What is formula for happiness according to you?

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jim_moriarty · Accepted Answer

"I know it is hard for you to accept but unhappiness is more common than happiness. Who told you you should be happy? You’ve come to an age where you must grow up and be responsible about certain things. When I was your age I had many friends, they’re all dead. Their happiness is neither here nor there."
~ Ragnar Lothbrok.

Happiness is not the main purpose of our life- survival is our purpose. If you are alive - be greatful, if you have food - be greatful, if you have shelter - be greatful. If you don't have anything seek help or work for it. Be thankful for every good things in your life.

Count your blessings, avoid over expectations in life , be humble , avoid materialistic life = meaningful fulfilled life.

Happiness is a choice. You can either choose to count your blessings, be happy or you can choose to see all the negatives and regret. The choice is yours

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Have realistic expectations. E. g., EVERY relationship will occasionally experience a conflict. Expect that and don't run when it happens.

Have a realistic appraisal of your own strengths and weaknesses and understand that your partner puts up with your "stuff," so you need to put up with their "stuff," too.

Accept the Golden Rule as a way of life.

If other people are bad for you, don't plan on how to punish them; just plan on how you will exclude them from your life.

When confronted with a difficult decision, imagine being five years in the future and looking back on this time. From that perspective, which choice will make you the most proud of yourself?

AmandaYVR · Answer

Good q, tough to distill down to an answer.

Maybe... ?

Lowering/having realistic expectations. Expectations are disappointment in the making. (Of course this does not mean to have rock bottom expectations. You can still have some standards. But most peoples' are too high. And just about all humans, once they reach their goals or markers, just move the goal posts.)
Accepting that suffering is a part of life. So is discomfort. Every time we experience one of these, we tend to get upset, or rail against it, or out of sorts. But they are going to happen. That's life.
Recognizing that we feel joy and sometimes-happiness because we feel pain and hardship. The contrast is what tells us the other exists.
Not making excuses, but no matter what happens, keep persevering. Reward the effort, not the outcome.
Think long and hard about what is meaningful to you. Not to others, but to yourself. Being purposeful, and having purpose, tends to increase perceived happiness.

I think the more/most challenging q might be - Can you simply choose to be happy?

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Stability, low stress, plenty of de-stressing time to reduce stress. Travelling now and then, getting out for fun too, by hiking, riding atvs, or horses, getting out into nature.  Staying active.

Guy13 · Answer

Contentment in all things whether they be successes or failures. To live in Peace with "it is what it is" in the daily life.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

A big thing that helped me get comfortable with being happy and having negative emotions was this story I heard. A newspaper interviewed two men on the same day, one had just one the lottery jackpot and the other had just lost his legs in a tragic accident. So obviously, one was riding very high and the other very low. 6 months later, they went back and interviewed those same 2 men. The lottery winner was out of money, the high was gone, and so was the excitement of it all, but his life wasn’t worse for it. The man who lost his legs had gotten adjusted to living without them, and was in a much better place than he had been 6 months ago. Humans all reach a state of “contentment” as enough time passes from both joyful and tragic events, there’s a balance to finding a contentment and peace in your surroundings that means accepting negative feelings and tragic events as they come, both because there’s little we can do to control that part of our lives and because if we can’t experience feeling sad, we can’t really be happy. You gotta balance it out and go with the flow of where the world takes you.

tbm1986 · Answer

H = L (S) L (F) L (N) L (W)

Where H is happiness, L (S) is loving thyself, L (F) is loving friends & family, L (N) is loving thy neighbour and L (W) is loving society/the world.

Note that love here isn't in the everyday sense. It means learning to accept, tolerate and embrace (metaphorically).

Each of these terms can be broken down. So self includes your lot in life, your individual wealth, your habits, your state of health, etcetera. You can apply these characteristics to each term, by and large. Society/world also includes political system, rich/poor divide and other injustices (which line up with lot/wealth/habits/health).

If everyone were easily pleased, there would never be improvements, so in the name of progress, unhappiness is a blessing.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

letting go of earthly possessions.

don't take things personally.

nothing is more important than your own well being.

eat well, rest, take breaks from life, take care of yourself, love yourself, treat yourself well, treat others well.

jorfan3 · Answer

I think happiness has a lot of different components.

