Hi,
I need to talk about it a little bit and gain some perspective.
Last weekend + Monday I was on a trip to Germany with my boyfriend. Even before we went I felt like he was starting to keep his distance. He told me he was distracted with some stuff but everything is okay.
On Friday evening when we went he was not really there mentally. We were travelling together but it made me feel that we go separately. And during the weekend it just got worse. We had to do what he wanted and when he wanted and if I said no to something he just didn't listen at all. On Sunday it went to far that I got really annoyed and hurt that he doesn't care and that he is ignoring me. But I guess it was not fun for him either. He tried at first talk about it but he didn´t really change anything. On Monday morning we even start to enjoy the trip completely separately. And in the afternoon he wanted to enjoy the rest of the day together but again only what he wanted to do and was more or less just ignoring me. When we went to train it was disaster. I asked him if we´re at least a bit good and he answered that we will have to talk about it next weekend and not to think about it right now...
I was heart broken and to be honest just imagined that we´ll break up. However somthing changed in the second half of the train ride and he was super sweet and attentive. That made me even more confused. Why did he started acting like it´ll all be alright?
He knew that all I care in vacation with someone is to be there together and I´m open to go even to places I don´t care about if it´s discussed but not just tell me we´re going there whether you like it or not. And I was not feeling like he was there with me at all...
But now I´m facing a dilemma. Should I give him space until we meet on Saturday? Or should I also act normally as we would if the weekend didn´t happen?
Thank you very much for your perspective.
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