What’s something you’re scared of in a relationship or friendship?

[Skylarlight]

[jennifer_bloom]

Pregnancy and child birth has always been my biggest marriage fear. I think most women fear abandonment and break up more than all else, but I am not afraid of that, I just try to lower my chances of a break up by maximizing my personality and health.

[ARWINGx1]

2 things that I've realized as of late:

1.
Due to having Asperger's/High-Functioning Autism, communication would be a potential issue. (Such as that whenever my what-if/would-be would have sex, chances are that I'd miss any visual, or audiable clues that my what-if/would-be would try to signal to me, which would be taken as excuses.)

2.
One of my close friends did say that I'm a control freak.
Although she did also say that it is two-sided (as in, my what-if/would-be should have just as much right to treat me the same in return)
Though I'm still worried about being TOO controlling. Which're exacerbated 'cause of the previous issue.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I hate to say it, but abandonment.

I was never that way until my girlfriend killed herself. Being left forever out of nowhere with zero warning is traumatic and causes some major psych issues. One of them is being afraid that any girl I love will somehow do the same.

Consciously, I don't even care, but deep down I'm terrified to fall in love again in fear of being abandoned

[AsaKyo]

Them leaving or finding out they lied during the whole relationship lmao.. or me just fucking it up because I have a tendency to say the dumbest shit

[CaptainOverthink]

Being unsure of if she is really for me. That we might be tested enough as a pair and that we might grow too old before we know for sure. And then we might go ahead with creating a family because of time runnimg out, only to later realize that it was a mistake.

[SolitarySolace]

Cheating. It’s constant. Every relationship I’ve ever had I was cheated on. Even by those who claim to be loyal af. And I’m the one at fault for choosing them women when we chose each other at the beginning of said relationships. Yet men are the ones who cheat more? 🙄 Then I guess there must be more men in the US compared to women.

[Anonymous]

When she actually shows signs of being a good person. Because it's so easy to dismiss most women when they start showing you what they really are. But the good women are so rare that when actually find one it rattles you. Because you want it to work out. And if it doesn't you at the very least don't want to hurt her. Because as I said there are so few of her as is.

[libsaretards]

Trust being broken. Trust is everything to me. Despite having been cheated on, I try to extend trust until a reason comes not to give it. However, once it is gone, so is the relationship/friendship.

[anon1116]

Infidelity. Trust is the most important aspect of a relationship to me and if that trust is broken, it is almost impossible to repair.

[tiajoka]

Plus it means he doesn’t love you or care that he hurts you

[Still-alive]

i have a fear of abandonment still and it comes out in unhealthy ways. getting better at it though

[serious]

Well, I have always been single and I never had friends either. My fear is not related to any of this

[OfMiceandMen]

That I would do something or say something unintentionally that may discourage or disappoint them.

[FilmGuy93]

I’ve had this happen a few times, but I get scared of making friends with someone who it turns out was just sabotaging me

[itsalyssaagain]

Literally same

[FilmGuy93]

@itsalyssaagain it’s always such a shock too. A totally uncalled for betrayal out of left field. People are garbage

[itsalyssaagain]

Yeah totally. I have my guard up so much now. Even though I like the idea of having friends! But oh well

[DizzyDesii]

Them mistaking my “me time” as not ever wanting them around

[FreyaRed]

Figuring out, my negative assumptions about them were wrong.

[TrillXHippy]

Being in a relationship that’s going good and then no longer being in one

[magiusX26]

getting yoo attached as i know i'll atill be around after its eventual end (and yes am reffering to old age as the ending)

[megabamse]

That they will all of the sudden explode and take out the whole town boom

[LovingJo]

Them turning out to not be who you thought they were, all along. 🤦🏻‍♀️😔💔

[itsalyssaagain]

I have social anxiety guys I don’t know what to do about it anymore

[itsalyssaagain]

To everyone saying cheating — I’m so sorry! I used to have anxiety about that too it’s the worst feeling in the world. I healed when I got into a relationship with someone who always showed up emotionally and physically. That way I overcame the cheating anxiety. There are men and women out there who are loyal. Cheaters are scum

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I’m scared of them turning into a mean person because they were faking it

[Emmamcclallen]

Facs

[Sinka]

Jealousy. I hate when people lose trust in you. Trust is the foundation of a relationship/friendship.

[LoveBuggy]

To be unhappy after some time of the relationship.

[nbar99]

In a relationship being cheated on or being left for someone else are definitely my worst fears

[Agape93]

It going very wrong again

[Anonymous]

being cheated on again abused mentally and emotionally strung along manipulated

[Anonymous]

losing sexual attraction, my partner get fat, he flirt with other women, he never give me a ring, he find better woman

[lildkman1090]

Woman finding out I’m tiny and runing away

[Juicyred921]

Being used or lied to

[Emmamcclallen]

Saying something that I will regret.

[KostasKouvalis]

I've been there. More often then I'd like to admit, but I've come to the conclusion that if someone is a TRUE friend, NOTHING you say will ruin your friendship

[exitseven]

Somebody betrays me.

[Freyke]

Them dying. Don't want to go through that again.

[clampfan101]

The possibility of me messing it up.

[SoulmateSeeker1994]

Meeting her family for the first time.

[Nominal]

Boredom, no interest after short time.

[Greenbins]

Her cheating on me

[melanieeeB]

Nothing anymore

[riverrat3]

Boredom

[Emmamcclallen]

I can see that