99 percent of relationships fail. Do you agree or no?

[lemonette]

99% of the relationships I see around fail nowadays. I'm not saying it's definitely over, but most of them are... Do you agree with this? What about your experience?

[Finchie40]

I agree for the most part , I blame a lot of it on social media and selfishness , Most people today aren’t very content within themselves, they feel like they are missing out on something cuz they are feeding their heads with useless shit they see or hear about , thinking grass is greener on the other side , Social media contributes to it big time , the only way love can grow between 2 people is if both people know how to remove selfishness for each other , and make each other their top priority , if someone can’t do that for you , then you will not be able to do that for them , Most people tend to prioritize their friends over their partner and that’s where shit enters a relationship , it’s good to have friends, but your friends should never come over your partner , and that’s where most people make the mistake , because they are only thinking of themselves , Girls will assume her man is insecure if he doesn’t like her going out with her friends and vice versa , The problem people make is they just assume the worst case scenerio’s , making them come off as being insecure , when really they are just trying to get their partner to respect them the same way their partner wants them to respect them , So most people just assume things are ok , when really they aren’t , You should never exclude your partner from anything , You didn’t get committed to be single and sadly most people tend to today thinking oh this person treats me better then my partner does , this person understands me , when really that person is just trying to get you in bed and telling you things you want to hear , A guy that can steal another guy’s girl is a piece of shit , A girl that can steal another girl’s guy is a piece of shit , A guy’s role in a relationship with a girl is to protect her and love her and lead her , the only way he can do that is if she looks up to him and prioritizes him and respects him and loves him , If he feels she doesn’t respect him and look up to him, he is going to be drawn to another girl that wants to give him that , Don’t think for a second that your partner can’t replace you , the only way a relationship should end, is if your partner is cheating on you or beating you , other then that you fix it , No one else is going to save you, if you can’t sacrifice for your partner they will not be able to sacrifice for you , remove your inner selfishness for someone and you will see love grow

[megabamse]

Well, there is a few reasons for it. 1. we think we know what a relationship is so we behave like we know. We think what to expect from media ams movies and what not. That's completely wrong.
2. We and us hints it's more then 1 person, so why do we behave like it's just 1 person? Think 75-25 you give 75% of you to this person but you keep 25% just for you. By that i mean invest, coaptation, tolerance and acceptance of the other, do things together, grow together. The last 25 that is just for you, well you are two people so you should do some things by yourself and have time just for yourself.
3. Do not ever compare yourself so other couples ever. You are your own couple and what works for your relationship is the only thing that matters.
4. Respect each other, don't play games, don't mess around, be nice with each other even when your mad at each other. Don't end stuff just because something is hard for a given time , and an argument don't mean the end.
5. Never settle, don't choose out of desperation and lonelynes. Choose because this is your best friend, your favorite person that you love.
6. This is for the girls. Your birth control mess you up, and you might choose the wrong guy for you. Choose your loved one when your not on birth control and your choice might stick a lot better.

[Catarine]

Depends on what you're looking for. If you look for long term and your partner does also it won't fail. As if you wish to be together forever you have to make it work, both parties, it's not easy but if you're willing to do so it works.

You have to not only think about what makes you happy but also what make your partner happy. Love is about giving not only receiving. You also should't argue about the lite things your partner isn't doing as you would like, you have to except them for them (there is room for improving, but little annoyances aren't worth it, people to things differently, and if you want to change something you have to say it, any hints can be understood in so many ways, we can't know what someone thinks)

[Jazquee]

NO! I Think a percent of people in relationships dont try...
Relationships are a work in progress. They take communication and cooperation. Give and take, they need both sides to want it and to care or the relationship will fail.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would estimate that about 90% of all relationships fail to last at least six months. That is exactly the way it should be. If you have five relationships fal before one succeeds, that is a failure rate of about 84%. And you should date a few different partners before you settle down.

[Guy13]

Update and define your terms. 50% fail if you use divorce as a measure.

[Jdjfjcjj]

It's actually greater than 50%. You're assuming the other 50% is happy.

I'm reality, that half is further broken down into those who aren't leaving for the children's sake, not leaving for financial considerations, or religious ones, those waiting till the kids are older, those that need to convince themselves to accept non traditional monogamous relationships, etc. Then you left with small percentage that loves each other but doesn't really all that like the other person, and an even smaller percentage of those that love and like the other

[Avicenna]

That's probably close to being accurate. My current failure rate is 100%!

[dynamicyandere]

I suppose it depends on what you define as failure and success.



And, it depends on what you count as an attempt.



But, even then, 99% sounds very high.


If someone needs to date 100 people before they find someone that they eventually marry, that sounds like they may be saying YES to too many dates without properly screening them.


I’ve dated 15 girls my whole life, 7 of which were serious and exclusive relationships, 1 of which (my fiancée), I’d happily marry and know that we’d have a happy marriage.


