I liked this girl and she liked me too. We got closer, we kissed few times, we went out but then she ended things. Now she is dating a new guy. I can't watch when they touch each other, hold hands, hug. I hate how people talk about them how sweet they are and stuff. I hate thinking of her with someone else. Why is this so hard and how to get over it?
I’m sorry you’re experiencing this, I know the feeling and have been there. Just remember your worth hasn’t changed. If possible try avoid her and get rid of things that reminds you of her. It’s okay to grieve what never was but don’t wallow in misery, allow everything you’re feeling to flow through you.
I’m not sure how old you are and what your circumstances are but in these times it’s good to distract yourself with something fun and active like joining a local sports league, hitting the gym and taking a friend with you, learning how to play an instrument, learning a martial art, etc. Activities that involve camaraderie are best and/or just hanging with friends more.
Lastly as you give yourself time to recover the very thought and sight of her will start to feel indifferent. If you run into her treat her amicably, don’t feel the need to appease her in any way by giving her your time but wish her well. Also date around instead of just one woman at a time, discover what qualities you’d like in a partner if that’s what you want. Women can be quite volatile in their dating behavior so seeing multiple women lessens the pain a bit when one of them drops off. Do this til you find a woman worthy of being your girlfriend. I hope this helps. Good luck my friend.
Watching on the sidelines like a Loser fretting like a woman is of your doing. You know if you man-up, chase other women, and go on dates then she will notice. She will wonder how you have changed or what she missed that others find so damn attractive. It will drive her crazy slowly if you get your mess together. Grow a set please !!
Probably because it hurts your pride. You feel the other guy who "got the girl" has one-upped you in some way or "won" while you lost. It's not about the girl really.
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Because you know your just as good if not better than that guy, so to see him succeed where you failed hurts your pride.
Because 1) you're subconsciously understanding your place in the attractiveness hierarchy and you don't like where you land. And 2) you don't have a better replacement for her. I'm sure if you had a better girl lined up who's into you, you wouldn't care as much about her.
It has nothing to do with her. It's about your own sense of self worth.
Just know that one girl liking another guy over you doesn't mean that 1,000 others would to
Women are very strange when it comes to dating and attraction. There's no end all be all for what makes a guy attractive to women. This ONE just happens to prefer him over you.
It's not a big deal. Fuck her.
If you like her, let her go. Time to move on, no need to worry about anyone or anything. Yeah I get it, she ment something to you. So does your life. Work on you, before you become obsessed over someone that helped you with a life experience. Reflect over your actions of do's and don't's. Don't become bitter over a girl, and punish the next girl. Without tragedy theirs no wisdom.
If this is something that bothers you the best thing is find a girl that is better and let her be the one to see what she missed out on. Playing mind games can go both ways if thats the war she wants to wage.
That's why I don't recommend getting serious with women until later. Just hit one, then keep it moving. They will always be the ones to escalate to a serious situation.
Not for me. You gotta realize and understand that not only you are looking for a partner. Everyone, or most of us are looking for a partner. Been so, there's no reason to be upset or angry about looking for someone.
Because you're ignorant. That's the only problem that ever exist.
Because you feel like you're missing out on something that you hoped would make you happy.
Because you wanted to be that guy. It's basically like being a cuckold without the relationship.
Because your pride is taking a hit. It'll take time, but at some point you'll realize she wasn't almost that and actually did YOU a favor by rejecting you.
Likely because of the time and energy invested
It’s hard mental health is something you can’t control
Because you had high expectations of things progressing in your favor.
"Why him and not me?" Right?
Man up.
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