Have you ever been bullied, if so how did it affect you and has it affected you as an adult, and why?

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dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

I’ve been bullied before. At the time, it felt like I could not rely on the teachers, I could not rely on my parents, I couldn’t rely on my classmates. When a bully wanted to beat me up, nobody got in the way.

Then I learned how to fight back.

After being able to beat up bullies that were bigger than me, I began to carry myself with more confidence, and the bullying pretty much stopped.

I got into one last fight in high school, but after that, I was never messed with again.

I was forced into a situation where I could remain a victim forever for find a way to get stronger. Nobody is going to be there to save me but myself. If I want salvation, I need to learn how to become my own hero and step up for myself.

It forced me to grow. I’m strong and independent now, and I believe part of that is thanks to developing the will to fight back when life is pushing me into a corner.

The downside is that not relying on others has made me more of a lone wolf.

Friends lean on each other. And, I didn’t really feel comfortable leaning on others.

That lack of vulnerability has made most of my friendships more shallow. Few people really know me at a deep level because I’m quite guarded. It’s just a tendency that I have that I haven’t been able to shake. It’s difficult to know me because I don’t open up easily.

That’s something I need to work on if I want to really reach my true potential.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I was a fat kid and was picked on. When I was in 9th grade there was a kid that was 17 in the 9th grade because he go left back a couple of times that used to pick on me. I pestered my parents to let me join a gym in the next town. I wanted to go there because nobody would know me. I worked out hard and lost weight and got in shape. By the time I was in my junior year the football coach approached me and asked me if I wanted to go out for the team. I never saw that kid that picked on me after the 9th grade. I assume he dropped out. I tried to find out what happened to him but he has no footprint on the internet. I assume his life did not turn out so great however.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

In elementary school I was always bullied by this guy in my class everyday... now thinking back on it, I think he probably liked me because one time I dressed up nice for picture day he never bothered me that day he just looked at me a lot. Then in grade 7 I got these 4 girls in my class and they would always tease me but the one girl I beat up tho so it would be less often. Then in high school I wasn't really bothered but lots of randoms would say shit to me.. Then in grade 11 I snapped and completely changed for the better. The bullying affected me in that I never wanted to go out alone, I didn't like having to talk to people I didn't know, just always thinking people are thinking the worst about me. But now that I got on a medication for anxiety and depression I don't really give a shit about other people anymore. So yeah I'm kind of an asshole now days but usually only to people who are rude to me.

DancingQueen16 · Accepted Answer

I was bullied a lot when I was little and that made me scared of talking to new people because I didn't want to risk being made fun of again so I just stopped talking to new people on my own and all through middle school and high school I didn't talk to anyone I didn't know unless they talked to me first and it didn't help that the few friends I had in high school had a different lunch period than me so I would always just sit alone with my face stuck in a book or my phone so to sum it up the bullying I experienced as a kid made me scared to talk to new people in fear of being made of again

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I recall being bullied when I was a small child, overweight, wore glasses, and was a "brainiac." I was an easy target for other kids. But that never escalated to physical violence and it ended by junior high school.

es20490446e · Answer

Yes. It was a time on high school where a group of guys did waited for me daily, during the break, to bully me.

This made me quite shy for a bunch of years. But after a while I got over it, and I became a quite outgoing person again.

But actually what I hated the most were the teachers, which did very little to stop it. If I was the parent this has not happened. I had go there and kicked everyone's asses, both teachers and bullies.

I had gone to the teachers and I had said to them: either you fix it, or I will wait the guys at the door myself.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I was bullied for not being serious enough when I was in college. I was also called dumb. They also didn't like that I lacked an Indian accent.
It was a strange thing as people would tell me that I looked good but would make fun of my intellectual capabilities.
It lowered my self-esteem. I worked really hard to never fail an exam.
Many girls wouldn't take selfies with me. I felt so alone.
Soon enough they started judging me as if I were a celebrity. I had to look perfect every day. People thought I was too arrogant to date someone who wasn't from our college. They even started rumours about me having had sex even though I am still a virgin.