So, if you’re going by 1 in 15, that would be 6.6% (including non-exclusive and casual).


If you’re going by 1 in 7 (just the serious and exclusive ones) that would be 14.2%.


I don’t think my “success” percentage would whittle down to 1% until I was in a LOT of casual relationships, hoping for something more.


Usually I feel a person out (try to do a vibe check) before deciding to go on a date with them.


I don’t want to waste my time or their time, so I don’t just see what happens.

I date if I’m able to imagine some long term potential.


But, in order to get there, I’m usually in conversation with them for a while before we start dating.


My sister has gone on 200+ Tinder dates before finding the right guy (who she ironically found OUTSIDE of Tinder, without the app).


But, she was the kind of person who liked to meet up in person to get to know someone, rather than get to know them prior to meeting.


Many of her dates ended shortly because the chemistry was bad.


I on the other hand, prefer to get to know someone better before meeting them, to see if we have some conversational chemistry first.


I’m much more protective of my time.

[dynamicyandere]

After getting to know myself better and understanding my sexuality, I’ve found that I’ve become demisexual.

So, now I have a much higher standard for emotional connection before even considering dating someone.

[art84]

• My brother has been with three women since the age of 20 years old. His first girlfriend was only for one year as his girlfriend that he loved cheated on him. His next girlfriend was a girl in high school and they had two children and they lasted till 2016. His third was supposed to good as his girlfriend was mentally challenged though seemed like a decent girl. Her parents didn't like my brother as they had a little girl and my mom forced them to get married since a second baby was on the way two years later. They married and it was the honey moon stage for 3 years. Overall his wife cheated on my brother three times and they were getting back together last year or the year before. Last year she filled for divorce and my brother has been working and the girls take turns with each parent. Overall the girls have changed in not being happy to be like they want nothing with me and my parents. I would say my brother had a 50% chance though he basically picked the wrong girls and rushed having children

Relationships take work and if one person does everything and other does nothing then yeah the relationship is doomed like 60%. That's basically was my brother taking care of the kids while his girlfriend worked and support the family.

[Anonymous]

But what's the take away? Let's assume that percentage is right, what is different in the 1% of relationships that work. I'll tell you what it is, in each case, either the woman believes she was better then the man, and/or the man thought the woman was better that him. When we say no one's better than anyone else bullshit. Someone always better. Honesty is always the best medicine. I'm not saying every man is better than every woman, don't get what I'm saying twisted. But the primary disconnect today is that most women believe their value is assigned based on how they assign value for men which is different then that of how men assign a woman's value.

Saying men either need to get more confident or step the tick up, though true, isn't the solution. Nor is saying a woman should devalue her self worth based on how she currently assessing her own worth.

The solution is to bet rid of the defensiveness for a second and ask yourself, based on what the other gender wants, am I meeting those expectations or not. That's it.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you'll come to the realization that both sides are in fact not meeting them which as a result, begs the question, How fucked are we?

[Lliam]

Relationships? I'd say that's probably true. I, myself, had 8 different girlfriends, beginning in 1970 when I was 16. I didn't even start thinking about finding a life partner and settling down until I was in my mid 30s. I wasn't mature enough yet and wasn't done exploring the world, enjoying life, or ready to begin a new chapter.

How many people wind up marrying their first boyfriend/girlfriend? Relationships are about gaining knowledge and experience, having fun, and eventually gaining the maturity and wisdom to be a good life partner and to recognize the person you want to settle down with.

I met my wife when I was 40 and we've been happily married now for almost 26 years.

[RohitLakra]

It is difficult to say whether 99% of relationships fail or not, as it depends on how one defines "failure" in a relationship. It is true that many relationships do end in breakup or divorce, but it is also true that many relationships succeed and thrive over time.

Additionally, the success of a relationship depends on many factors, including communication, compatibility, trust, and commitment. It is important to remember that each relationship is unique, and what works for one couple may not work for another.

Instead of focusing on statistics or generalizations, it is important to focus on building a healthy and fulfilling relationship with your partner. This requires effort, understanding, and open communication from both partners. With the right mindset and approach, a relationship can be a source of joy if I talk about myself. Unfortunately, I'm not in relationship anymore, but it ended on good terms, so won't call it a failure :)

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life some people succeed & some people fail & when it comes to a relationship some succeed & unfortunately some fail & some succeed over time & some fail over time as well. Percentage rates are different for each as well as everyone of us & those rates can go up as well as down in a relationship as well.

[Adam1978]

I guess that number really depends on where you count a relationship to have started. I mean is a first date a relationship? Because most of those doesn't lead anywhere. And that isn't something we should change, we need to allow people to screen each other without pressure to take it further. And every relationship that ends doesn't need to be a failure. If the family chapter is over, people can end it mutually, because they did what they started it for.

