Chinese fiance runs out, why?

[lightbulb27]

Enter the GAG Educational Twilight zone...

You are there with your fiancee and her father who are Chinese, he no speak English, she speak English good.

You being generous man, offer a pear for sharing and carefully, cut it in half and give your fiancee the other half. You good man!

She has a look of fright... her father says some weird stuff in Chinese and they march off, her in tears, they very hurt and seem... angry.

You no #1, no no marry #1 daughta!

What went wrong?

Answer forthcoming on Monday... no cheating on internet...

Always offer father 1/2 of pear first to be honorable, that fix it!

Chinese don't eat pears, it's offensive fruit

One person eats the pear, never split a pear when around Chinese

They probably have allergies to pears, you should know that... nearly kill daughter

You pointed knife at daughter...10yr bad luck, you no smart to have daughter!

This lie... only a dream in twilight zone, you can split a pear with Chinese anytime!

I self identify as a pear and this is really sad, other.

[misogynistic_pig]

It is possible that what went wrong was the gesture of cutting the pear and giving half to the fiancée in the presence of the father. In Chinese culture, sharing a pear in such a way is considered a bad omen, since the word for "pear" in Chinese sounds similar to the word for "separation." Therefore, cutting and sharing a pear can be interpreted as a sign that the relationship will split or end. Furthermore, the fact that the father said strange things in Chinese and that they both seem angry suggests that they were offended or worried about the situation. In Chinese culture, great importance is attached to signs and symbols, and certain actions that are considered unlucky are avoided. The father and fiancée may have felt uncomfortable with the situation, even if they don't know how to explain it in English. In situations like this, it's important to be aware of cultural differences and try to understand possible interpretations of gestures and symbols. It would be a good idea to apologize and explain that the gesture was made with no intent to offend or cause bad luck.

[lightbulb27]

You nailed it! A+

[Guy13]

One never splits anything in front of father but gives pear to woman with both hands 🙌.
Splitting fruit or here’s your third is after Daddy is gone and you have both signed contract and given dowry.

[lightbulb27]

interesting answer!
I think not totally correct, but you get B+ in giving pear to woman with both hands!

[ObscuredBeyond]

When my ex and I exchanged knickknacks, I didn't realize at the time that you should never ever give a fox to a Chinese woman. I basically called her a slut! Oops! She said not to worry about it, as she knew foxes designed like they came from a Beatrix Potter novel don't have that connotation in the west. Her family still urged her to leave me for another man.

[lightbulb27]

didn't know that, wife will no get a fox! Chinese are tricky.
Wonder what happen if I get her a John Deere riding mower?

[ObscuredBeyond]

Huli Jing. Nine-Tailed Fox. The Chinese succubus. Basically, the spirit of homewreckers.

Found that out way too late.

[lightbulb27]

good grief, maybe they should find Christ... if they believe in evil animal spirits...
definitely watch out for huli jing.. women that seduce married men. they are wicked...
but I won'tblame that on a 9 tailed fox...

[ObscuredBeyond]

Another Chinese woman told me not to bother with her, said Xian women always have a main dude, and 8 side dudes at all times.

That turned out not to be the case. She had me. Then, at her parents' insistence, she began dating someone else behind my back. She was embarrassed about being made to do this, so she didn't tell me anything.

Then, he got her pregnant. She lost her job. She married him. The gal that replaced her at work told me almost everything. I then discovered the timeline on WeChat.

Before that whole fiasco, she was a virgin. But I remember telling her that I would've taken her as mine, even if ten previous men had abandoned her, just so long as I got to be the last man she ever needed. But I'd need to know how they'd affect her health. She got some bad sores on her mouth once, but it wasn't herpes, thankfully. I told her I was happy it wasn't. Wouldn't have stopped me from loving her, but that it seemed logical. Eventually, she got her wisdom teeth out. That helped make the cold sores go away.

She tried to adopt a jogging, healthy lifestyle for a time, because office life was putting her figure at risk. But lockdowns put the kebash on that. Her last ever message to me was about how utterly miserable and boring life under lockdowns had become. And then we lost contact.

Every time I hear Alan Walker's "Faded," or most any song by Chvrches, I can close my eyes and still see her face. But she has a daughter and husband now. I'm not gonna mess with that. No matter how much I miss our old Skype sessions.

[lightbulb27]

Did you meet her in person?

[ObscuredBeyond]

Only through Skype. What made it all hurt worse, is that in the beginning, she was the one who found me. She was the one who sought me out. And she never once asked for money, so I knew it wasn't a scam.

[lightbulb27]

oh man, that's one of the worst kinds of relationship, the non relationship. In your mind, she's an angel, the one, maybe the only one.. a perfect angel you never got.
You gotta cut your loss, recognize that was a fantasy that never was, and move on. Been there, done that. Women can throw out hooks. If you need me to list all the bs about how this owman really is, so she isn't so perfect, lmk.
If she's talking about her lockdowns, that's her issue, unfortunate, but she made her life. She has a child and hubby, it's her life.
Move on to someone worthy of your time.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Her and I both realize that the minute she let the other guy get her pregnant, I no longer had a future with her. She wasn't expecting me to forgive her. But in spite that, we both know that there's no going back.

I sometimes wish I could. Because I've not found anyone available who can replace her. None that measure up to what she used to be.

I've met maybe one I can truly relate to. But she's already in a relationship, so it's not happening.

I felt a lot of sympathy for a different gal at work, but there's no future with that one. She's a disaster waiting to happen! (And I'm amazed she hasn't been fired yet!)

Girls come in two varieties where I live now: train wreck, and spoken for.

At least I don't have the deranged MeToo lunatic feminists to worry about here that I had back in Michigan.

[lightbulb27]

I remember those days, maybe you are 20's to 30's year old, seems like there's noone left. they are out there wanding around, plenty not ever married. They have the same problem. Just have to increase your opportunities... volume of contacts mean better odds. good you are well aware.
The other woman was good on the phone, it's meaningless unless you were with her. Women can put on a good show.
Go overseas if you have to, but actually meet them quickly if it looks good situation.
good luck!

[exitseven]

I pick the last one.

[lightbulb27]

Good answer! You would be eaten whole by one chinese person. they dont like pears cut in half!

[lightbulb27]

also, you should go to grade schools and start sharing your newfound identity with kids so they also can be pears... if they want to be.

[dreamstar72]

Father said marriage wouldn’t work