My parents think that my boyfriend is not good enough for me but he loves me a lot?

[Anonymous]

My parents think that my boyfriend is not good enough for me but he loves me a lot. He even told me to leave him for my parents and not hurt their feelings but I don't want to lose a boy like him who is willing to do everything for me. I can't find someone like him. He is even ready to left his parents for me. He had sacrifices lot and suffers a lot to make my small wishes come true. Sometimes I do feel like he loves me more than my parents do but It doesn't mean they dont love me.. They always say they have high hopes on me and trust me a lot.. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel conflicted about your relationship with your boyfriend and your parents' opinions. It's important to remember that your parents likely have your best interests at heart, and may be concerned about your long-term happiness and well-being.

At the same time, it's important for you to make your own decisions about your relationship and to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. It's possible that your parents may not see all of the positive qualities in your boyfriend that you see, or may have different expectations for what they believe is a good match for you.

It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your parents about your relationship and your feelings for your boyfriend. Try to listen to their concerns and express your own feelings and thoughts in a respectful and calm manner. It's possible that through communication and understanding, you may be able to find a way to bridge the gap and come to a mutual understanding.

Ultimately, the decision of whether to stay with your boyfriend or not is yours to make. It's important to trust your own instincts and to prioritize your own happiness and well-being, while also considering the perspectives and opinions of those who care about you.

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am look as an parents your mom and dad are careful for your future. So that's why they don wanna guy who didn't earn good and can't support you financially.

But i would say try convincing them that give him one chance that he can proove himself.

[Asker]

They are not ready to give a chance

[Vikkrram]

Then it's all upto you what you think?

[Asker]

Just waiting until they accept my opinion

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am i would say it would be really difficult , just say to your boyfriend that go and talk wid your parents. Then might be some ways to get all through this

[Asker]

I scared it might hurt my parents too

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am then either accept your parents proposal or let him go.

[Asker]

Both are difficult for me.

[Vikkrram]

You can't sail on both boats.

[Starla1234]

No offence to your parents, but it’s none of their business really. If this guy makes you really really happy, then you can’t let your parents judgement stand in the way, or you may lose him. They obviously don’t know him as well as you do, so who is to say that they can even make correct assumptions about him? I would sit down and have a good chat with your parents and explain to them that you really like this guys and he makes you happy, and that you aren’t going to leave him. Tell your parents that you hope they can be supportive of the relationship, and if not we’ll that’s their problem. You don’t ever have to ruin the relationship with your parents, but if they choose to, that’s on them.

[ColHathi]

Sounds like either your parents or your boyfriend is in the wrong somehow. I'd side with whoever isn't in the wrong.

Can I ask why your parents don't think he's good enough for you?

[Asker]

Im well educated but he even can't speak proper English and he is getting a quite low sallary and facing troubles to take care of himself.. but I dont care about that Im willing to support him finnancially if he needed. He is not good looking and fat too but Im totally opposite. I just fell for his heart.

[ColHathi]

Right. Yeah, if you're sure about what you just said, then in that situation I'd ignore my parents.

I'm sure this is totally needless to say because he sounds great, but if it's the kind of relationship where the partner is struggling with themselves or a situation that they've gotten themselves into that they can't or won't get out of, I'd say just be careful about how much you sacrifice out of guilt or feeling sorry for him. If he's ever not doing well and can't or won't help himself, and you find yourself unhappy in your relationship, then it can't be helped and might be best to just end it for your own sake.

I'm sure I'm just overthinking it though :) I hope it works out.

[Asker]

Haha i got more confused

[ColHathi]

Shit sorry ^^ What made you more confused? I hope you're not doubting your relationship on account of me

[Asker]

Which decision is better?

[ColHathi]

Well I mean I don't know the guy. He sounds great, but you also said that he's struggling. I think I'd choose him and see where it goes, but don't upend your life to be with him until you know him better. And by that I mean don't throw away your apartment and job and move to a different country :p Just see how it goes. Take it slow. I'm sure it'll be fine

[Asker]

Thats what Im thinking now.

[Jamie05rhs]

What does your heart tell you?

[Asker]

Im confused

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. What are you specifically confused about?

[Asker]

Which side i should go? I can't leave both of them...

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't think you have to leave either of them. Maintain your relationship with your parents, and maintain your relationship with your boyfriend. They will come to love him over time.

[Greenbins]

All parents think this way

[Blues36]

on which subject?

[Asker]

Means?

[Blues36]

what do they think you are not good at

[Blues36]

your friend

[Asker]

Im well educated but he even can't speak proper English and he is getting a quite low sallary and facing troubles to take care of himself.. but I dont care about that Im willing to support him finnancially if he needed. He is not good looking and fat too but Im totally opposite. I just fell for his heart.

[Blues36]

we can talk about it if you want, maybe you can dm me

[Asker]

I can't dm i dont know y..

[Blues36]

are you 1 xper

[Asker]

Yeah

[Blues36]

so can you follow me for now, i will write to you

[Asker]

Done

[Blues36]

Thanks, see you