What would you do if someone says they love you and won’t ever leave you, but you don’t feel the same?

[Pinay_ako]

O k … 😬

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'm not usually on the receiving end of that, so I don't know how to give an answer. But of two old flames I have contact with that I'd even consider getting back with, only one is available, and all she said is: "Sorry for everything. Come and save me."

I wrote back: "If I weren't in the poorhouse right now, I'd already be looking at flights."

She also posted something about Romeo and Juliet, and I told her that her and I currently have more in common with Astrophil and Stella.

I finally hit 40, and have inherited that wanderlust my dad chased all his life. And now, the economy is worse than ever, and everything is going to hell.

Not sure where you are in the Philippines would be interested in refugees if Biden vs Putin goes nuclear.

You, Wilgrace, I don't have many good alternatives anymore. Sunny's not leaving her family, and Florida is as full of psycho women as Michigan.

Why I bury myself in AI experiments. Life is very depressing right now.

[Angelo75]

Usually be honest to the person about it, but in a VERY sensitive and gentle way.
VERY gentle.
Anyone that says that to you, have fully lowered their walls to tell you that. Be responsible with that trust and don't be harsh.
But do let them understand that it wasn't your intention to give that feeling.

AND break further contact. He/She will cry and obsess. But if you don't, you'll be holding the persons heart on a line. That's cruel and it makes you a very bad person.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Leave, it's the best for me. He deserves someone who loves him just as much.

[LovingJo]

Tell them the truth.

[LovingJo]

Thanks for the MHO 😘

[Miristheiss]

I reject the premise. "Won't ever leave you"

Those are just words. No one can promise something like that to begin with. What if they cheat? What if they grow bitter and disrespectful? What if they start going out clubbing and drinking all the time? What if they start doing a multitude of things that break your boundaries or change the dynamic of the relationship?

No one can promise "I will never leave you" That is not a LITERAL thing... it is just something they say to sound sweet and affectionate when they are feeling close to you and in love. No one can really promise that. Maybe a parent can say that about their child.

[ZackBan]

My ex flat out told me she's unable to fall in love with me. She claimed it was to no fault of my own but emotions are a tricky thing. I agreed with that.

Was it sad to lose her without even messing it up myself? Yes.
But ultimately it saved us both a lot of futile effort.

[Jdjfjcjj]

They sound ridiculous but everyone has a point in which they'll leave. It's bullshit talk. Like saying, if you gained 1000 lbs, would I stay with you and they respond I'll always love you and still find you attractive...

This kind of talk is counter productive and when said enough times, the other person might start to test it out and or feel like they can do way better

[mobiusforniner]

Thats infatuation. Puppy love. Love and never leaving aren't coequal, because love necessarily demands sacrifce which sometimes means it isn't all roses.

I fell in love with a woman who was also in love with me. But because of circumstances, we couldn't be, so i let her go, not because i wanted to, but because I genuinely love her and want her to be happy; even if that means helping her forget about me.

[Kudos4U]

I'd add that infatuation doesn't necessarily imply an absence of true love. Sometimes in the moment, the effects of love can distract you from the cause.

[mobiusforniner]

@Kudos4U Sure, but when that love is tested by hardship and pain, will that infatuation still remain?

[RavVid]

IRL I think you have to have permission to love in order to love. That sort of sounds weird but it isn't. Suppose you were madly in love with X. You could offer that love to them but lets say they don't reciprocate those feelings. In the best case you are a doormat who is mildly annoying in demanding time with them. More realistically you will be someone who won't so much never leave you but will not ever leave you alone. It becomes emotional blackmail and the target will reject you.

[Cice238]

If they're my type I won't mind, but every single woman who has ever liked me I have never reciprocated back the same feelings because I didn't like them back. When I like women, they never reciprocate back the same feeling, etc...

[OfMiceandMen]

I would look behind me and hope there is someone I can say... I think she is talking to you and step aside.

Crisis averted...🫡

[Sevenpointfive]

for emma? i'd say i do.

i'd consider the others but it probably wouldn't work out

[ColHathi]

I dunno. Tell them how flattered I am, and try to let them down as easy as I can. I don't think I could be more specific than that.

[dragoblack]

Tell them straight up. Consent is important. Yeah one sided love stings, but one can still care about another, even if it isn't a Romantic relationship.

[AliSulayman]

It sucks. I have the same situation and I feel lost. I’m not happy, yet I’m worried I won't find somebody to love me and cherish me like her.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

If we're together, I'd tell her I love you, too. Technically, I wouldn't be lying but the love wouldn't be the same type.

[Jamie05rhs]

"Nah, that's alright. You can leave if you want. It's fine."

[Twalli]

Tell them you're flattered but you can't say the same to them.

[gag37627]

That's time to runaway. I have heard this few times and they were do toxic and manipulative

[Jerre]

I am not sure. Would depend if I feelings for her.

[Jerre]

Thank you for the Like

[Guardian45]

That's NOT good. You need to shut that down, before it becomes a problem.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That means you should me on if the feeling isn't mutual don't lead them on

[Anonymous]

I say your bad luck then new hunt begin...
Simple.

[Jltakk]

I feel like my MDD and fearful-avoidant attachment style would have me not reciprocate the love and adoration. I have a hard time feeling much of anything in the first place.