Why would my cousin ignore me now?

[Anonymous]

So My cousin's wife was having a 'work spouse'... while interning in her office I notice and felt like she would eventually cheat on my cousin. I did not say anything because I did not want to poke my nose in her personal life.

Then one day 5 years later, one of her colleague informed me that she and my cousin were getting divorced. It reminded me of the thought that I had previously, she was cheating because her work spouse and her are still working together.

I met my cousin and felt sad when I looked at him as he looked different physically... so I told him what I was suspecting. He said that his wife invited her 'work spouse' home for their son's birthday. Then I told him to divorce, he refute so I suggested to look into it from this point of view.

I think he confronted his wife and my suspicion came out to be true. Since then I asked him a favor for my boyfriend... He volunteered to help. However, he started avoiding me... like why? Did I intrude in his privacy?

[Guy13]

Yo shamed him by showing his inadequacies in your inquiry and opinion. The best thing you could have done is not say, "hey stupid, I saw this coming 5 years ago-what's wrong with you?" Now, you might as well be the cheater herself. Stay out of other's Business unless you know how to keep your lips sealed and create and environment where they feel safe to tell you the truth on their own.

You are another person he will have to rid from his life during the recovery.

[ManOnFire]

Hm. It sounds like he might be dealing with a lot of feelings/emotions about everything since finding out that his wife was a cheater. He could be avoiding you for any number of reasons: maybe he's angry that you were right about her cheating and he was in denial, maybe angry that he didn't see it like you did. Or he feels like helping you out with your boyfriend would remind him that his relationship is troubled. Or he feels like it's insensitive or inconsiderate for you to ask for help with you and your guy while he's going through stuff - which is not your fault. You were just asking because you're family.

It could be any number of things going on in his head for why he's avoiding you. You could try to ask him and see what he says. But I really don't think it has much to do with you directly. I think he's probably dealing with a lot of emotions and frustration that he most likely is going to need support with. Whether from you and other family or a therapist.

[Anonymous]

His life is falling apart and he doesn't want to deal with people. This woman is your enemy though as is her work spouse so treat them as such.