Being grateful is a big one in (we are so ungrateful here in America...)

Having healthy relationships is a cornerstone of happiness, especially close ones

Having respect for yourself is essential

And you can't go wrong with being kind and generous

king34 · Answer

I think its different for men and women. I can only speak for men,

1. Fear God and no one else
2. Seek to please God above anyone else
3. Work hard
4. Be proud of yourself
5. Don't compare yourself to others
6. Be greatful for EVERY single thing you have
7. and don't pretend do be someone your not
8. Watch sigma motivation clips everyday.
9. love and respect EVERYONE

If you do all these things your depression, sadness, emptiness, anxiety will disappear worked for me, I spent 10 years in a deep dark abyss of depression then I started watching Andrew tate who inspired me to do all these things. Medication, therapy or even friends couldn't help me. but listening to him for a month did, my life is so much better. And my mental health is sound. I'm so happy

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

No idea. Let me know when you figure it out. I don’t think I’ve ever been happy. Nor can I get anyone to explain to me what happiness is. So I have no idea what it is or what it feels like. I only know it’s one of those things that is like money, it just eludes me.

Djaay · Answer

When you look in the mirror what do you see literally? You see your CHARACTER. This is where we need to address our character flaws. So changing our character flaws , is done by changing our immediate atmosphere through our best and kind character and those around through your actions will be come back at you with they're own actions in response to yours. That's who tells you who you are and follows your lead. Happiness is when you're kind to others with a patient ear and (when asked ) , share some wisdom. Happiness is inner peace upheld of others discretion towards you your character which reflects as an oral all can see or feel as you walk or talk.

hannah · Answer

There is an exact formula for happiness :)

H = S + C + V
H stands for your enduring level of happiness.
S is your set range or set point.
C is the circumstances in your life.
V represents factors under your voluntary control.

Anonymous · Answer

Being at peace with my past and accepting things I can't undo or change. Only that will bring a permanent state of happiness.

There's moments of joy and things that make me feel happy , but the feeling always fades once I'm not in that moment that makes me feel happy

Anonymous · Answer

Happiness is that feeling that comes over you when you know life is good and you can't help but smile. It's the opposite of sadness. Happiness is a sense of well-being, joy, or contentment. When people are successful, or safe, or lucky, they feel happiness.

prensesmishka · Answer

I think there’s no formula. It’s different for each of us. It wouldn’t work to use someone else’s way to be happy. It doesn’t work to copy. I think it starts in us. Once I read a phrase; happiness is not the destination, it’s a way of life. Maybe happiness is supposed to be found by simply living.

aaron210419 · Answer

Happiness means different things to different people, but from my experience I feel the happiest when I am able bring joy to others. It's when you are lost in the moment in your purpose, it's when you're not looking for happiness. Find something meaningful that benefits those around you and you will find happiness.

DJB72 · Answer

Be yourself - everyone else is taken Tell the truth and you never have to remember what you said Be quick to forgive and slow to judge Remember forgiveness doesn't equal relationship

jshm2 · Answer

By not seeking to be happy, but seeking to be content instead.  Too much happiness is like being constantly on a sugar rush- you'll kill yourself.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I don't have one. I kinda wish I could check out of life without hurting other people. I'm never going to have what I want and I'm tired of it. Rather than being allowed to go out on my terms, I'm stuck living until my body ultimately breaks down.

fantasticass · Answer

I volunteer with homeless and vulnerable people living on the streets. My happiness comes from serving other's. 🙏🇨🇦✌️

Anonymous · Answer

I believe in Hell, I see Happiness is a choice not must. Here I regard hell as believing in nothing. Practice to be happy not to be sad. An immature baby knows how to be happy, playing, eating sleeping and playing again. While a senseful adult find life is difficult. Why are we even educating skills to survive to help us be happy or help us be sad. We are mastering so many skills to be happy yet people choose to be sad. Congratulations to you all.

weysally · Answer

trust with everyone, a good sex life, which is a natural thing, a good income, a job that you like, for a woman a good man that will be at her side no matter what, and a wife that will do the same, and to have a good conversation

