How can I stop worrying about boys rejecting me and just loving myself? How do I become that soft spoken women who is confident and doesn’t need a man to complete her? Because I feel like I need a boy to make me happy I’m so mentally and emotionally stressed and feel lost
Take some time and reflect- not only about the way your idealized (in this way, at least) self would feel, but about how she'd act. Your feelings, you only have so much control over; your actions, almost full.
You want a cute guy to love you and to love; that's only natural. What else do you want? To be able to juggle? To learn to fly? To stage the world's first rendition of Oklahoma! with an all-midget cast? Figure it out, and start working towards the goals you CAN achieve on your own. Some of them may be bigger commitments than you're able to make right now- becoming a surgeon, say- so do something in that vein that's a lesser draw; like volunteering at the hospital.
Life the kind of life you'd be content with without a partner, and you'll find yourself more psychologically able to stand on your own.
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You really got to work on self-validation. If you're not happy with yourself, you're not going to attract the type of man you really want... in fact they'll avoid you. You'll get what they call "fuck boys" but there are a lot of dudes that will see you giggling with that guy and write you off.
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Take some time to treat yourself to the things you like and pamper yourself and let yourself fall in love with you. Remind yourself if the things YOU like about you, treat yourself to a date night with yourself. You don't need a boy to be complete, that hyper romanticism is an example of dangerous social programming. You are enough in and of yourself, you just need to learn to love yourself and treat yourself well.
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