Believe it or not, I’m actually the same height as you.
And, I’ve never had trouble finding women who want to date me.
I’ve been in 7 long term relationships (which don’t include short-term relationships, situationships, and dates) and I’ve been my current relationship for over 4 years, and we’re still going very strong.
There has even been a girl that rejected 2 taller guys (mutual acquaintances) that asked her out, because she wanted to be with me instead.
There’s hope for you. You just need to straighten out your mindset and work on bettering yourself.
Just like when you’re interacting with someone, you can turn a non-awkward situation into an awkward situation, simply by perceiving it as awkward. You will have created awkwardness out of thin air.
In the same way, when you make height an issue when it doesn’t have to be, by perceiving it as an issue, you will make it an issue. Your insecurities will project into your interactions and that will spoil your charm.
People feel your energy. If you feel nervous, they will feel your nervousness. If you’re brimming with confidence, they’ll feel that from you too.
Carry yourself as if height is an absolute non-issue, and it will eventually become a non-issue.
In fact, if you exude confidence while also being short, that will only make you seem even MORE confident and make you stand out, because you’re owning it. You’re not allowing your supposed disadvantage phase you at all, which will only make you even more intriguing and charismatic.
So work on becoming the best version of yourself. Better your health and fitness, the way your present yourself. Develop especially your charm, social skills, and above all, confidence.
Be optimistic, think positively, and focus on how good things could be if you lived your life as the best version of yourself.
Then, go after it. 💪
Personally I don't date, but I've known three men somewhat closely who were also short and who married women the same height or taller than them. I would say I know more examples, but I only know them tangentially, so I can't say they are actually good examples or not.
In the dating process, only one of them mentioned height as a downside (the woman while he wasn't present), but she said it wasn't a deal breaker just a preference. Both were also middle aged and divorced with kids, so I'm sure they both compromised on some less important preferences like that.
The other two though, I never heard height mentioned negatively. One was 5'4 your height, and just started flirting with my sister in the workplace (same height) and they dated and married. He was her 3rd boyfriend, 1st short guy to flirt with her that I know of. Height was brought up maybe twice by other people, not in the relationship, to mention they were the same height. He didn't like it being pointed out, but laughed it off and they just don't talk about it—at least not with others.
And another is my dad. He's not super short but is noticeably shorter than average, and my mom is taller than him. Neither mind it or have any discomfort talking about it. I never heard it brought up when they recounted how they met or dated (started out by coincidence, not intentionally. I don't know about any past partners). Either of them will mention it occasionally, casually, if it's relevant. Nobody else has said anything about it since I can remember, though it's possible they got comments when they were first dating. But my dad genuinely doesn't seem to care at all.
So there's some examples, maybe helpful in seeing how dating can work and even lead to marriage, even when you're short and/or she's tall.
I am ~ 5'2". I have dated guys that were 5'5" all the way to 6'4".
The guy I am with now is 5'8" and that's how tall my husband was.
I don't see what's wrong with dating women shorter than you.
And that's my opinion. Good things come in small packages 😊
I’m shorter than you. It sucks to be short because people do make fun of your height like you chose to be born short. But someone will look past that and see the beauty behind it and embrace it and learn to love the beautiful person that you are.
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Can't tell you how many tall ugly people roam this earth. A lot.
Being shorter than 6ft while the women are only chasing 6ft men may seem like a disadvantage. Until you realize the VAST majority of single women are nasty people on the inside. Ask yourself, is 20 minutes of sex worth weeks of confrontations, petty arguments, being responsible for her happiness when she's instatiably depressed. They, more than half, are all on mental health medication. They destroy America, they think your masculinity and manhood should be defeated and championed against. You will get nowhere with these corrupt "females". Just say no, focus on yourself. Theyll ignore you while you're in your 20s trying to make something of yourself while they are handed beauty at 20 on a silver platter and basically always squander that gift. Just ignore them, they will be knocking at your dm's in your 30s and 40s. I'm average, maybe slightly better than average and I can tell you with confidence that your time is coming, and they live in quiet fear of what you're capable of.
I’m just as short as you are, if not shorter, and the fact that you’re considering being short as similar as a disability is laughable lol.
Like quit with the dramatics. That’s incredibly insulting to those who have actual disabilities. You should be grateful that you don’t actually have one.