Dnice1 · Answer

I was bullied all the way through elementary in by nearly everyone in my grade. It was horrible. The girls would pretend to be my friend then they'd turn their back on me and say mean things to me. As for the boys they'd chase after me at recess and then they'd knocked me down and kick me then throw my shoes far away. The girls would also turn every new kid on there side. I was never left alone. It hurt and I only had like one or two friends. Plus they all bullied for something embarrassing that happened in the first grade

Labokachulaa · Answer

Yes I was bullied because nobody could figure out my race/ethnicity. I spoke a different language, had a different accent than most people, and I was "too much" of one race/ethnicity for the other. So, it was quite lonely until I found friends that spoke my same language and didn't care about me being darker than them.

I was also bullied because my cousin was overweight and wet the bed. Some things just never change unfortunately.

Sour-rose · Answer

Sure, I got bullied. I was quiet and good little angel and a door mat. Didn't get my ass beat, nor raped... just teased and bullied about me being me. How does it affect me now? Uuuum... it doesn't? High school and whatever is years away now. So is that life i used to live. :3 Soo... whateva'.

Kreneman · Answer

I have a weird childhood life because I was bullied but I also had good childhood when I was coming up and as an adult now I'm a hero because I am a Security Officer, I don't like bullies and I go against them now like standing up to them or physically stopping them especially when they are harming other people.

Mansearching · Answer

I was bullied immensely. Which lead to suppressive anger and manic depression. I have to watch my anger. I'm scared on what i might do if I ever let myself go. For my depression, it comes and goes. Another thing I have to watch for and not let things get to me.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I was bullied in highschool by various people, including several girls. Mostly kept to myself and still do. It didn't change much of anything. One guy beat me up a few times in Freshman year, and later on apologized in Junior year. Got made fun of by a whole group of girls and guys virtually on a daily basis. I wasn't the type of guy to befriend many people.

Still-alive · Answer

I have been bullied and it made me constantly aware of people who are ‘that guy.’ You know what i mean, those guys who like harassing other people or treat them like trash.

now im a bit better but still dont allow people to do that to me anymore. If you say or do something disrespectful to me i will say something and probably tell them off lol.

weysally · Answer

there was a bully, in my school but I did training, she only picked on me once,

WellGreetingsISay · Answer

I was bullied. The bullying didn't affect my adult life. The way others handled it did. I was able to stand up to my bullies early and therefore help others do the same as I got older.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I was horribly bullied in highschool. Honestly, it changed who I am as a person. I was working through the emotional/mental trauma from highschool well into my twenties.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I've been bullied… (I'll explain more below) Yeah, I have been bullied growing in Middle School and some in High School it was rough for sure and Yeah, I have been bullied growing in Middle School

rotipe · Answer

Yes. dustybiker was bullied off of this site by a single jealous staff who convinced others of vile lies. Befriended an admin and perfect puppet to do her dirty work.

She wasn’t the first innocent here to be lied about. And won’t be the last. Remove all of the respectable quality contributors and the site goes silent. It’s silent.

MrCommodore · Answer

Yes I got bullied at the beginning of high school, it did knock my confidence in my teens, but eventually grew in confidence and now I view it as something that made me a better person.

HighValue · Answer

I've never been bullied because I have always been able to beat anyone in a fight and if they messed with me, even calling me a name I beat them down in school.

Guardian45 · Answer

As a small child I was bullied, but that has made as an adult, an aggressive "anti-bully"! I usually side with an underdog, especially if there is a bully!

Slay256 · Answer

LOL people made fun of my hairline in elementary school for some reason. It was a beautiful hairline. It was like a round hairline. That’s it really.

notwoke · Answer

When i was young this was normal and we all grew from it. Don't be weak!

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I've never really been bullied. They tried to get a reaction out of me but nothing came of it and I was left alone. I was the quiet kid :)

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes I was bullied when I was in school until I couldn't take anymore and I beat the kid up. Everyone was clapping

LiamJHayden · Answer

Never. In fact a large group of us pretty much enforced a ban on bullies throughout school.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah all through school until most of high school, probably why I didn’t go to college and become more business of how I was treated I didn’t want to deal with bad kids anymore

bowenw · Answer

By a couple of goons in high school.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Yes I did and it effects my comfindence

jimmy2 · Answer

I was a better fighter after high school none

LissyMissy6 · Answer

I was bullied in high school for my body.

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