I had a fight with my boyfriend and I gave him space. I want to talk it out with him now. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I had a fight with him last Thursday and now is Monday. We've been fighting since Thursday until Saturday. Then I decided to give him space Saturday night, but until now he still not speaking to me. I know its not a nice thing that I blocked him as giving space. But I just saw that he blocked me too in my other social media accounts. My needs are not being ignored and I also needed some space that time. I want to talk to him now but I don't know if I should do it or wait till tomorrow. My mind has a lot of things going on right now and I feel anxious...

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My needs are being ignored** I said I needed him last Saturday but he said he is not in the mood. Thus I decided to give him space by blocking him...

[Anonymous]

It’s understandable that you would want to talk things out with your boyfriend and clear the air after a fight. However, it's important to respect his need for space and not push him if he's not ready to talk yet. It's possible that he may need some more time to process his emotions and thoughts before he's ready to have a conversation.

If you do decide to reach out to him, it may be helpful to approach the conversation in a calm and non-confrontational way. Try to listen to his perspective and feelings, and avoid getting defensive or dismissive of his concerns. It's important to be respectful and empathetic towards each other's needs and boundaries.

If he still doesn't respond or is not ready to talk, it may be best to give him some more time and space. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and not let the situation consume your thoughts or emotions. You may find it helpful to engage in self-care activities, such as mindfulness, exercise, or spending time with loved ones, to help manage your anxiety and stress. Remember, every relationship has its ups and downs, and it's important to communicate openly and respectfully with each other as you work through challenges together.

[Anonymous]

You two seem very childish, blocking each other back and forth across social media. It’s so petty and immature for the both of you.

Don’t block the person you’re in a relationship with. Either break up with them, or don’t. What you’re both doing is very, very childish.

[Asker]

We've already stopped doing this for a long time like more than a year now, and this just happened again. We no longer fight that much but this fight I guess is a big one... We usually resolve our fights within the day

[Fanfare690]

I've been fighting my man all day yesterday. It made me feel better... we ended up working it out. We were literally exhausted by the end of the day I slept for 7 hours (rare). I'm sure he's tired of my ass too. I am too. But when you can address the hurt and pain right away. It's okay to take some space. But that's when you come into agreement to talk it out

[Asker]

That's nice to hear that you guys worked it out. We are currently talking it out and maybe we just really needed some space or a breather. Thank you for the advice :)

[Anonymous]

Don't try to make it sound like you blocked him to give him space. You blocked him because you were pissed off at him and you wanted him to know it. So maybe your first step needs to be getting a little honesty.

Good luck, I hope you two can work it out and learn from the experience.

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like he intends on ending things, but make an effort to talk to him either today or tomorrow.

[Asker]

Usually he drinks with his friends after class on mondays. I don't know what to do

[Wise4myage]

Don't wait to long.

[Marked_Man]

Talking is better than blocking.