Sunssong · Answer

Simple. Control over my consciousness. All states of mind are states of consciousness. Happiness is really that simple. You condition your to be happy. It's a real thing and  require nothing outside yourself.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Find something you have passion for the doesn't feel like work. Surround yourself with hand full of good people just explore the world and everything it has to offer only here for short time can fit all that in had good life

rupam_das · Answer

Eradicate expectation from your life.
Try to be self depandant.
Try to make others happy.
Give love and respect to others.
Erase smoking & alchohol
Go to the gym everyday.
Balence your personality in between submissive & Dominance.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Just enjoying life & doing what you love, that's the equation for happiness.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

Motivation  kind social group  Confidence  beauty  adventure

Potteplante · Answer

Good resources, stability and being able to navigate soceity in an acceptable manner.

raven6933 · Answer

This one is too easy. Stay away from those who have phobias pretaining to people. Also stay away from those who try and force their religious beliefs onto everyone else. Problem solved.

Juxtapose · Answer

Ignorance. Be ignorant of all the ills in the world and live in some secluded island where everybody loves you, you have the true love of your life and so on.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

They say money can't my happyness but not being poor certainly can

Nikki1989 · Answer

By being happy with what you have and making the most of it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Knowing exactly what you want in life, and having the determination, patience, and stubborness to get it and not settle for less.

Kelly6 · Answer

good income good sex zero stress dont care what others think. do what you like

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Living a full life and enjoying time with family and friends. Also, having a career that is very fulfilling and seeing the fruits of your labor.

cdimples99 · Answer

My formula is doing what you love, giving to others and doing what contributes to your community/relationships and to yourself to develop yourself - overall, feeling like you are living with purpose

Rathoreshivraj · Answer

Stand in front of the mirror You will get your answer

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

Traveling and doing a job which you truly enjoy

LavLavLuv · Answer

Good food Good mood Good vibes

Mayo503 · Answer

Being happy with yourself…. And then build on that

Shiningtempest · Answer

@elozaa For me, formula for happiness is staying in comfort zone. Staying in comfort zone offers me less stress & tranquility I need.

noohair · Answer

I have discovered that happiness is an internal emotion. No one can make a person happy. And I have seen people that mistake joy for happiness. Joy is, for me, a short term reaction to external events.

Roadcruiser1 · Answer

Sadly it is money. Want to travel around the world? Money. Want to fall in love? Money. I can go on forever.

Bi4Life · Answer

Finding the good in the world and counting your blessings. Those two can go a long way! :)

LiamJHayden · Answer

Choose to be happy no matter what.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Trying to find your happiness without caring about what other people think

Minahh · Answer

Love for all things including yourself and gratitude

mobiusforniner · Answer

Assume the best in others, because it brings out the best in me.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Having a goal and feeling like you're making progress towards that goal.

allaboutyou2 · Answer

True happiness comes from within. Doing right and the best you can each day makes you comfortable with who you actually are and with it comes a certain sense of happiness.

Hanrej · Answer

Be active. It always work. Going to the gym, working hard, doing the chores but also play and have fun. You'll find that many people who are unhappy are also inactive.

lightninghunter · Answer

Happiness is more of a verb than a noun, happiness is a constant form of action, you keep working towards something you want to achieve and you will be happy, you stop working boredom will isolate you and make you unhappy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

You need to be Happy within yourself in order to be Happy with someone else.

boobliker · Answer

try to take anything that comes your way with some salt as the salt is bitter the onther is all ways sweeter

toronto_saint · Answer

Your ability to be yourself without consequence.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Respect and love every one, distribute happiness among others

Shark_61695 · Answer

I just want to feel happy once, no idea how to achieve that.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Being at peace with God through Jesus Christ. Being thankful and being content with what you have especially family.

Strong_Warrior · Answer

Destroy feminism and spread masculism. Thats the thing which will make all world and people extremely happy. Believe me!!!

Sam2021 · Answer

There is no formula for life, this is a western thing.

Anonymous · Answer

Knowing who you are, not apologizing to anyone for who you are. And cut people out of your life who don't accept who you are.

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