How to maturely deal with boyfriend having a girl best friend? (Page 2)

[Lycirian]

If he really is doing all that... then something is not clear. He is talking about her the whole time. Playing the song that they both like. I say he can have a female boyfriend but there is totally no respect. Tell him that you are OK that he have a female best friend but talking about her all the time when he is with you, that hurts you.

If he doesn't understand this then by all respect let him go.

[Hal2002]

I have a female best friend and we have been friends for over 50 years, and from what you described. It sounds like something is going on, more than friendship. I have told gfs about my close friendship with her, but I have never gone on about her like your guy has about his friend.

Be honest with him and tell him how he makes you feel, when he goes off the deep end talking about missing her and playing their music when he is with you.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think you have much choice in the matter. Just focus on putting your faith in him. If he is a good guy like you say, it will be a none issue.

Perhaps, you should try to get to know her too, that way you can gauge as to whether she is trustworthy.

In the end, if they are good friends, then you worrying about these things and letting it get in the way could make a deal-breaker between you two.

[Chazmatazz269]

That should be easy if you actually care about him and respect him. If you care more about your own feelings than his, it’s going to be easier to want him to be less happy with a male friend who doesn’t make you feel insecure. If you can’t figure it out and fast, you’re better off breaking it off. You’re developing resentments and those will destroy your relationship.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Communication is key. My boyfriend has a girl Best friend and while I don't think they ever shared a bed together they were incredibly close. Meeting her is important, hanging out with them together is important. It's also important to talk to him about how you are feeling and that you don't want to feel left out.

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of friends who are women. However I don't talk about any of them to the extent that you are describing. Sounds a bit intimate for being "friends". But on the other hand it is depends on what you can or can't deal with. And if you feel less important as his girlfriend this is of concern. I think it warrants more discussion with him.

[Anonymous]

You're doing it to yourself. It's your fault. He is doing nothing wrong. He can't care about another person? Stop falling for mass conditioning and think for yourself. Nothing is wrong about what he is doing unless they try to make a move on each other. He isn't cheating.

[Mangospacho]

Nah. Your best girl friend is your girlfriend. No matter what he says, there’s no reason why he needs to put his girl best friend before you. Either he’s in a relationship with you or he’s out.

[DermalPunch]

They would always travel together, cook together, everytime he drives 5 hrs to see her. He won’t stop talking about how much she means to him

Girl wake up and smell the coffee. People do things to themselves and wanna blame others after.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty simple. Know what you DESERVE as a partner and be REASONABLE about it. Next communicate it clearly to your partner. If they don't want to show the respect your due to them the END the relationship. Because it will not get better.

The problem is most women simply do not want to do EITHER and that is why they fail.

[SomeRandomGuy89]

The mature thing to do is too leave the relationship find someone who doesn't make you feel like crap. However much you want him to be, he isn't worth it.

[tiffany323]

Even if I'm sure something is going on between them, pretend they don't. Even though he has a girlfriend, someone who doesn't act accordingly with his close girlfriends is wrong.

[RavenQuill]

Honestly, I’d push to meet her. Tell your boyfriend that you’d like to be introduced. If he complies easily, that’s a good sign. If you do meet her, just see if anything feels off about her.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

If they’re best friends then you have nothing to worry about. Think of it this way, if he was going to have sex with her they would have done it already.

[Danny_dan92]

And yet you see so many girls on here asking questions about having male best friends. They need to see this question to see why that is an issue

[Adam1978]

It's not only about trusting him, you need to trust her too. If you give the wrong woman enough time with your man, she can cause damage.

[exitseven]

I get why you are concerned. He has a history with this friend that you were not a part of. If there was anything between them it would have been there by now.

[LittleSally]

Honestly, to me it sounds like he's in love with her and is with you just waiting for his 'best friend' to come around.

[strlb]

Be confident and trusting that 1) you're not married and he is allowed to have other friends including chicks. 2) you should do the same. A little jealousy in a relationship is healthy but trusting is key

[TrillXHippy]

Don’t take this the wrong way but it sounds to me like you’re the friend and the girl who is supposed to be his “best friend” is actually his girlfriend since he’s doing those kind of things with her