[Lionman95]

I'd say many fail but not 99%, from my experience the relationship mostly fail because they fall for each other in terms of beauty or sexual but they actually don't have much in common. In my experience many people want someone people don't care about values until they start to fight over things in their relationship.
Things they should have talked about but didn't.

[WindAtMyBack]

It's nowhere near that high. It's not even possible to be that high. People don't get in enough relationships for that.

As hyperbole, meaning a high percentage, sure, depending on how you define failure. If you test drive a car and don't buy it, the test drive wasn't a failure, because it's a necessary part of the process.

[TonyMetal___86]

That's true but 99% is too much haha
You can say that 65 to 75% of relationships are failing these days...
Personally my relationship had failed after nearly 9 years...
A relationship can fail because one of the couples or because of both but in my case, it wasn't me who called it off or retreated!

[HippieVeganJewslim]

A heck of a lot of relationships do fail, but 99%? I think so not! So many people stay married until death (both sets of my grandparents, for instance) and they also had less than 99 failed relationships. I had several partners, but still less than 99. Still, my relationships with some girlfriends failed not. Timesha broke up with me because I switched schools. Shayna broke up because She thought She was too young for me.

[Wade12345]

Depends how you define success. If you think like that all your life, you'll end up a 42 years virgin, like me.

"Failed Relationships" serve a purpose. I suppose they prepare you for successful relationships.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's any real statistics that support that claim. But I'll agree most fail. Or more accurately they end. And that's because most people want a relationship. But most people also do not want to put forth the effort necessary for a successful lasting relationship.

[Sleeper07]

No. A healthy relationship can go on indefinitely. It is important to communicate with each other about what you need from one another. If needs are not being met, your relationship will 100% fail.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

If 99% of relationships failed, then only 1% of couples would stay married for life.

I don't know the exact percentages, but I'm gonna go on a limb and say 99% is statistically inaccurate

[Spiritofn]

Probably & hopefully, men better have something better to do, we can always come back, getting my stolen car back sounds like a better time anyway... Not really but a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do..

[MrKinktastic]

I’ve had a number of very successful short relationships, not all of them need to be lifelong ones to not be a “failure.”

[jshm2]

You need to get the hell out your single moms house then, kiddo.

Most relationships succeed. Only poor ones fail

[DarkLegacy]

yep that is very much the truth. And the reason is people have relationships with people based on the wrong criteria, and they enter into toxic relationships.

[Daniela1982]

I think it may be more like 60%. But yes, most go south. It's just a matter of time.

[Nikki1989]

Not even close. Every one I know are in very happy relationships.

[ryanrhino]

At first glance, true, then dating would be easy.

[serious]

99%?

No, that cannot be true. Hence I disagree.

[DryGermanGuy]

Nope. Most people around me are in very long-term relationships, including my and other parents.

[noohair]

They are not relationships.
Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is the unintended consequence.

[Heterosketero]

99% of relationships hage always failed, that is how you end up in the one that works or not at all.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure it's quite that high, but maybe it depends on what you consider a relationship and what you consider to be success or failure of one.

[Anonymous]

no, that sounds ridiculous in my opinion. make it more like 50% and that'll be more realistic... either you succeed or fail. so 50%.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope I don’t agree. While many relationships fail many others run their course or result in long term gains

[Christoff92]

Sure I do.

[OddBeMe]

That seems high, but not sure how you’d quantify an actual number. What defines relationship? What defines its failure?

[PatriceONeal]

It's more prevalent in modern societies where women have more power than they really deserve or have earned or will earn.

[StickStickity13]

Seems a bit high, but I'd say the majority for sure

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

Yeah. I plan to stay with one person and once found, the 99% of the other obviously failed.

[Anonymous]

Women have insanely unrealistic expectations and therefore most relationships fail.

Don’t believe me… check out this standards calculator.

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[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely agree, which is why it isn't worth it for a man to put in much effort.

[PointTaken]

I'm at the half and half part. Seems half the ones I know of fail.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Everything has an end, that doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue something.

[nawtee_me]

99% of the people in relationships don’t want to work at the relationship to make it work.

[Twalli]

Anyone knows most relationships fail. If your lucky, only one you have won't fail.

[Cheerfull009]

May be in USA or in countries who follow the concept of :Fuck&Dump

[weysally]

I think 50/50is about right,

[LazerBean]

Sounds pretty close to right.

[itsalyssaagain]

I don’t agree otherwise no one would get married

[Anonymous]

No, it's more like 85%.

[msc545]

Most relationships absolutely fail. Sad.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

A little exaggerated but yes

[Alex8736]

i look at it as a 50-50

[Anonymous]

I don't think so.

[Hisdreamgurl]

Yes agree lol.

[findanusername]

Yeah cuz 99% of men are trash.

[Jmmmfi4]

Definitely yes

[EaterPeter]

Nope.

[jimmy2]

No I don't agree