Being short sucks yes, but at this point I’ve accepted it. The fuck do I look like being a grown man still crying about “aww woe is me. I’m so short. Wha wha wha 😫😫😫”
I’ve never had issues with dating. Then again I’m in the gay dating world so I guess I have it easier. But even so, there’s been women who have been interested in me regardless of my height.
I'd say you just need to own it, and look for a short woman. There are plenty of women below 5'4. Find yourself a nice Asian woman lol.
Get in shape, try and get a good job, and some short woman will appreciate you.
It's gonna be hard, but not impossible.
I understand how you feel, I'm 5'1 and even a girl I'm constantly made fun of. However with guys, I've always dated men on the shorter side. Infact, none of the guys I have dated have been above 5'8. Being short is something we cannot control just like have a disability is something people cannot control. It's hard for me to do so since my height has always been something I was self conscious about, but embrace it. I know many tall women who love shorter men and there are many women like me who are on the shorter side and like short men.
i've had 2 long term boyfriends that were 5 3 and i'm 5 10... they had personality and both i wanted to dump but they won me over by making me laugh.
On a global scale the average height of men is 5.9 or 175cm and 5.4 or 162 for female. Not sure if people understand the concept of average when there is about 8 billion people in the world almost. That means there a few billions of men and woman that is shorter then the average. And that my dude means there is a a lot of women out there that is short enough to consider you a tall man compared to themselves. So maybe you should change your demographics and look for a shorter woman, there are tons and tons to pick from and they are equally beautiful.
Yea it disability like dwarfism, it's a flaw, men are taller than women in average, so it weird.
I get it. Being short fcking sucks but at the end of the day, we can’t change that, or how the rest of society thinks.
All we can do is become the best version of ourselves and deal with the cards we were dealt.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/KuJMafKvWSI It's understandable that being shorter than average can be challenging, especially in the dating market where height is often perceived as an attractive feature. However, it's important to remember that height is just one aspect of a person's physical appearance and does not define their worth or value as a person. There are many qualities that make people attractive beyond physical appearance, such as personality, intelligence, sense of humor, and kindness. It's also important to focus on building self-confidence and self-esteem, which can be attractive qualities in themselves. While it may be more difficult to find a partner who is attracted to shorter men, it's not impossible. Remember that everyone has their own preferences and attractions, and there are people out there who will appreciate and value you for who you are, regardless of your height.
What do you think is more negative when it comes to dating?
1) Being short
2) Being short + complaining about being short?
Guys your height CAN get dates. Stop thinking about the ones you don't get and concentrate in the ones you can get.
Being tall ain't a relief. You never know whether a woman loves you or your tallness. Its like girls who have big tits never know whether they are loved for real or loved only because of her big boobs.
It’s OK for a guy to be shorter than his lass. Height ain’t a quality, or if it is, a very poor one. If You’re still troubled, go to Indonesia, land of shorties. There are many lasses shorter than You.
I am short.
I don't think about it and never did and never had a problem (that I was aware of).
I want to be with a woman who likes me. It's obvious that I am short so that's the first thing she'd notice and, if she likes me regardless, then it's irrelevant. Then I can consider dating her.
My friend is like 5'5" or 5'6" and the guy can get pretty much get any girl he wants.
He's not even that good looking, he just exudes masculinity and confidence, and makes them laugh. Women fucking love him.
Without his uncanny ability to make seemingly every girl on earth fall head over heels for him, he probably wouldn't get many girls. Your personality and self image are everything. Not your height
What you deliberate over becomes your reality. In other words if you focus on your height it’s going to be the thing you’re drawing attention towards. If you need something to focus on whilst dating focus on entertaining yourself, for example ask your date questions that you think are funny or about topics you’re passionate about.
Well yeah if you are 5"4 going for a tall girl like 5"6 then you will have difficulties it's not impossible. But if you go for a girl 5"4 or shorter then you will have more success. The only problem with short guys is that "being short" is their only personality trait...
Work on personality and ability. Will power can overcome so many things. So if you think that being short is something of an issue realize what people enjoy and respect in people below the surface. Maybe find that in Yourself and work towards being someone who you respect and admire for what’s inside.
My dad is only five feet, six inches and he's had roughly ten long term relationships, the shortest one being roughly two years when he was stationed in 1980s West Germany before the wall fell. Like another user said, try not to let it get to you.
You're lamenting 5' 4"
Karina Lemos is 4' 3"
When life throws you lemons, make some lemonade.
