Is it normal to worry I won’t find my true love or have children?

[Paulalove98]

I’m 24 and I’m single. The last long term relationship i was in was almost 3 years ago, it was long distance as well but we clicked really well emotionally, we were able to make each other laugh, lift each other up,& be there for one another. He was 18 and I was 22 and even though he was younger I fell deeply in love for this guy wholeheartedly and gave my all to him. The relationship didn’t end due to cheating or anything like that but it was emotional abuse on his end because he had ADHD and depression, I have my own issues also with anxiety and mood swings but we didn’t end on a bad note as we were able to overcome those problems just not as a couple so that’s why things ended.. but since then finding love has been difficult. I’ve met guys locally but most have only wanted to hook up or have a friends with benefits even when I stated I wanna find my person, my home, and someone I can grow with. As for my standards in a guy, height isn’t something I’ve never ever cared about even though it’s a flaw for a guy in this day and age to be under 6 ft, or have a dad bod, abs etc. The guy I am crushing on is only 5”2 or 5”3 but I still think he’s super handsome. The only thing I don’t like is facial hair on men so I wouldn’t say I’m picky? For personality I admire sense of humor, kindhearted, caring, loyal, family oriented, and affectionate person. I’d love to be a wife and be loyal to my future husband forever, make him laugh, smile, support him through his dreams and goals, be his backbone,& be there through thick and thin. I think I have a warm heart with lots of love to give and have 1-2 children. So sorry if this was a lot but I thought I’d vent my feelings here.

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*I mean I’d love to have 1-2 children with a guy I love someday.

[MrCommodore]

Not at 24, you're way too young to be concerned. It's no harm to gauge what you want in a potential partner and what you want in life, but you have lots of time yet.

[SnowedIn]

It is very normal. And okay. You are normal and fine. :)

[Anonymous]

I can say that it is completely normal to worry about finding your true love and having children, especially if those are important goals and values for you. It's natural to feel anxious or uncertain about the future, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

It's also important to remember that finding love and building a family is a process that takes time and patience. It's okay to be single and to take things slow as you search for the right person who aligns with your values and goals.

It's also important to prioritize your own well-being and self-care, while also being open to new experiences and opportunities that may present themselves along the way. This could include trying new hobbies or activities, meeting new people through social events or online dating, or seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals, such as a therapist or counselor, who can offer guidance and support as you navigate your emotions and your relationships.

Remember, it's okay to have high standards and to know what you want in a partner and a relationship. It's important to communicate your needs and expectations clearly and honestly, while also being open to compromise and growth as you build a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

Finally, it's important to remember that love and family can take many different forms, and that there is no one "right" way to build a fulfilling and meaningful life. Focus on building a life that aligns with your values and goals, and trust that the right person and the right opportunities will come along in due time.

[WhiteBoyChill]

To be fair I really don’t think using dating apps is the best way of meeting people.

[Paulalove98]

I get that, I haven’t been using them much even in person I’ve came across some not so pleasant or mature guys. The only one I’ve had good luck with so far is Facebook dating where more men are being more polite not asking inappropriate stuff or anything.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Is it possible you could move out of California? I mean your state is notorious for hookup culture

[Marked_Man]

You will. You're still young but don't settle for casual hookups or friends with benefits.