I want my shy boyfriend to kiss me, how can I make him do that without telling him?

[Anonymous]

[abc3643]

LOL...
Very good question and I don't know the answer really.
However, I think I have a plan...

42 years ago, I had my first girlfriend. Her name was Laura. She had just turned 16 and was a junior in high school. I was about to turn 18 (or maybe did) and was a senior in high school.

I was definitely the shy boyfriend. She had boyfriends before me. We were actually friends for two years before which is one reason why I didn't escalate it. Indeed, I tried to fix her up with an earlier boyfriend the previous year. Also, during this time, I was her tutor even though I don't remember being paid or even caring; we just hung out at her house so much. I was the boyfriend without realizing I was the boyfriend.

Anyway, one night, we were in her basement and playing ping pong. She decided to take a break and get an orange or two from the fridge. We ate them and, I don't know what came over me, but I wanted to kiss her on the cheek to thank her. The next thing I know, this girl's tongue is in my mouth as we French kiss. When we took a break from that, she said "It's about time, Vin!" We were officially a couple at that point.

OK, I wanted to tell you that story because that will help explain the plan...

I kissed Laura as a thank you kiss and then things took off.

What you need to do is set up a situation in which a similar kind of kiss occurs...

So, one thing you could do is have him do something nice for you - like Laura getting me an orange - and then you kiss him "thank you". After that and a deep look into each others' eyes and you'll be going at at.

You could also be a little forward... do something nice for him and hint that you expect a thank you kiss. And when he does, then you escalate it making it a passionate kiss.

Understand what I am trying to say?

Good luck, young lady!

[Asker]

how can i be so sure that he'll kiss me...

[abc3643]

In which situation?

[abc3643]

Generally, it doesn't matter. Look, you want to be "sure". So YOU are just as "shy" as he is. Why isn't he kissing you? He wants to be "sure" it's OK and he isn't sure.

What Laura did was assertive. I gently kissed her thank you and she then elevated it.
You can do the same thing: Hint that you expect a thank you kiss and then you escalate it.

[Asker]

okay i get it.. thank u for ur opinion :))

[abc3643]

Please let me know how this turns out! You kids remind me of myself and I so want to know how this will go for you. Trust me - this will be a wonderful moment that you will remember the rest of your life. It did for me and it's been over 42 years...

[Asker]

wow sure okayy

[DaveJord]

Well go in for hug and when he hugs you back you really lean into the hug and pulled him tight and close to you. Then pull back just enough and look him in the eyes and hold the eye contact more than normal and hopefully he will get the idea and go in for the kiss.

[Asker]

hmm okayy

[Ms_Facesitter]

That's really tough, BECAUSE he's shy. Steal a kiss, give him a peck after saying goodbye.

[Asker]

but will it be fine.. kissing him. its my first time too n his too

[Ms_Facesitter]

Maybe at the end of a great date you can just ask him if it's okay.

[Asker]

ill try...

[Ms_Facesitter]

Don't force it :) feel it out

[Asker]

yep..

[Guy13]

I have no idea. People either tell or do. Those are your two options.

[Messianic_Monk]

been that guy 😅

my previous girl initiated the first kiss. I had never kissed a girl until then. Swooped right in and took it. Basically it was her signal that she was okay with me kissing her (back in the day I was a lot more awkward than I am now, so I was concerned that anything I did would be the wrong move).

maybe kiss him first? maybe that's what he needs to feel confident to do it.

And if you already have then there are certain physical cues you can give off that you want to be kissed. What my girl would do is smile and put her chin on my shoulder. That was her cue she'd give me to kiss her. It worked 👍🏾

[Asker]

i'll try once i get a moment

[BJP21]

Make the move on him. Give him some warning before you do. Just say hey I wanted to do this with you. Pucker up and land one on his kisser.

[Asker]

Won't the warning make it more weird and awkward

[BJP21]

The only reason I say is so he doesn't take it the wrong way.

[Asker]

he will understand i guess. we love each other n were together... thanks :))

[Yellovv]

Are you sure he is your boyfriend or just friend?

[Asker]

he's my boyfriend.. been dating for 3 weeks now.

[Yellovv]

How old are you and him?

[Asker]

we both are turned 15 last year October end

[Asker]

15 both

[Anonymous]

Is communication a lost art?

[Asker]

no never