Would you break up with someone because you guys aren't compatible?

[TheeTrybrid]

Personally I think it could be a good thing for someone to have their opposite in some cases but only u can determine what is right for u a twin can be either be healthy or toxic just like an opposite can be healthy or toxic. If you guys like entirely different things but have some of the same morals then that's okay but if u guys are different and that person and u guys have entirely different morals of life but u still love them then u should leave. Thoughts?

[DaveJord]

Depends on what levels of compatibility. I mean if she is kind, generous person with positive energy, good communication skills... and we were compatible on sexual and emotional level, and she treated me right and made me a priority in her life... then Yes, I would date her no problem.

We do not have to share the same political views, hobbies, food, activities, or even interests to a certain degree.

But if she cannot find ways to resolve conflict in a productive way, or she is prone to emotional outbursts, or toxic type behaviors... then honestly it does not matter how much we do have in common in all the other areas.

I have date women where we had so many things in common, but there were one or two key areas that I described above, that we differed so extremely it didn't matter. We were like the perfect match in so many ways... but she was passive aggressive, insecure and prone to dramatics. I could not put up with it, so everything else did not really matter.

But if she was really good at communication, empathy, kindness and generous giving heart... and we could share those things together... honestly nothing else really compares when you can find that type of person.

[dynamicyandere]

It’s important to have shared morals and values, even if your personalities and interests are completely different.



Differences outside of that are completely okay. You can have 2 super different people that happen to complement each other very well and are harmonious despite how different they are.


In cases like that, they are very different, yet still compatible.


But, I believe that compatibility is largely due to shared morals and values.


So if a couple is clashing all the time because of that kind of deep incompatibility, then they are better off finding someone else who IS compatible.

[Vesuvius87]

It would have to depend on what types of incompatibilities we're talking about. If it's major ones like wanting kids vs never wanting kid or being family oriented vs still being into parties then yes I would have to break up.

My past ex boyfriend had characteristics of an asexual man. He never initiated sex nor anything beyond making-out during nearly a year into our relationship and his manners seem awkward. I don't think I can't deal with a another asexual man.

[LazerBean]

Definitely. There is no point in being with someone who is not compatible with you and your life.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think there has to be some compatibility beyond morals etc. I don't think I could be with someone who doesn't enjoy the outdoors as I need/prefer a companion to explore with me.

[KrakenAttackin]

"Opposites" bring each other nothing but pain and misery. The key is to find someone who compliments you and you compliment them.

[In_Trance]

absolutely