develops over time.

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

No, more like having interest at first sight. There’s no way you could in love with someone within seconds or minutes or even hours. Love need process

sheikalana · Answer

It happens to some. I never experienced love at first sight though I've experienced attraction at first sight which later on evolved to falling in love with that person.

wittymilf · Answer

I think so… I felt like I loved my husband the first time I saw him and that was 29 years ago. I don’t love him the same way today though 😂😂

Jessica405 · Answer

I do. I fell for a guy 6 1/2 years ago just because of a simple act of kindness. I moved in with him after 4 weeks. We are still together.

Gummy_Cluster · Answer

Unfortunately, it's a real thing, and it messes with your head.

Labokachulaa · Answer

I used to, but not anymore now that I've grown older.

melanieeeB · Answer

No I don't, I believe in chemistry/attraction at first sight

Justneedtokno · Answer

I don’t truly believe in love at first sight I do believe in attraction at first sight which is different something that can draw you to this person. Love can come after.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Not at all, but good for you. Sure you can find the person attractive, but you can't fall in love with someone just from looking at them and knowing nothing about them

Random_g · Answer

I believe in interest/ attraction at first sight, not love.

emmaa1 · Answer

I believe in "lust at first sight", love is beyond being a coincidence.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I believe in lust as first sight & love follows.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe in love at first sight and it does happen when two couples share a special bond between each other.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... but it can still feel like it and it can still work out like that

dustybiker · Answer

When a great match you most definitely feel something. Even if at first you are in denial.

Berethor · Answer

If you had that why you asking? for me is seems odd, to love that you don't know.

loveslongnails · Answer

For the most part, it's crap, not always, but most of the time. If I were setting up odds, I'd say your chances are about 1 in a 1,000 that it sticks.

RavVid · Answer

No it definitely happens. It could just be mutual lust at first sight.

Lyrem_ · Answer

Nope! Cuz whats there to fall in love with? Their looks that it.

CateM · Answer

Not love. Lust can be "at first sight" but love takes time

bowenw · Answer

I'm not sure about love, but I've felt an instant attraction and connection.

Gibbons44 · Answer

Nah, it's not the braininess nor the eye colour - it (well isn't providence) is the courage to write back and to assume/to take as granted 💞

hhhffg7889 · Answer

The day I met my wife, before I ever even spoke with her, I told our college professor "I'm going to marry that girl."  We've been together 13 years now.

msc545 · Answer

I used to believe in that when I was younger but I certainly don't anymore. I think it's just a hormone response and if you mistake it for love you can have serious problems.

DavidRaul · Answer

I somehow believe in love at first sight and i still think its crap at the same time

hellfirec · Answer

Attraction at first sight happens. It did happen with me.

LogicBomber · Answer

No. You had “lust” at first sight. Love is just a name we give the chemical our body produces to induce mating.

AydenHazor · Answer

I've felt attraction at first sight, but love requires you to know a person beyond the merely physical

Jennz6 · Answer

No, you need to know someone first, people who say Love at first sight are really Lusting at first sight

Luffy1990 · Answer

No took awhile before falling for someone (still haven’t found my soulmate

es20490446e · Answer

You can fall in love about what you image this person to be like.

Do you believe in love at first sight? I think this is what happened to me and my boyfriend?

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